• Being Sexy Is Not An Obligation [Sexy Time]

    Being Sexy Is Not An Obligation [Sexy Time]

    It’s undeniable that society places a lot of value on women being sexually desirable. It’s why when you watch TV shows whose viewers are largely female, you’re inundated with Victoria’s Secret and cosmetics commercials.

  • Dropping The Double-Standard [Sex in the News]

    Dropping The Double-Standard [Sex in the News]

    College students are finally making strides towards dropping the double standard towards promiscuity. Research presented at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association showed findings from a survey of 19,000 students from 22 colleges. According to the survey, men and women are judging both sexes more equally for their sexual behavior.

  • Sexy Time: It Takes Two to Tango

    Sexy Time: It Takes Two to Tango

    There was an oh-so-charming piece published in Esquire last week written by a gentleman who is fed up with all the mediocre sex he’s having. Despite the fact that sex requires (at least) two participants, he put the onus of his inadequate sex life on his partners. Because there’s nothing sexier than a dude who refuses to take any responsibility. Am I right, ladies?

  • Sexy Time: What is Empowerment?

    Sexy Time: What is Empowerment?

    Whether it’s in the form of Rihanna singing about how whips and chains excite her, Chelsea Handler writing a memoir about one night stands or regular girls blogging explicitly about their sex lives, ladies are definitely not afraid to be open about their sexual proclivities. I’m a firm supporter of being open about sex, breaking taboos and refraining from treating sex like it’s something grimy and shameful. However, sometimes I wonder how much of this openness is actually about finding empowerment.

  • Sexy Time: The Burden of Sexiness

    Sexy Time: The Burden of Sexiness

    I know that in my own experience, I find myself constantly thinking of ways to improve my sex life. Even though I’m content, and I know my boyfriend is content, I am always looking for ways to surprise him (ie: what new and exciting place can I give him a BJ?). I choreograph strip teases, write him erotic stories, strategically pick out sexy underwear, surprise sext him, work on my flexibility, and also engage in a few sexy acts that I derive absolutely no enjoyment from (tit-f*cking is the worst, oh god).

  • So You Thought You Were A Lesbian

    So You Thought You Were A Lesbian

    You’ve crushed on men, you’ve been attracted to men, you’ve dated men and had relationships with men…there’s was never a question: you dug dudes. End of story. But then say one day you meet someone who is just so generous toward you. Someone who seems to care so greatly about you, who you care about in return. And that someone is a woman.

  • Hoes, Whores, and Double-Standards

    Hoes, Whores, and Double-Standards

    In the words of Salt N Pepa, “the difference between a hooker and a ho ain’t nothin&…