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Dear Tuffy Luv,

I just started dating a boy over the past couple months and everything has been going really well. As of late though, we have started having little arguments mainly over the same thing: he doesn’t like public displays of affection. Like, any. We can’t hold hands in public and even if I haven’t seen him in days, I can’t even kiss him on the cheek.

This wouldn’t be that big of a deal except that he feels completely comfortable breaking this rule at certain times. Every once and awhile, he’ll start a spur-of-the-moment makeout session in public. This only leaves me completely confused. If I ever initiate something, it’s a big problem. But when he does it, there is no problem. He’s also completely comfortable being platonically affectionate with his female friends (hugging or cuddling with them). He can’t seem to make up his mind and I just end up feeling confused and rejected. I don’t know what to do. Any advice?

Sincerely,
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I don’t mean to be a Single Sally Always A Bridesmaid Never A Bride Party Pooper here or anything, but I’ve got to vent.

For as much as I want to see my friends happy and support them when they are in love, I have to admit, there are a couple things about most relationships that really gross me out. Namely? Co-dependency.

It doesn’t take long and I’m sure you have seen it. Your friend starts dating someone new. Soon, that person is all they talk about anymore. They can come out and hang, but only if they bring this new person with them. That wouldn’t be a problem EXCEPT they don’t act exactly naturally around that person. You start to feel alienated and so you try to invite your friend out for some one on one time. Canceled plans start becoming more frequent than they ever were before the ‘significant’ other came into play and you feel guilty for even thinking it…but who the f*ck does your friend think you are?

A freelance for hire friend, perhaps? A…”he’s busy tonight and I’m bored so lets hang out” friend? A…”he really ticked me off and I want to vent” friend?

This isn’t just one of my friends. It’s MANY of my friends all through my history. I suppose an argument could be that I need to come to terms with relationships, but you know what? When I have a boyfriend, I don’t blow my friends off for him! Plans are plans are plans. I keep my word and I expect my friends to as well. I love the fact that the people I care about know that my shoulder is here for them to cry on, but I can’t lie, sometimes I feel a little more than frustrated with those friends who are so easily swayed to the nesting grounds.

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