What the eff happened to summer and how are we already ending our second week of July? Just last week I was wearing my sombrero and making margaritas and now I’m ordering plane tickets to go back to school. Wasn’t it just yesterday I was joyously throwing all my used-up notebooks away and planning my summer reading list? Oh wait, no, that was 2 months ago!

I guess that whole “time flies when you’re having fun” thing really is true, because between the Justin Bieber concert and the 4th of July, this week flew on by. Let’s reflect:

- Remember that little kid from Sixth Sense? Or the boys from Boy Meets World? What the hell happened to them? We get the low-down on the cuties of the 90′s. Newsflash: they’re not such cuties anymore.

- Are you a Diet Coke fanatic? We are. Oh sweet nectar of the Gods.

- It seems like everyone has fallen in love with Bethenny Frankel from The Real Housewives of New York City. Yes, when we grow up, we all want to be Bethenny.

- Should you get implants? The Dude weighs in.

- Dating is tough, especially when you don’t want to come off as the clingy girl. So should you be channeling your inner G.I Joe? Helmets on, ladies. Read More »

[The following post was written by dating coach, Kira Sabin, a keg of dating and relationship wisdom. She's been helping people find love for years so we thought we'd tap this keg and see what sort of brilliant advice she has for the CollegeCandy readers. Drink up, ladies.]

Now you know and knowing is half the battle.”-G.I. Joe

When I was in college one of my boyfriends would always quote G. I. Joe to me.  Whenever I said “Well now I know,” he would chime in with Joe’s famous line “and knowing is half the battle.”  I was always thought it was cute because he was cute and it was one of “our things.”

Give me a break, I was smitten.

Now that I am a little older, I realize there was a little genius in that ’80s cartoon.  Even though Joe was talking about skateboarding safety and talking to strangers, the same rule can apply to dating.  As a dating coach, it my job to help my clients figure out the crap that is holding them back from a healthy and happy relationship.  Many times, as they start to realize “the crap,” they can become really overwhelmed by the idea of changing it.  Their crap is the behavior that is holding them back; it is a comfort zone or defense mechanism that they have been doing for years.  Whether it is severe sarcasm that gets guys scratching their heads, an uncontrollable neediness that comes out of nowhere and gets them running or a ticket on the crazy train that starts with you drunk texting at 2 am, it is what you know and changing it isn’t going to happen overnight. But that doesn’t mean changing is impossible. Read More »

She makes me look like the Virgin Mary.

Miley Cyrus has some slutty sisters.

Hey there, Ryan Gosling. Come to mama.

Lady language decoded.

Who is this Alexa Chung chica?

Whoa, Britney’s lookin’ good!

So you’re in a relationship and stuff is going swell. He likes you and you like him and you’re both mad busy but making it work and it’s smiles all around. He met your friends and they all loved him because he’s got adorable dimples or a great fashion sense or a lovable demeanor. Now, it’s time to meet his friends.

One of the problematic after-effects of western maleness is a complete obsession with making sure everyone knows that we have no ‘feminine’ aspects. Whether it’s because we want everyone to know that we ‘totally aren’t a pansy‘ or because we watched G.I Joe too much (if that’s possible), aspects of our personality that might be construed as ‘female’ (of course, problematic since, as we all know, gender is performance) scare the crap out of us.

Guys eventually (usually) grow out of this, realize that everyone has their own stuff, and it doesn’t make you any less of a man to cry once and a while or to love something beyond ‘tail and cash!’ Maternal and Paternal instincts have many similarities, after all.

What totally sucks is this ‘phase’ strikes right around 18-24, and if you’re dating a college guy, there’s a decent chance he’s got a little bit of this in him. It doesn’t mean he’s a cretin in waiting, but it can make meeting his friends difficult at times because they are suffering from UBLS, or Unrequited Bro Love Syndrome (pronounced “Ubles“) Read More »