Now that all the presents have been opened, the cookies have gone stale and all the decorations have been disassembled, it’s time to start that awful period of reflection…similar to when you try to relive your Saturday nights in order to find your cell phone (or your underwear).

So, while we’re looking back at all the wonderful moments (and the not so wonderful ones, i.e. that time you threw up in your new boyfriend’s bed) here are a few articles that made my year just a smidgen better. I know for a fact after reading them you’ll feel ten thousand times better about all of your not-so-great moments of 2011. Read More »

Allow me to give a glimpse into my personal life—I recently ended a year-long relationship with the Asshole of the Century. (Step aside, Tiger Woods!). However, I said my piece, ended the unhappy relationship and have since moved back into the dating world! I know my Mr. Right is out there somewhere and I am excited to find him. So, rather than sit around thrusting negative energy into the world, I will remain that hopeful romantic who continues to try and see the best in people…including guys. With that said, I’ve got some questions for our dude!

Let’s be honest here, questions.

In my most recent relationship I felt that my passion for learning was always something he resented. Are guys actually threatened by intelligent girls?

After hearing the brutal truth about my ex from a valid source, it was apparent that our sex life was openly discussed without my knowing. Yeah, not okay. How often do dudes discuss their sex lives with friends? Read More »

[I'd just like to first state that I totally realize that not every younger guy is like this, or every girl dating a younger guy will have this experience. It's just something that I personally experienced, and have also seen many, many friends experience. Kudos to the couples like Demi and Ashton who make it work -- that's amazing!] 

A few days before my 23rd birthday, I met an amazing guy (let’s call him Matt). He was cute, had a great job, really liked me and overall just seemed like he had a good head on his shoulders. He was perfect for me, in every way but one — he was 20 years old, making him a good three years younger than me.

However, I’ve never been one to consider age an issue. One of my best friends is four years younger than me, I spent eight months of my senior year hooking up with a guy two years my junior, and I had dated, and been infatuated with a man ten years older than me. Matt’s age wasn’t an issue.

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•How to keep cool without using the AC

•The problem of trying to do friends with benefits

•How to deal when you are wearing the same thing as someone else

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•Are you a Seacrest or a Dunkelman?

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Lesson 31: You May Not Be Better Off Without Him…But You Will Be.

No girl is “better off” heartbroken. And yet when you find yourself newly single attending your first mostly-couples party disappointingly sober, the frenemy you wish was just your enemy drops her not-so-consoling version of a consolation for your breakup – “You’re better off without him,” she says and you cant help but want to punch her.

Too often women tell other women they are better off without the man who they’ve recently split from and every time, I can’t help but wonder if they’d still say that if the man who’d just left me had cured cancer or spent his free time saving baby animals from oil spills. Out of habit we tell our girlfriends that they’re better off without their exes not really considering what a statement like that means.

Good intentions aside, something about hearing “you’re better off without him” never really makes you believe it. Unless your ex was a drug-dealing, lying-and-cheating, animal-hating hoodlum, chances are there were parts of your relationship with him that made you happy. Give yourself some credit by giving him some credit. Hearing the words “you’re better off” feels anything but warm when the guy you’re no longer with is actually an amazing person. Maybe your relationship made you a better person and it seems unfitting that you would take away from all that you cherished in the relationship to give in to this whole “better off without him” theory. Not to mention, you’ve got to wonder if there’s someone out there telling your ex that he’s better off without you.

It’s hard to believe you truly are better off without a guy when you’re spending your first few days post-breakup wearing one of his button-down shirts you refuse to give back, unable to leave the comfort of your bed’s comforter. You don’t have to be “better off” to get over a breakup.

There’s nothing eloquent about a breakup so naturally there’s no eloquent way to describe them – breakups suck, period. We’ll tell ourselves anything and everything to get over them but how much of what we try to believe really makes a difference? Why not instead just accept that you won’t feel better off and that you’ll just have to mourn what used to be for a while? Since not all great relationships have great endings, make your own.

Instead of telling you “you’re better off without him,” your friends (or frenemies) should be telling you “it’ll get better in time.” Focus your post-breakup days on healing as opposed to being “better off.” Don’t burden yourself with the daunting task of trying to ignore that you were ever part of a relationship, that you ever shared your life with a guy who decided he didn’t want to be a part of it anymore. Somehow trying to forget something reminds you of it more so if you miss him, accept it and understand that missing someone, while bothersome, is not enough to put your life on hold.

As flattering as it is to believe the women in our lives when they take our sides, saying we’re better off without the men who left us, that they were no good anyway, is simply illogical. Our exes can be our exes and still be good people and more importantly, we can, in time, learn to live without them. Take the parts you love and miss of the relationship, whether it’s fairly life-changing like a sunnier disposition or something as small as remembering to turn the lights off when you leave a room, and each day make an effort to incorporate them in your newly single life.

Got it? Feel empowered? Good. Now get the first 30 rules of the Single Girl Society

There’s no easy was to breakup with someone. It’s just an innately uncomfortable situation. Inevitably there will be some harsh words and ugly cry faces. Someone will shamefully grovel and plea, either for forgiveness or to be taken back. Maybe a vase will be thrown, a picture frame smashed. And that’s only if things get exciting. Most times you just sit there with someone else not saying much, but miraculously knowing exactly what’s going on anyway.

Well, prepare to have your world rocked, because the art of the breakup has finally been perfected. Some nameless little genius went out and penned himself the letter to end all letters. Take a look above and see for yourself. Did you just read the words “tet-tets” and “crip?” Yes. Yes, you did.

Asysna, how ever could you let this winner go?

So I’m sure by now you’re all completely over the whole royal wedding thing.You’re tired of the wedding plans and the photos and the guest lists and the entire country of England. I get it. But I’m going to bring it up one last time because I just can’t seem to wrap my head around this one concept.

According to Jezebel the prince and his blushing bride will be inviting six of their exes to the wedding. ( 2 of hers. 4 of his). And apparently there’s some sort of etiquette behind this that requires them to do so. But I mean, come on. I know they’re royalty and all and they don’t have much of a choice, but is this something the rest of us are going to have to do as well? I hope not. Because I definitely won’t be inviting my exes anywhere. I don’t even want to see them at the coffee shop never mind at the rehearsal dinner…

This train of thought of course, got me thinking about my own ex encounters, which had me cringing and triumphing  at each one in turn.  And this of course had me thinking about the dos and don’ts of ex-boyfriends, and that, of course, is how you wound up with this list.

Do remove your ex from your Facebook feed. Seeing his obnoxious statuses about babes and beer everyday is not going to help you get over him. The more he pops up on your newsfeed the more you’ll want to head over to his page and stalk him read through his wall. Avoid the temptation and hide him!

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The first time I read this headline, I thought it was referring to celebrity breakup reactions and I’m like “OMG, someone else has clinical troubles when a quality celebrity couple break up“. Then I realized it was referring to your own breakup. Which is probably a lot more useful since most people didn’t call in sick to work when Reese and Ryan called it off. We all know what NOT to do after a breakup (like poop in your ex’s car), it’s not as clear as what you can do.

Intruigued? Here’s the official list.

In the last year, it seems as though being single has been my specialty. While flings and hookups have come and gone (pun intended) and dates have left me with some less than desirable memories, my current single status has remained loyally by my side. I’ve learned a lot in the past year and I’ve discovered that single girls around the world are all in the same fabulous pair of shoes.

So if you’re sick of sitting at a table for one, eating a meal portioned for two, I cordially invite you to join The Single Girl Society, where being single is more than status, it’s a lifestyle. Of course, with everything in life, the single girl lifestyle comes with rules and I’ve picked up quite a few along the way. So kick back, grab a drink and let the lessons I’ve learned serve as your very own roadmap to transitioning to and enduring the single life.

Though we’re all in a full-on finals crunch and the last thing your 5 Hour Energy buzz can handle is another lesson, I promise this is one you’ll actually use after college.

Lesson 2: It’s only romantic the first time you go back.

If you find yourself at a crossroad, where your single life intersects with your ex who wants you back, you should keep in mind that after the first time, going back won’t be considered romantic anymore. Nobody likes the couple that breaks up after every fight and then gets back together just weeks later. Just ask the Jersey Shore kids who’ve had to deal with Sammi and Ronnie for 2 years.

Just to clarify, that means you get one break up and one chance to go back after said breakup; the breakups and make-ups after that are treacherous. Girls who rush back into relationships with the same ex over and over are like the little girl who cried “break up” so many times that after a while, nobody believed her anymore. Her words have lost their value, as even her closest friends doubt her when she says, “Ugh guys, for real this time, I’m so done with him.”

While I believe in second chances, I find it harder to believe in third, fourth and fifty-second chances. Second chances can be like the band-aid of the relationship realm. Some of the strongest couples I know were ones who took a break and got back together. If it weren’t for second chances and girls going back to guys, our favorite romances would not exist and who really wants to imagine a world without The Notebook? Read More »

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