I might be twenty-two years young, but I’ve had my share of relationships, and I’d like to think I’m a pretty decent ex. I don’t harbor bad feelings toward anyone I’ve dated, even the really douchey guys (you know who you are). Sometimes you can manage to be friends with an ex. For example, I’m really good friends with an ex of mine, and it’s not weird at all. And then sometimes there are those exes where you want it to be weird, because maybe they’re a little bit into you still, and you’re not feeling it.

It’s pretty much a guarantee that I can make any situation awkward if I try. What’s that saying? It’s only as awkward as you make it? Well, my friends, I can make it awkward. And so can you! There are a ton of ways to make things awkward with your ex.

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Over the weekend recent divorcee and celebrity J.Lo paid tribute to her past loves during her Connecticut concert. Whilst singing her song “Until It Beats No More”, J.Lo look alike and Diddy, Ben Affleck, and Marc Anthony doppelgangers also took stage. As the singer described to the crowd, “let’s take a trip down memory lane”, she began to cry.

What a loony. This is why even Dr. Phil says no one can be friends with their exs. I’d like to parade my bad boyfriends around a stage too J.Lo, but it’s called social skills and I want you to reevaluate yours. Now I understand being a celebrity gets you a lot of leeway with this rule, I know Taylor Swift and Adele enjoy this privilege, so I shouldn’t be surprised.

But ladies, lets not make this a common pattern. I say we take Samantha from Sex and The City’s approach; “Honey when I’m done with them, I’m done with them.” Some ideas of how to better reflect on an ex include:

Remembering both good and bad times, equally.

The equal is vital. If you get too wrapped up in the good, drunk-crying phone calls get made. But if you get wrapped up in the bad, you end up plastering your most recent ex-boyfriend’s car in CVS-brand maxi pads.  Trust me on this one.

Karma is real.

You don’t want your former talking sh*t about you? So don’t do the same to them! I know it’s hard and in your close-knit group of friends it’s always excused, but just remember that what you put out comes back. So if you spend your entire Halloween telling his frat brothers how small his friend is, expect retaliation.

When in doubt, put on some Beyonce.

I don’t care about your age, your gender or your music taste. When you’re feeling that awkward confusion about an ex; “should I call you to tell you I hate you?” or “am I still in love with you?”,  get to your nearest music source and play a lot of Beyonce. Something spiritual will happen friends, I can’t explain it but just know it will fix everything. Because when does she not?

Whislt you mull over these nuggets of wisdom, here are photos of J.Lo and her famous former flames:

Question?! Ask Tuffy Luv.

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I need help.  Two days ago my boyfriend and I split up.  We had a fight about him disappearing for a while without any explanation.  I was furious because that has happened to me before; in high school I had a long-term boyfriend who one day left school and disappeared without telling me.  I never heard from him again.

Well, this past weekend I was afraid that was happening again and I panicked.  When he finally did get back to me I was furious at him for making me panic like that.  I said things I didn’t mean and then we were over.

He had said he was busy (not strictly true because he had been on the phone and he could have found five seconds to let me know everything was fine). I later found out through talking to our mutual friend that he was upset with me and that was why he hadn’t gotten back to me.  So then I was even more upset with him for not being honest with me.

But here’s the thing: this whole thing is my fault.  The whole time we were together, practically, I didn’t trust anything he told me.  I’ve had relationships in the past, and they all turned out terribly.  I realize that everyone has terrible relationships sometimes, but it seems like everyone I care about lets me down.  I don’t trust anyone.

Understand, it’s not the little things I don’t trust him with.  When he says he’s with friends and stuff, I don’t care. Read More »

Lesson 29: Get Out Of What-Could’ve-Been-Land

There’s a place I’ve been a few too many times, not nearly as sweet as Candyland or as sacred as The Holy Land and though it’s full of wonder it’s not nearly as wonderful as Wonderland. I like to call this place What-Could’ve-Been-Land. With every memory of my ex, I mentally transport myself, each time risking taking up a permanent residence in my love life’s own personal wasteland.

There’s a line between remembering and wondering what could’ve been. A stroll down memory lane, while sometimes painful, is healthy and crucial to learning from your past. Celebrating your anniversary solo a year after the breakup, however, is not healthy. Each time you wonder where you and your ex would be if you’d stayed together, you miss out on the life that’s actually in front of you, the one that doesn’t include your ex. You’re virtually robbing yourself of time better spent living your actual life rather than drifting off to What-Could’ve-Been-Land every time you get the chance.

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Kvetchtion?! Answer: Ask TuffyLuv@collegecandy.com.

Dear Tuffy Luv,

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Find out if you’re overreacting in your relationship.

If you’re on Facebook and haven’t “un-friended” your ex in a fit of rage, then you still have the luxury of knowing when he’s moved on and whom he’s moved on with. We all dread the moment we see an ex (or in my experience my actual boyfriend at the time…yup, true story), tagged in a questionable photo with a new girl, fearing that the dreaded ‘in a relationship’ heart will be the next step.

Of course we secretly hope that this new chica isn’t a Natalie Portman look-alike, but we also hope she isn’t some kind of Ke$ha-inspired hot mess. Because then you have to question everything. Now, your immediate reaction may be to cry because somehow your ex thought this Amy-Winehouse doppleganger had more to offer than you.

But when you actually start to think about it, laughter is probably a better choice. I mean, seriously dude, what were you thinking!? Would you ask the concierge to downgrade your penthouse suite to a closet-size room? Would you ask the flight attendant to bump your first-class seat to coach? Then, Tiger, Tony Parker, Jesse James, and all the skeezy downgraders of the world, why would you prefer a train-wreck over a girl who’s got it together?

After a lot of frustration and hours attempting to “man-alyze” the situation, I have come up with these reasons to explain why guys downgrade. Read More »

It’s the most wonderful time of the year— except for the fact that you’re at the top of Santa’s Naughty List.  Coal definitely isn’t something you put on your wish list this year but we both know you’ll be getting a lot of it.  Luckily it’s not too late to trick Santa into thinking you walk around with a halo on top of your head.  Here are some ways to redeem yourself.

Stay clear of your exes. You’ll be home for the holidays and so will all of the sexy beasts you left heartbroken back in high school.  Sure, you may be a little lonely stuck at home drinking eggnog and watching “Elf” every night with your cat (I know I will be), but that’s no excuse to be a Christmas break booty call.

Don’t be a Grinch. Christmas shopping for family and friends is always fun. Dad gets a nice Hawaiian shirt, Mom gets a cheese grater, your besties get posters of a shirtless Zac Efron, and you get new jeans, a purse, sunglasses…wait, what?!  Don’t be a gift slut.  I know it’s hard to shop solely for other people with all of the good deals out there, but try to limit the things you buy for yourself.  Plus, if you get everything you want before Christmas, what’s everyone else going to get you?  A freakin’ Shake Weight? Read More »

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Rarrrr!

All of the CollegeCandy writers are strong, smart and…er…opinionated people. So we’re not surprised when some of our blogs turn into heated battlegrounds.  But unlike some other sites, we don’t let this scare us.  In fact, we take pride in our super-opinionated writers AND readers. After all, that’s the whole point of CollegeCandy — a place where every college girl gets her voice heard.

So to honor those voices and give you, our opinionated readers, a chance to raise yours once more, we’re bringing you the 15 most controversial CollegeCandy posts of all time. (Well, besides our most recent commentary on Demi Lovato. That wound’s still fresh.)

Break out the claws, ladies!

1. Trying To Understand The Curvy Girl Backlash
By CC Staff
Actually a response to a previous post’s backlash, this post tackled the body image debate that is getting everyone’s panties in a bunch.  The point is raised that va-va-voom celebs like Salma Hayek and Beyonce do not belong in the same category as other women who are a little bigger, like Nikki Blonsky.

2. Taylor Swift Is Really, Super, Totally Overrated
By Lauren
Let’s face it, the girl’s voice is pretty forgettable.  Sure, she’s adorable and wholesome, but why does there have to be a full-on riot every time someone utters a less-than-glowing word against T. Swift?

3. Should I Feel Guilty That I Can Afford An Unpaid Internship?
By: CC Staff
Unpaid internships are kind of the best (and only) way to get your foot in the door for so many careers these days, so why should any of us feel guilty if we have to ask our parents for financial help while we work hard to ensure a future career? Read More »