Congratulations!  You made it through to day 5 of the College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice! The other experts and I had so much fun and hope that you were able to take away and apply some of things you have learned.

The experts have shared a lot with you this week: the importance of smiling, the power of eye contact, the negative affects of texting in public, and the messages your body is sending. And now it’s time to put it all together.

Today’s Challenge:  Get approached and set yourself up for success, with Kira Sabin, The Dating Makeover Coach and creator of TheCollegeCrush.com Read More »

We’re onto day 4 of our College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice and we’re all well on our way to being more approachable!

Just joining us? Welcome! This week the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.) First they challenged you to put on a happy face. Then, it was all about eye contact. Yesterday, they asked you to put away your cell phones.

Today’s Challenge:  Be aware of your body language, with Brittany Chaffee a CollegeCandy writer and the (faboosh) lady behind The College Revolution on The College Crush. Let’s get to it.

As much as I enjoy blabbing my mouth off from time to time, I’ve recently realized (with the help of Ms. Kira Sabin) that I need to pay attention to one of the most important aspects of dating there is: body language.  It’s so easy to close people off with your body.  And the kicker? You don’t even notice you’re doing it! Read More »

It’s day three of our College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice. That means we’re halfway to being more approachable!

For those of you just joining us, this week the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.) First they challenged you to put on a happy face. Yesterday, it was all about eye contact.

Today’s Challenge: Ban PDT (Public Displays of Technology) with Jewels from @techromanceblog and Techromance Tuesday on The College Crush.

Now, let’s be honest for a second. In this day and age, everyone is hyper-connected so it’s become totally normal and expected to be texting and calling and Facebooking no matter where we are and who we’re with. But how are you supposed to apply the basics (smile + eye contact) when you’re constantly looking at your stinkin’ phone?! Read More »

Welcome to day 2 of the College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice: 5 Days to Be More Approachable.

For those of you just joining us, this week the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.) Yesterday, your challenge was to put on a happy face.

Today’s Challenge:  It is all in the eyes!  It is, and Nando (from Nandoism and our Gay BFF on The College Crush) is gonna tell you why.

Now that we’ve got our smiles down it’s time to move on to a big next step: eye contact.  Eye contact with a smile is the easiest way for someone to notice you and know that it is good to make the approach. Remember, if guys think they are going to be shut down, they just won’t go there.  It also exudes mucho confidence.   Read More »

Welcome to the College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice: 5 Days to Be More Approachable. We are beyond excited that you are joining us!

Over the next five days the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.)

Today’s Challenge: Show off your pearly whites, with Kira Sabin – The Dating Makeover Coach.

Everyone assumes the most attractive people get approached, but really it is the most confident and happy. Nothing is more powerful or attractive than a smile. Passersby (and that hottie in your Stats lecture) will wonder why you are so happy and want to find out.   Who doesn’t want to hang out with the people who are having the most fun? Read More »

[The following post was written by dating coach, Kira Sabin, a keg of dating and relationship wisdom. She's been helping people find love for years so we thought we'd tap this keg and see what sort of brilliant advice she has for the CollegeCandy readers. Drink up!]

We’ve all been there.  The guy from Chem who you have been crushin’ on for a bit looks even better 5 drinks in.  You are laughing, flirting and can not believe how much you have in common.  What?!  He likes Taio too? This is clearly destiny!

Flash forward to the next morning.  After realizing that he is not prince charming, just the guy from Chem, you slip out and realize you have to somehow get back to your place. Enter: the walk of shame.

Anyone (who is up that early in the morning) can spot them from a mile away. The signs are obvious: they’re up earlier than anyone should be on a Saturday morning, they’re wearing inappropriate clothes, and they’re still in full (albeit, messy) makeup. And, most telling, they’ve the “I can’t believe I went home with him!  What did I just do?” guilty look on their face. Read More »

[The following post was written by dating coach, Kira Sabin, a keg of dating and relationship wisdom. She's been helping people find love for years so we thought we'd tap this keg and see what sort of brilliant advice she has for the CollegeCandy readers. Drink up, ladies.]

Something happens from the time when we are kids to adults.  We learn that if we want to be successful at a career, buy a house, save for retirement or achieve any major milestone in life we have to work for it.  Yet, when I talk to people about finding “the one,” they want it to happen naturally. Organically. They will “know it when they see it.”

I don’t want to burst any bubbles, but no one is entitled to happiness.  Nor is anyone entitled to a wonderful relationship.  People have to work for it just like their careers or any of the other relationships in our lives like friendships or family.  When you feel you are entitled to something you stop working for it and sit around and wait for it to happen for you.

The good news is everyone can have a healthy and balanced relationship; the hard news is that you have to work for it just like other areas of your life. You’ll have to take chances, step outside your comfort zone, explore, open up and go against your natural human instinct to wait for the movie moment.  Want to stack the odds in your favor?  Do the homework.  Figure out where you are, who is a good match for you and be aware of how you are presenting yourself.

Here are a few other common dating myths you need to consider. Read More »

[The following post was written by dating coach, Kira Sabin, a keg of dating and relationship wisdom. She's been helping people find love for years so we thought we'd tap this keg and see what sort of brilliant advice she has for the CollegeCandy readers. Drink up, ladies.]

Now you know and knowing is half the battle.”-G.I. Joe

When I was in college one of my boyfriends would always quote G. I. Joe to me.  Whenever I said “Well now I know,” he would chime in with Joe’s famous line “and knowing is half the battle.”  I was always thought it was cute because he was cute and it was one of “our things.”

Give me a break, I was smitten.

Now that I am a little older, I realize there was a little genius in that ’80s cartoon.  Even though Joe was talking about skateboarding safety and talking to strangers, the same rule can apply to dating.  As a dating coach, it my job to help my clients figure out the crap that is holding them back from a healthy and happy relationship.  Many times, as they start to realize “the crap,” they can become really overwhelmed by the idea of changing it.  Their crap is the behavior that is holding them back; it is a comfort zone or defense mechanism that they have been doing for years.  Whether it is severe sarcasm that gets guys scratching their heads, an uncontrollable neediness that comes out of nowhere and gets them running or a ticket on the crazy train that starts with you drunk texting at 2 am, it is what you know and changing it isn’t going to happen overnight. But that doesn’t mean changing is impossible. Read More »

Dating is confusing. If it weren’t, we’d all be snuggling up on the couch with our very own Channing Tatum right about now instead of Asking a Dude, watching Tough Love, or keeping Cosmo in business.

Don’t you just wish there was someone out there who could give you all the dating answers and help you navigate the confusing world that is college “dating” (without airing your bizness on a VH1 reality show)?

Well, your prayers have been answered, my lady friends. Meet Kira Sabin, the Stacy London of dating. Kira spends her days giving women the dating makeover they need to help them find love and love themselves along the way. From making over your home (so it’s date friendly) to teaching body language, Kira hones in on what every individual needs to be successful in the world of love so they can find their perfect mate. And she knows what she’s doin!

We didn’t have time for a total dating makeover (we imagine it would take years for this hot mess) but, lucky for us, Kira agreed to sit down and give us a little insight into the wacky world of college dating. And what she told us has already made a world of difference. Read More »

I often put on full makeup to give advice over cappuccino.

Last night a friend called me in a panic at 10:30. She went out with a guy, really liked him and still hadn’t heard from him three days later.

“Should I call him?” She asked.

I spent the next thirty minutes on the phone with her, giving her advice, telling her what I’d do in the situation, helping her regain her sanity. When she was finally at ease, we hung up and I returned to my (then soggy) bowl of cereal and DVR’d episode of The Bachelor.

These calls come often. My friends – single and very un-single – are constantly coming to me for relationship advice. I tend to be brutally honest in all aspects of my life (“Yes, I agree, you are being a bitch”) so people trust my opinions and know that I’ll give it to them straight. They tell me that I always seem to know the right thing to do and never judge them for their less-than-stellar choices (like my friend who made up a Facebook account to stalk the sh*t out of her new guy’s ex girlfriend. Though I did tell her that was a really bad idea…)

The only problem is that I am single. And not just between-relationships single; more like haven’t-had-a-real-relationship-in-three-years-even-though-I’m-trying single. So I have to wonder: Why are people coming to me? Read More »