We’re all well aware of the friends every girl needs, but what about the friends nobody wants? Is there anything more annoying than having to avoid a friend that you hate? It’s like, “stop calling me every day and messaging me on Facebook all the time and showing up in my bedroom when I’m sleeping.”

No matter how mean you are or how many times you send out restraining orders, these are the friends that keep clawing their way back into our lives. Read More »

[Got a Dude itch you just can’t scratch? Sick of getting the pity-eyes as you sift through the Self-Help section at your campus bookstore? Over wondering what those boys are thinking?  We got your back, girlfriend. Send your question over to askthedude@collegecandy.com. The Dude won’t sugarcoat it, beat around the bush, or any other weird cliche that means lie to you. Like a nice, juicy hot dog, he’ll be 100% real beef, 100% of the time.  So bring it on, ladies.]

Heyya Dude,
My problem is that I’ve had a crush on this guy for about a year (I met him last June). The crush began because not only is he smart and funny but he would constantly say how beautiful I was and be very flirty. He then asked me to go to a concert with him while he was still dating this chick. I didn’t think anything of it because I got to know the girl and assumed he told her. This happened in August. Flash forward to December, he and this girl break up. At a Christmas party he and I eventually talk and I admit I am attracted to him. He then starts saying, verbatim, “I think you’re so beautiful and when I see you it takes everything in me to not grab you and kiss you.” He kisses me, then says “When I was with [girlfriend] I would think of you and when we broke up you were the first person I thought of. I want to be with you, but not now. I know what I’ve done in the past and you mean more to me then to just take you home and f**k. I respect you and adore you too much to waste you now. I want to come back to you.”

I then just nodded, said it’s fine, I understand, etc. I went for vacation till New Years when we ran each other again at a party. Long story short, I see him make out with another girl. A few days later at my birthday at a bar he is flirty again to me and puts his arms around me from behind. He is acting so lovey dovey that a few friends ask me if I’ve been keeping anything from them because it appears that this guy and I are much more. I end up talking to him and telling him he needs to stop because I saw him kiss that girl. He says she doesn’t mean anything and is just fun since he broke up with his ex. Since then he has come up behind me to hug me, kissed my neck, whispered sweet things in my ear, obviously checking me out, etc. I learned a few weeks ago he just started dating a new chick. I was upset because I have kind of been waiting for him (I know this is dumb). At a party 5 days ago we end up talking like friends about his new lady. He tells me she is being very possessive, doesn’t give him that “fluttering feeling,” and he thinks he wants to end things with her. Needless to say I am officially back to waiting. Read More »

[In early adulthood there is an activity that plays a large role in most of our lives; nights out on the town. And with those nights out always comes the question: “What am I gonna wear?!?” Each week I’ll be putting together a cute and affordable “going out” ensemble guide (that you can tweak to your own personal style and body type, of course) so that maybe that age-old question can be answered a little quicker than usual. And your friends aren't waiting - for hours - for you to emerge from your room.]

So the weather’s colder and we’ve said good-bye to the sexy tanks and sandals of summer, but that doesn’t mean you can’t look sexy & flirty, while still keeping cozy. A perfect fall solution is to pair up those sassy summer dresses with a funky pair of tights and a cute and flirty jacket. You won’t be miserable freezing your bootie off as you bar hop, and I can bet you’ll still be turnin’ heads.

I love this dress from Forever 21 and it’s only $22.80. It’s basic enough that you can wear it multiple times in a plethora of ways. Add a belt, wear different kinds of tights and/or shoes, put on a blazer; all of these things will mix it up and give you a new outfit. Of course, you can find basic cocktail dresses all over the place, so find what suits you and go with that, just make it as basic as possible so you can dress it up with accessories without going overboard. Read More »

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Dear Tuffy Luv,

I recently ran into a boy i used to (and still) have a crush on, but don’t know too well. We had a really great, long, kind of flirty conversation but he eventually revealed that he’s had the same girlfriend since high school.

When the topic of relationships came up, he started talking about a serious problem he has with his girlfriend. It seemed odd, considering we aren’t really close and I don’t even know her… then he gave me his number and told me to call him if I was around this summer.

Granted, I am pretty easy to talk to, but does the fact that he brought up his relationship problems to me mean something? Or is he just so secure with the relationship that it feels comfortable to talk about it to whoever? Maybe he’s the kind of guy who stays in a relationship because it feels safe, and needs another girl to get him out of it? I’m confused!

thanks,

anna

Dear Anna,

Run from this douchebag as fast as your cute little legs will take you. Read More »

There’s a new report out there saying that when it comes to “flirty text messaging”, guys reply to a text from “their crush” usually within a hour, while girls wait an average of 1 hour, 19 minutes.

Even though this report comes to us from across the pond, I can totally see those numbers making sense in America as well. Why do women wait longer to reply to texts or missed calls from their crush?

Because we don’t want to seem clingy and desperate.

Society has done a number on us when it comes to our supposed frantic need for a man in our lives. The worst kind of women, magazines and TV shows and movies explain, is the desperate woman.

The girl who’s too eager to fall in love. The chick who’s all too happy to adhere herself to her new man and never let go. The woman who cluthes her cell phone to her chest, checking it every couple of seconds to see if her guy has called, ready to fill his screen with smiley faces and exclamation points.

Therefore, we have this equation:

Replying too fast to a call or text = desperate, desperate = bad, so replying too quickly to even the friendliest of texts?

You got it. Bad. Read More »