I’m 10 days deep into a summer fling of the best kind.

Him: A good friend (we’ll call him Fred) I’ve had a thing for, for years. He just got back from studying abroad and the ocean air and warm weather treated him very well.

I kind of thought our first encounter in the bedroom was a one-time occurrence. A tipsy romp between the sheets that was very memorable, but a sexual outlier…that is until it happened again the next night.

And again two nights later.

To the untrained eye, nothing is different. No awkward conversations, no weirdness whatsoever and the sex is nothing short of mind blowing. So where’s the problem?

He is my best friend’s ex-boyfriend. Read More »

Brace yourself, girls. We’re about to talk about Ex’s. Specifically, the stuff they leave behind.

So. The relationship has ended. Maybe just the other day. Maybe last month, even last year, but whatever the time span, one thing is clear—the two of you are done.

As you move through the process of reshaping your life and standing up as a single individual, the question of stuff almost always comes up. Stuff. Their stuff. The stuff they’ve left behind, and more importantly, the stuff they’ve given to you.

The longer the relationship, the more stuff you’ve probably acquired. Jewelry, pictures, mix tapes, love notes, used sweatshirts that smell like him…the list varies and can go on for miles (depending on the deepness of your used-to-be partner’s pockets, or at least his thoughtfulness). Now that he’s not in your life anymore, what should you do with all that stuff?

The answer to this question usually changes depending on how a relationship has ended. If things finished up nice and clean and friendly, part of you might want to keep a few things as mementos of a beautiful part of your life. The expensive things don’t hurt to wear, and hey, they’re nice! Keeping them in your wardrobe is no big deal, and since they were picked out in love, more often than not, they’re some of the best things you own. Read More »