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My roommate recently told me a story. It was a bit graphic in nature, so I won’t share the dirty details here, but it involved her, her boyfriend, and an orgasm so intense she actually experienced female ejaculation. Yeah, maybe we share a little too much information.

I was intrigued. (And slightly interested in borrowing that BF for myself…)

Female ejaculation is an elusive experience held by many men to be the epitome of female orgasm. Why? Because it’s viewed as proof of an orgasm, a job well done. Women don’t have to worry about whether our partner enjoyed himself or not – there’s something sticky to prove it. But men aren’t as lucky; most of us can convincingly fake an orgasm if need be, and men realize this.

Squirting, or female ejaculation, however, can’t be faked. It is also something new and exciting and who doesn’t want to experience a new level of physical pleasure?

As enticing as it may be, female ejaculation is still an experience most us only hear stories about or see in porn…or Sex and The City. There’s debate about whether it even exists. I don’t doubt it exists, but my question is how, how often, and for whom? In my entire internet search, I couldn’t find one trustworthy medical site with an article on female ejaculation. The best I could do was livestrong.org (weird, I know), which says:

“Female ejaculation is thought to be a release of fluid from the Skene’s glands… The Skene’s gland is similar to the prostate gland in guys. It produces a fluid that is similar to the chemical composition of prostatic fluid, the fluid that makes up the majority of semen. Some women may produce greater amounts of fluid from these glands than others, which explains why some women release a large amount of fluid during an orgasm while others do not… Not all women have the capability of ejaculating and those who do cannot each time they have intercourse. It is also not something that takes place every time a female experiences an orgasm.”

Great. So not only is the information hard to find, but the news isn’t so great, either. Some of us can do it and some of us cannot? Those of us who can do it can’t do it every time? And there is no way of knowing how to make it happen?!

Despite the lack of scientific information, however, there are an abundance of first-hand accounts (like this one). There are also guides like this one, claiming that any woman can learn how to ejaculate. But I’m skeptical; I’ve had plenty of g-spot stimulation in my life and never felt like I might explode. I have, however, had plenty of insanely intense orgasms. And that’s gonna have to be good enough for now.

GOOD Advice Men Get: The Female Orgasm

Kelly — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:00:30 +0000

While searching for bad advice articles for this week’s column, I came (teehee) across one article that I loved so much I had to share it with all of you. The article is about female orgasm and it packages some of the best sex advice men can get into a relatively short and easy-to-read article. While this article gives me hope that guys might be learning something out there in the big world of men’s mags, it also worries me that those same guys will internalize everything they catch on these sites.

But, what can I do about it? If dudes are learning how to please a lady, who am I to argue?
Ladies, read this article with your partner!!

This Week’s Article: 10 Lessons About The Female Orgasm by Men’s Health.

Some highlights:

Men’s Health Says:“Just as you’re concerned about lasting longer, many women are so self-conscious about taking too long that they end up faking orgasm or deciding to go without.”
I Say: YES! This is one of my biggest insecurities during sex, but I didn’t realize it was so common!

Men’s Health Says: “Talent—more than rugged good looks or a chiseled midsection—is a powerful aphrodisiac, according to research by my colleagues at The Kinsey Institute.”
I Say: This is so true. A passionate, talented man is SO much more attractive to me than a blonde model-boy.

Men’s Health Says: “During foreplay, gently brush the tops, bottoms, and sides of her breasts; these areas are actually more sensitive than an unaroused areola and nipple.“
I Say: I HATE when boys go straight to the nipples and start pinching and twisting. I’m not a radio that needs tuning! Please, focus on the entire boob. Both of them!

Men’s Health Says: “Lie next to her, lightly bracing the heel of one hand just above her clitoris. Now run your ring and middle fingers along the length of her outer lips. Graze the skin at first, adding pressure as the tension builds. Cup the area around her clitoris with your palm to add indirect stimulation—most women are too sensitive to receive direct contact early on…”
I Say: Yes, yes, and yes…

Men’s Health Says: “We love it when you try new things, and it’s important to vary your technique, but once you’ve found a winner, stick with it until she crosses the finish line.”
I Say: There is nothing more frustrating then being RIGHT THERE and having you change the rhythm or angle and losing it completely. Of course guys only have the best intentions, but if the lady is enjoying herself it’s always good to stick with what works until we initiate a change.

Men’s Health Says: “A woman’s orgasm threshold drops after her first one, so it’s often easier to bring her to climax through penetration after she’s already had one. How does that sound for an encore?”
I Say: I didn’t know this but I’m glad I do now. Bring on the multiples!

There are even more great tips in the article, so get your ass over to Men’s Health and read it!

Do you ladies have any more suggestions for pleasing a woman in bed?

MMMM, The Orgasmic Diet

CC Staff — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 17:11:17 +0000

The female orgasm is a complex, complicated, mysterious wonder. This we all know, and know all too well.

But sometimes the idea of taking chemically-induced substances to bring these babies out (orgasms, not actual babies) just doesn’t sit well. And with the new trend in going organic and au-natural, why not try out a diet plan that promises to get you off in a better and faster way?

The New York Daily News reports the Orgasmic Diet by Marrena Lindberg.

Ok, so the diet wants you to eat dark chocolate every day, take LOTS of fish oil supplements (which increases blood flow) and cut down on carbs. Not bad. You’ll probably lose weight while boosting your libido. But, you have to give up coffee. Yikes.

The NY Daily News journalist who wrote the article was bold enough to try the diet out and give her own account first hand. She wrote:

“…keen to discover the New and Improved Libidinous Me, I stuck to the rest of the diet as best I could for three weeks. With growing excitement I waited for the wakeup call to my senses, the hormonal reveille.

Any minute now the air would crackle with sexual heat, like a fuse burning toward a bomb. I was going to discover in myself a passion so fiery that not even that daredevil oil-well capper Red Adair could quench it.

When that Big O came, I felt sure I’d cry out with such intense ecstasy that my neighbors would be confused whether it was an orgasm or demonic possession. My partner wouldn’t know whether to offer a postcoital cigarette or an exorcist.

So, what happened? Did the yeti come in from the cold? Did I discover the zip code of the Bermuda Triangle?

Yes! Yes! Yessss!!!

But was it due to the diet? Or the fact that eating less dessert and sugar means losing weight, and if you feel better about your body, you’re more inclined to want to show it off naked and be more confident when doing so. The more confident you are, the more relaxed you are…”

Good point. It may actually be physical, but it could very likely be psychological. If you go on this diet, you will undoubtedly lose weight, feel better about your body and lifestyle, more cleansed and sexified, and, in turn, you will be more aroused in bed. Whatever. It’s a win-win situation no matter what, so I say give the diet a shot.

And not to outdo this new sense of female power and orgasmic ability, this article ends on a frustrating note, by not failing to mention yet another reason why guys basically suck.

“Globally, twice as many men as women regularly have orgasms, the Durex Sexual Wellness Global Survey found.“

Damn boys. Always be stealin’ the spotlight.