Duke It Out: What Is Cheating?

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[It's pretty obvious that the average CollegeCandy reader has some very strong opinions. Opinions that she likes to share with everyone on the site. We love a strong woman, so we thought we'd give her a real forum to discuss her thoughts, feelings, and perspectives. Every Friday I'll be featuring a hot topic (like coed rommmates!) and leaving it up to you, the readers, to duke it out. So, read it and get your debate on in the comments section below!]

Well, now that group sex is on the menu, it seems like a good time to clarify an age old debate – what is cheating? Some say it’s sex, others say kissing, still others say even thoughts can be cheating, so now it’s time to voice your vote ladies; in a world of committed threesomes, phone sex and the office wife, what really counts as cheating?

We’ve all heard the old “zip code” rule and it’s variants – “it doesn’t count if you’re not in the same zip code/state/country/bedroom” and I for one have never bought into it, but there might be some others that I would at least consider more forgivable. Level of alcohol, for instance, could definitely be a factor, and the same goes for drugs. Anything mind altering at least makes it slightly more reasonable that you didn’t know what you were doing. Read More »

Duke It Out: Forgive a Cheater?

cheating.jpg[It's pretty obvious that the average CollegeCandy reader has some very strong opinions. Opinions that she likes to share with everyone on the site.

We love a strong woman, so we thought we'd give her a real forum to discuss her thoughts, feelings, and perspectives. Every Friday I'll be featuring a hot topic (like strippercising!) and leaving it up to you, the readers, to duke it out. So, read it and get your debate on in the comments section below!]

It’s like having your heart ripped out of your chest and tapped danced on by a sumo wrestler in stilettos – getting cheated on. And as if that’s not bad enough, the horrible feeling of being cheated on often comes along with it’s mustache-twirling evil twin – the repentant cheater – putting you in the awkward position of having to decide an important personal issue while a part of your soul is still being crushed into a fine powder.

Now I don’t condone cheating (if my boyfriend is reading this, don’t even think about it, pal!) but there are actually people who cheat once and would never do it again. Sometimes it’s a stupid thing like partying way too hard and making a bad decision. Other times it’s a stupid thing they choose to do once and realize what a horrible mistake it was. Either way, a lot of these people end up cheating and then finding that they really don’t want to be with anyone but their partner.

But then again, isn’t that always the story? Nobody comes back and says “I’m probably gonna try not to cheat on you again for a while” and expects to be taken back. And the truth is – as begrudgingly as I admit it – some of us just aren’t designed for monogamy. Some people really do feel bad, but go right on doing it anyway (for anyone who’s ever had ice cream for dinner, you know what that’s like). Read More »

Candy Dish: Beer Pong is Dangerous

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We knew it was dirty, but can it be blamed for the rise in oral herpes?!

Get sexy cleavage. Rar.

Get Michelle Obama’s style.

The Bachelor defends his douchey decision.

And the new Bachelorette is revealed. Ooooo!

Usher is not a Chris Brown fan.

Got a lot of friends? You’re gonna be rich!

At Purdue, cheaters never prosper.

Denim jackets are baaaaack.

Hollywood’s most unpleasant celebrities.

Jennifer Aniston is over the Botox.

Cutest wellies ever.

Candy Dish: The Sweet, Sweet Taste of Revenge

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Ideas for getting back at the cheating a$%hole of a boyfriend.

Amy Winehouse: singer, drug addict, and video game star?

Will Jerry Seinfeld get you to buy Microsoft products? Bill Gates seems to think so.

What Britney Spears really sounds like. (Ears. Bleeding. Help.) But that won’t stop Justin from trying to save her career.

Tee hee.

MIT students beat the system, ride transit for free.

Michael Phelps may or may not be single.

Ever wonder what it’s like to be a bikini waxer?

Does this mean I can sue that guy who gave me a UTI?

You could name this iPOD playlist, Va-jay-jams

Say, Mind If I Tell You My Penis Size?

render5.gif Have you ever wanted to know the exact measurement of your guy’s ‘ween, down to the millimeter?

Have you ever overheard two guys bragging about the size of their junk and wish you could help them settle the dispute once and for all?

Well, now you can do both those things.

SizeofaMan.com has just the thing for you and everyone else who just needs to go around measuring penises.

According to it’s designers, the “phallumeasure”, a cylindrical device that reminds me of those beakers I used to pour colored water in during high school science, is “the most accurate way to measure your penis!”

Finally! I was just waiting for the day when I didn’t have to guess, or even worse, lie about my boyfriend’s penis size! I mean, it comes up so often…I was praying that something that could measure something else would be invented! Halleujah! Prayers have been answered!

At $14.95, the “phallumeasure” isn’t expensive, comes with a “final say” guarantee, and claims that it will help stop “cheaters” everywhere, i.e, dudes who find a way to measure their stuff in an inaccurate way. Read More »

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

cheating-couple1.jpgOnce a cheater, always a cheater—isn’t that how it always goes? Well, as a former and fully recovered cheat-aholic herself, I beg to differ.

They say cheaters can’t change, but what do they know and who are they anyway? Certainly not me. The debate has gone round the world about 100x over and frankly, I don’t think I’ve ever heard of any real, solid answers. I’m talking stats and numbers—show me that cheaters can’t change, not just that the world has no faith in ‘em, or should I say “us.”

I was the cheater of all cheaters, I rolled with the worst of ‘em. Breaking hearts left and right, not caring about anyone or anything—I did not give a shit, and I definitely regret it all now. Not so much where if I could take it back I would, because it has molded me as a person today; but I wouldn’t mind a chance to apologize to all those I hurt along the way.

Why do people cheat in the first place? It varies; lack of sexual satisfaction, immaturity, wrong phase in someone’s life (my biggest reason for all of my cheating), too much to drink (another big one for me), and on and on. There really is no one reason or cause. But I can tell you one thing, people stop cheating and change for the better for one reason and one reason only—it’s called love; the true, the real, the mature version of it. Read More »