Most people know how much it sucks to break up with a boyfriend. Whether he treated you horribly or the relationship has just run its course, telling your boyfriend adios is not easy. And is usually followed by tears, vodka, long trips to the gym, or some combination of all three.
The only thing harder than a romantic breakup is breaking up with a friend.
How do you tell someone that is your ultimate best friend and gal pal that well, you’re just not that into her anymore?
Breaking things off with a BFF is definitely one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. Bottom line, this best friend just wasn’t really a friend anymore. She’d been flaking out on me, was way too caught up in trivial drama, and was never there when I truly needed her. She would only talk about herself and seemed completely uninterested in any details about my life. She seemed to be oblivious to her behavior and our deteriorating friendship, and I couldn’t remember the last time we’d had a genuine conversation.
Once I came to terms with the issues, I knew that our friendship was going to have to end. And then I noticed how eerily similar the end of a platonic relationship is to that of a romantic one.
The Fighting: We started to fight and bicker about the most insignificant details. Our opinions seemed to be on opposite sides of the spectrum, even though we used to finish each other’s sentences and always be on the same page.
The Little Things I Never Noticed Started to Piss. Me. Off: How did I not realize how petty and ignorant she was before? Did she always talk this much gossip about our friends? If she says the phrase,”I’ve never felt this way before!” about another guy, I will scream.
The Talk: I decided to sit down and have the talk with her. You know, about “us,” how it’s just not working and how I really felt. The talk went well, she promised she’d change and apologized for being a bia. Read More »
We college girls love our morning-after recaps: reviewing the highs and lows (or extreme lows…like slipping on dirty bathroom puddles and falling to the ground) with our closest friends. We laugh, we look at pictures, we wipe last night’s mascara off our faces.
This morning, after a night filled with glamorous Oscar parties, I have to wonder if the celebs are doing the same. Is Kate Winslet sitting in bed flipping through all those selfies she took with her Oscar? Is Dev Patel sipping coffee with Frieda Pinto laughing about that awkward conversation she had with Sean Penn? Is Sophia Loren regretting all that Botox she injected in the limo ride over to the show?
And what do you think Hugh Jackman is up to? (Note: We imagine it doesn’t involve a shirt. Mmmm.) Read More »
So it’s official: you’ve Facebooked your roommate, scheduled your orientation and practiced your “I’m gonna miss you guys!” speech for all your family and friends. You’re either shrieking for joy or curled up in a ball with fear and anxiety.
Don’t worry: It’s perfectly normal to experience all of these mixed emotions before you even make that trip to campus. But no fear! I’m here to give dish out tips not included in the orientation guide or one of those “Tips to Surviving College” books you got as a graduation gift.
1. Orientation: The friendship goldmine! Orientation is a great way to make friends since everyone there is going through that same, “I’m excited about college, but scared sh*tless” phase too. Plus you never know if you’ll meet your next boyfriend or dining hall buddies, so get out there and network, girl! But be warned, everyone you meet there WILL NOT become your new bff. Everyone’s nice at orientation, but everyone begins to show their true colors after a couple of weeks (or drinks) into the semester. This brings me to my next point…
2. Get to know the upperclassmen. They have tons of useful information, plus they tend to be a bit more mature than your freshie counterparts. Read More »
(Note: This pic is from a very old Alloy catalog. One I probably owned and worshiped. Please know that all current catalogs have much cuter clothes.)
I’ll never forget my first Delia’s and Alloy catalog spotting.
My then BFF Shanae pulled them out during our 6th grade Social Studies class as our teacher rambled on about the meaning of Thanksgiving. I was immediately drawn to the glossy catalog of teens wearing bell bottoms and midriff baring tops that my friends and I were dying to get into.
Since that day I’ve a been faithful catalog subscriber to both and will probably remain one until I have kids and start to rethink my hatred against these.
As an avid Delia’s and Alloy shopper, I’m shocked by the large number of college girls that don’t buy from them. Where most of the college girls I know either shop at Bloomingdales or Plato’s Closet, Delia’s and Alloy serve as a happy medium. They both sell quality clothing and each host an awesome online clearance bin (I just bought a $100 dollar fire red peacoat from Delia’s for 40 bucks!).
With so many chic, sexy and comfy options, I don’t understand how college girls aren’t causing mayhem at their local Delia’s store, instead letting all the high schoolers get more bang for their buck. Here I’ve compiled some favorites of mine that are perfect for the college coed. Read More »
Oprah tells us a lot of things. She tells us what books to read, how to lose weight, and what items we “need” for summer. Don’t lie, you all watch Oprah every once in awhile. My roommates and I would schedule our afternoons so that we could make it home from classes or work to all sit around the television at 4pm for an hour of O-goodness.
Well now, she is telling us the five types of friends that every woman should have.
An article on Oprah.com, also posted on CNN.com, describes each kind. I have to say that I actually agree with most of the categories in the article. See what you think. Are there people in your life that would fall under each of these?
The Uplifter: “This woman’s favorite word: yes. You could tell her you’re trading your six-figure income for a career in offtrack betting, and she’d barely pause before yelping ‘Go for it!’ Don’t you need someone who looks past the love handles to notice the extraordinarily gorgeous you?”
Agreed. Every college age girl needs someone who is upbeat and positive in her life to help get through the less thrilling times like break ups, bad grades, and job decisions. Read More »
So in my inbox today, I got a pleasant email informing me that I had been bonked by the martini fairy…Not quite understanding what this was, I read on.
The email listed 12 truths about the drinking habits of college age girls that I found hilarious and sadly, so true.
When girls drink too much…
1.We have absolutely no idea where our purse is.
2.We believe that dancing with our arms overhead and wiggling our butt while yelling “woohoo” is truly the sexiest move around.
3.We’ve suddenly decided that we want to kick someone’s ass and honestly believe we could do it too.
4.In our last bathroom visit, we realize that we now look more like a homeless hooker than the goddess we were just four hours ago.
5.We start crying and telling everyone we love them soooo much.
6.We get extremely excited and jump up and down every time a new song plays because “oh my god! I love this song.”
Why is it such a breaking discovery that college girls know how to party?
I just read an article today entitled, “Females as fond of drinking games as males.” Wow. Thank you, Mr. Scientist for enlightening me. Honestly, what is the obsession with studying what we do in college. It’s like we’re a separate species.
Yes, I’m a girl and I like to do keg stands, drink out of funnels, play beer bong, asshole, kings, shoulders … I am I that fascinating?
According to the article, drinking games have been known as a predominantly male activity. And now girls’ participation in these activities is increasing. Oh boy, that must mean trouble. “In the women playing drinking games was related to more severe negative alcohol-related problems (i.e. missing class, driving under the influence, engaging in unplanned or unprotected sexual activity, etc.) …”
As far as I’m concerned, drinking games are fun and college girls will always play them. Missing class and unplanned hook-ups are part of the whole experience. You just have to know your limit.
Most people know how much it sucks to break up with a boyfriend. Whether he treated you horribly or the relationship has just run its course, telling your boyfriend adios is not easy. And is usually followed by tears, vodka, long trips to the gym, or some combination of all three.
So it’s official: you’ve Facebooked your roommate, scheduled your orientation and practiced your “I’m gonna miss you guys!” speech for all your family and friends. You’re either shrieking for joy or curled up in a ball with fear and anxiety.
So in my inbox today, I got a pleasant email informing me that I had been bonked by the martini fairy…Not quite understanding what this was, I read on.
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