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Oct 26, 2012

Responding to Lena Dunham’s Video About Her First Time…Voting

The video honestly was a better argument for why Obama is a great human being... less about why he would make the best presidential candidate.

Feb 8, 2011

He Said/She Said: Swiping the V-Card

I was with my boyfriend for three months the first time sex (and, simultaneously, something else, if you know what I'm sayin'....) presented itself. It was his birthday, we were in his bed, neither of us were wearing clothes, and after an hour of a whole lot of other stuff, I was ready for it. And it was my first time.

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Sep 2, 2010

Sexy Time: The First Time

I still remember the date I had sex for the first time. It was July 16th, and I was 16 years old. It’s odd that I remember the date, I realize, especially because it wasn’t any kind of mind-blowing experience. Looking back now, 16 seems really young – but it worked for me because I was ready.

May 25, 2010

Tuffy Luv Sez: Virginity Ain’t Baddy Baddy

Dear Tuffy Luv, Let me just say it: I am a 21-year-old-virgin. And let me also say, it's really starting to bother me. I am not some crazy, anti-social person, it just hasn't happened for me. I am very open-minded and consider myself to be adventurous. For my first time, I want to be with something that I really care about, not just some random guy.

Jan 26, 2010

Tuffy Luv Tawks Seks

Dear Tuffy Luv, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and we are just crazy about each other, but we are still virgins. We were originally saving our virginity for religious/moral reasons, but we both changed our minds on that and want to have intercourse now. However, we each live in our parents' homes and his family is super-religious.

Nov 12, 2009

Losing Your Virginity: The Play By Play

Losing your virginity is huge. It’s been built up since the birds and the bees talk, and everyone you know gives you a different description of what it’s actually going to be like.

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Nov 12, 2009

The Doctor Is In: I’m Afraid Of Sex

Q: I don’t really know how to ask this so I’ll just get right to it. I’m still a virgin and I’m the only one left in my group. All my girl friends lost their virginity this year and have been telling me how much it hurt. Now I’m scared! Is it really that bad? And is there anything I can do to....prepare? Or should I just buy some cats now and grow old as a single, virgin spinster?

The Doctor Is In: Does He Have to Know?

Q: I am still a virgin. It’s not because I’m religious or anything – I just haven’t met the right person. The only thing is that I’m finally ready to sleep with this guy, but I don’t know if I should tell him or not? Guys seem to get pretty freaked out about that kind of stuff. Is it possible to just do it and not tell him?

Aug 6, 2009

Tuffy Luv Benefits A Friend

Dear Tuffy Luv, So for the past two months I've been hooking up with a friend of mine. We hang out most nights a week, though sometimes we hang out with other friends too so we don't hook up then. And sometimes we hang out and do other stuff instead of hooking up. That has been happening more and more lately, and in situations where we could be hooking up, and it's kind of been frustrating me.

Jun 23, 2009

He Said/She Said: Swiping Your V-Card

I waited a long time to swipe my coveted V-card. It wasn't like I was waiting for my Prince Charming - more like I was waiting for the right opportunity. The right guy. The right comfort level. I wanted it to be something I could look back on down the road without regrets.

May 20, 2009

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May 10, 2009

The Morning After Recap: Awkward from Day 1

I will admit it, I’m an awkward girl. I’ll say goodbye to someone and then walk in the same direction as them with a stupid grin on my face. I’ve messed up high fives more times than should be legally allowed. I’ve called my roommates good friend (whom I’ve known for months) “Tyler,” when his name is “Lucas”...HOW DO YOU MESS THAT UP?

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Mar 17, 2009

Tuffy Luv Sez, Don’t Do It If You Can’t Say It

Question for Tuffy? Email her at to be featured in her column, which used to run every other Tuesday,...

Jan 13, 2009

The V-Card: All It’s Cracked Up to Be?

Remember the days when a chaste woman wore a white wedding gown and saved herself for the honeymoon? Me neither....

Dec 30, 2008

Pillow Talk with Diana: “Should I Tell Him I’m a Virgin?”

Q: I’m a 23-year-old single girl. The other week, I met a great guy, and we had an amazing first...

Dec 23, 2008

Tuffy Luv Recommends Sex Books

Wanna ask the Tuffster a question, any question? Email her at to be featured in her bi-weekly column, every...

Nov 4, 2008

On Chesil Beach: What NOT To Do Your First Time

I just read the beautifully written (but also mortifying) novella by Ian McKewan, On Chesil Beach. It’s a lovely little...

Nov 4, 2008

Gossip Girl Recap: “I Read About You on Gossip Girl – You’re Like, the Devil”

So, after last week’s steamy, scream-at-the-tv episode, it’s only fair to give the GG writers a break this week. Sure,...

Oct 26, 2008

Awkward Firsts: Losing Your Virginity Isn’t Always Fun

Some women get to have the dreamy, stereotypical first time. The love of your life surprises you with a romantic...

Mar 28, 2008

I Never Said “Yes”

I know a lot of people who are terrified of sex. I can’t entirely blame them, really. For something that’s...

Feb 26, 2008

My First Time….at the Gyno

When my doctor recommended I get my first gynecological exam at 18, I freaked out. I had spent the entirety...

Aug 21, 2007

Daily Dose of Awkward: Girl Sets House Aflame While Trying to Lose Virginity

Remember your first time? Whether it was awesome or clumsy or downright awkward, most of us at least tried to...