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Dear Tuffy Luv,

I’m a college sophomore – and I have yet to have my first kiss. It’s not that I’ve never had guys show interest, they just never seem to be the guy I am interested in. Not to toot my own horn, but I think I am a reasonably attractive, funny, smart person, and I have seen way less attractive, stranger people have relationships or frequently talk about the people they hooked-up with over the weekend.

I’ve never been one to take initiative on asking someone out – I have an extreme fear of rejection. I also tend to be self-conscious about chatting up guys at parties. I’m always worried about wasting their time, or if they really want to be talking to me so I end up being sort of awkward. I also tend to crush on guys that I think are out of my league. My lack of experience is getting to an embarrassing point, and I don’t know what to do! Help me, Tuffy Luv, you are my only hope.

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Question for our dear friend Tuffinski?! Email her at TuffyLuv@collegecandy.com and just maybs, just maybs, get a response.

Dear Tuffy Love,

I have a major crush on my RA. I know it’s wrong and the chances of something happening are almost zero, but I can’t seem to get rid of these feelings. He is super hot and funny and sweet and sooo cool. The problem is (other than the fact that he’s my RA) that he’s a senior and I’m only a freshman. I don’t know what to do. I’m torn between acting on my feelings and pretending they don’t exist.

I have a huge fear of rejection and I’m afraid of getting hurt and awkwardness. But it’s come to the point where I want to do something. I want to know if he feels the same way even a little. But I don’t even know how to go about approaching him about it. What if he doesn’t feel the same way? He does seem to give me preferential treatment over the other residents, but that could mean nothing. Help!

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