Recently, the HuffPo reported on a study done on the elusive g-spot, which concluded that it doesn’t exist. We all know the cultural significance of the g-spot – it leads to rainbows, unicorns and $100 bills squirting from your vag if stimulated properly. There has been a lot of debate over the years as to whether it even exists, since the vast majority of women cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. While on the one hand, the results of this study could comfort some women who are discouraged with the fact that they can’t orgasm solely for vaginal stimulation, it’s not cool for the medical community to diminish the sexual experiences of women.

The g-spot, in my experience, is real. I don’t require any clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, and, in fact, I generally find clitoral stimulation to be totally unappealing. Considering anywhere from 20-40 percent of women can orgasm through intercourse alone, I know I’m not the only one for whom this is the case. The fact that the study actually included data that indicated that there is an erogenous zone inside the vagina, but still reached the conclusion that it doesn’t exist is annoying at best, and pretty troubling at worst. Read More »

I seem to be on a roll with the truth telling lately. First it was semen myths, and then it was the things we believe about sex before we start actually having it. This week is going to be short and sweet (because I’m exhausted from my summer job. Why did no one warn me it was going to be so awful?); I’m going to tackle why size doesn’t matter.

So listen up. Maybe it’s time we all stop hating on the little guys, K?

The top two-thirds of the vagina has no nerve endings. Really. We only have a couple of inches that can feel what’s going on (that’s why you can’t feel a properly inserted tampon). If you’re only going to be feeling 3 inches, what difference would a 5-inch penis or a 9-inch penis make?

“It’s not the size of the boat…” Plenty of well-endowed men have no skill (trust.), and many men with smaller equipment know the right things to do. It’s not fair to generalize either way, really. There are plenty of men who are larger who think that just because they’re big they don’t need to try – well, that’s not the case (trust). And many men who are aware and possibly self-conscious of their smaller penises will try extra-hard to make it that much better (trust). Everyone is different, it’s not just size that determines a good sexual partner (amen).

A big penis is more likely to hurt you than an average sized one. Ripping, tearing and general discomfort are more likely the bigger you go. If you are with a guy who’s on the bigger side – use lube, and lots of it. Read More »

My Roots of Feminism class recently read The Myth of Vaginal Orgasm by Anne Koedt, an essay from 1970 that talks about the idealization of vaginal orgasms when the main source of sexual pleasure for women has been proven to be the clitoris. (She goes much more into depth in her essay about how the “myth of vaginal orgasm” came about, if you want to read it.)

In 2009, we seem to have finally recognized the clitoris as the important sexual organ it is. Any Cosmo article will tell you that many women don’t have vaginal orgasms and clitoral stimulation is an important part of sex.  But despite recognizing the important of the clitoris, our basic, standard sex position remains missionary, one of the worst positions for clitoral stimulation!

Perhaps this is why 75% of women have never had an orgasm from sex; they’re going about it all wrong!

Well, people, it’s time to move past missionary and into the land of pleasure. Out with the boring and in with the orgasmic! Below are some new positions to try out that are sure to bring both you and your partner some serious pleasure.

You can thank me later. Read More »

I want to preface this article by saying I’m sure there are tons of guys out there who know what they’re doing in the bedroom, especially when it comes to using their hands and fingers. I’m sure you’re out there boys and I salute you.

But I have not met you.

There is an epidemic that has got this planet in a chokehold. An epidemic so severe I think Al Gore should take it on as his next big project. He’d sell a lot of tickets to the documentary, and it’d make him real popular with the ladies—not to mention the secret hero of all the dudes.

What is this epidemic, you ask?

Why, it’s the Un-education of the Finger.

We are teaching the men of this world to respect women, give them power, give them love, but what we’re leaving out is the very vital lesson of…female clitoral stimulation.

In all my travels, I have not come across one lad who had any real knowledge of what his initial ‘handiwork’ felt like. I’m sure, if they had known, they would have never let such an atrocity continue. Once one-on-one sex education classes were held, everything turned out fine. But in the beginning? …mechanically horrifying. Read More »