But allowing your husband to get one? Encouraging and then laughing with him about it afterwards? Telling him how cute it was that he had a hard time finding someone to finally do it?

WTF.

Now, I’m not one of those rabid girlfriends who beats their boyfriend for accidentally checking out the boobs of another woman — hell, I’m not even one of those girls who won’t let her dude go to a strip club — but I really don’t think I’d spend my time convincing my husband to let some other chick give him a handjob for $55 with tip.

My reasoning is less about the possibility of him getting ideas and then cheating (I believe if a guy is gonna cheat he’s gonna cheat, no matter what you say or do), and more about the weirdness of encouraging a husband to seek outside sexual gratification. I mean, if I’m his wife, shouldn’t I be the one providing all the sex acts? Is that what you kind of promise when you get married — that you’re the one who will be giving all the handjobs from now on?

What do you think? If you were married, would you encourage your guy to get a “happy ending”?

Speaking of fantasies, RDJ just admitted to Now Magazine that he used to be a compulsive masturbator!  Which is really pretty strange!  [Our exclamation points are because we don't know how to process this information!]

“I was a compulsive, serial masturbator, but it was the best thing I could have been. I utilized that organ and rode it for everything it was worth.” 

Hmm.   Awkward.  Downy goes on to say this:

“[masturbating] no longer a motivating factor for me. My union with [my wife] is sacred. Almost always, guys want to get laid. They have a girlfriend, they want to f*ck her friend. But I’m not that guy.”

Good to know that he don’t want to eff his wife’s friends.  Also good to know that he believes marriage is sacred.  Weird to know that he used to tug it all the time.

Some people enjoy sharing, I guess.

According to Neuman, the reason men cheat isn’t because they want a hotter piece of ass or even promiscuous sex, the reason they cheat is because their wives have stopped being nice to them. “The majority [of men] said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling under-appreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures,” Neuman is quoted as saying on Oprah.com, “Men are very emotional beings. They just don’t look like that. Or they don’t seem like that. Or they don’t tell you that.”

Even though Neuman said he wrote his book to “empower women,” a lot of people are kind of pissed off with his findings. Even though the good counselor doesn’t come right out and say it’s the wives’ or girlfriends’ fault when their partner strays, saying that men cheat because they don’t feel appreciated is basically saying it’s the wives’ or girlfriends’ fault! Because who doesn’t the husband or boyfriend feel appreciated by? That’s right — his partner.

Before you start yelling about how I’m irrational or judgemental or whatever, I can understand part of what Neuman is talking about; when people feel unfulfilled in a relationship, they tend to start looking for something better. Being treated like crap (or just ignored) for a long time would make anyone fall into a stranger’s arms. But there is such a thing as communication; talking out your problems, going to counseling, asking a partner for more of their time. And then when communication doesn’t work, there is also such a thing as ending the relationship.

So, sorry, I just don’t buy the fact that men cheat because they feel unappreciated and have no way to change it. No one’s backing these dudes in a corner and telling them that cheating is the only way to regain their happiness. If you’re not content with your spouse, work hard and talk it out or break the f*ck up.

A lot of men cheat because society has given them an out — continuously telling them that they’re hot-wired to go after every pair of boobs they see. Maybe men have a different biological make-up that constitutes a higher sex drive, but most people have heard of the word self control. We hold ourselves back when we want to kill our boss or that person who cuts us off on the highway, so I’m pretty sure, if a guy really tried, he could hold back from cheating.

Gary Neuman, and all the other “writers” who want to give men yet another excuse to throw off monogamy, should probably take a second to think about what they’re doing. The more we bitch and moan about why we do bad things, the more stupid and cowardly we look.