It’s really difficult to be friends with your ex. It’s even more difficult when you had a nasty breakup. Now imagine that nasty breakup inspired a record breaking album…say Adele’s 21. I love this fierce ginger Brit. I rock out to “Set Fire To The Rain” in the shower and throw on “Someone Like You” while I eat a pint of Chunky Monkey. She created an amazing “eff you” album that empowered women to say goodbye to that loser in your life and move on.

Well, Miss Adele has had a little setback and decided to befriend the ex that served as her muse for 21. While we don’t know what went wrong in their relationship and why the breakup was so bad, we do know that it must have been pretty significant to write an entire album dedicated to it. Adele told UK’s The Independent, “We’re becoming friends again. It’s alright, I know what I’m doing. Enough time has gone by. Now with what’s going on with the album around the world, it’s important to be able to share it with him because it’s marvelous what has happened. He changed my life, I can’t deny that. The album helped me get over splitting up with my boyfriend. It helped me forgive and I hope that he has forgiven himself. I’m not boastful but selling 10 million albums for a little girl from Tottenham, I’m very proud of that.”

As someone who has become friends with several exes that I should have stayed away from, I feel that Adele is taking several steps backwards. It’s one thing to forgive your ex in your own heart and mind, but it’s another to make them aware of it. I’ve forgiven this guy after nearly four years, but we’re not friends. I’ve forgiven another ex for being verbally and emotionally abusive, but we’re not friends either. I’m friends with a few guys I “dated,” not with those I had significant relationships with. And especially not with those I had bad breakups with. Read More »

Closure. What does that term actually mean?

From conversations with my girl friends, I’ve deduced that “closure” is when you can finally move on from a failed relationship. My friends have described it as the feeling you get once you can finally put the relationship behind you and say goodbye to an ex for good.

But how do we get there? When does that come? And how do we know? Does closure really mean we have to say goodbye to move on? Does it imply that women must kick someone out of their lives to move on with their own?

Well if so, I’m screwed.

My ex-boyfriend and I have been broken up for years and he is still a sporadic fixture in my life. I met him in elementary school, fell in love with him when I was 16, and now I’m 21 and he is still around. He’s faded into the background a bit, but he’s most definitely still in the picture.

And despite having him around, I am honestly, 100% over him. After a few years of messy friendship and the occasionally stupid hook-up, I finally got over it (hallelujah!) and moved on. I slowly but surely pulled myself together and was happy being single and on my own. After that, I dated and even fell in love again. Read More »

I mean, I love Facebook. Seriously. Facebook allows me to keep in touch with old friends. It tells me when people I know marginally add pictures of their nights out. It lets me see who all my exboyfriends are dating.

Which brings me to #1:

1) It lets me see who all my exboyfriends are dating.

I really, really don’t want to know.

Which probably means I should delete them as friends, or at least use that spiffy little thing that lets you control who you don’t want to see on your newsfeed. But I, quite frankly, do not posess the willpower.

Oh well. The more you know. And crap.

2) Lil Green Patch.

Lil freakin’ Green Patch! Read More »