If you’ve ever seen the “Sh*t Girls Say…” videos, you’ll know what I mean when I say they are hilariously true. While this isn’t the first of these videos, it brings up a few interesting issues.

These days it seems like girls hunt down gay guys in hopes of obtaining the “gay best friend” that is depicted in most movies and TV shows like Sex and the City, The Devil Wears Prada, or Glee. We all know the stereotype: a gay best friend gives fashion advice, gabs about the latest celebrity news and basically stands in as a platonic boyfriend. Truthfully, I never really thought about how a guy might feel if a girl befriended him just because he’s gay. I didn’t realize how stereotypical it is of girls to think that all gay guys act the same until I saw the new “Sh*t Girls Say to Gay Guys” video.

While the video is hilarious, it’s also a social commentary on how girls treat and think of gay guys. What makes it okay for us to essentially treat a gay guy like a girl? He may like men but that doesn’t mean he isn’t one. The video also brings up other issues: Why is there a difference between “stupid-gay” and “gay-gay”? And, why do we assume that just because two guys are gay they’re going to like each other? Read More »

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Dear Dude,
For the first time since 8th grade, I’m single. This is great right? It gives me a chance to explore, experiment and really get to know myself and it turns out I’m pretty cool.

Awesome, except all of my guy friends seem to think that I should experiment with them. And it extends beyond that; guys I meet at in class, at parties or even at work all only want to date or hook up. When I explain that I just want to be friends (and mean it!) they basically stop talking to me.

Is it me? Am I only interesting when sex is on the table? After eight years of being someone or another’s girlfriend, I would really like to just be me. Does this mean I have to sacrifice guy friends to avoid a boyfriend?

Signed,
Single and Staying That Way Read More »

Valentine’s Day sure does have a way of sneaking up on me and my singleness every year. And I’m not sure how it happens, seeing as the heart-shaped candy has been out since December. But while I may be forced to cuddle up with my pup come Sunday, it turns out that most people – single or taken – would actually prefer it!

Makes sense; why spend oodles of money on a fancy dinner and a gift your boy-toy won’t even use when you can get the unconditional love of a pooch? Or, one of these wonderful Valentine’s Day companions: Read More »

How often have you heard that it’s impossible for a girl and a guy to be “just friends” without one person, (or both) wanting more? Is a completely platonic relationship really possible between members of the opposite sex? Well, when the guy is gay it sure is!

If there is one thing better than a BFF, it’s a GBFF. Not only do you have someone by your side at H&M,  bringing you cookies when you’re broken hearted,  or laying aroun watching SATC marathons with you on a Saturday, but that someone is also fabulous, hilarious, and…er…gay! What makes a GBFF better than your average girl?

1. They’re honest
There’s something different about when a gay guy tells you that you look “fabulous” rather then when your girlfriend does. And by “different” I mean “more believable.” It’s not thay I don’t trust my girlfriends, but sometimes girls, consciously or unconsciously, tend to be more competitive when it comes to that kinda stuff. We all secretly want to look the hottest and be the best, so comments are sometimes not 100% truthful. A gay guy, though, isn’t competing with you for male attention (at least not from the same dudes), so you know when he tells you you look bangin’, you look totally bangin’.

2. They know what guys are thinking
However much we think we understand men and what goes on in their crazy heads, we don’t. We constantly try to guess what they are thinking 24/7, analyzing every text message, every voicemail, and trying to uncover the truth behind their body language.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Girlfriends can give some great advice when it comes to men, but none of them can truly understand what goes on in a guy’s head. Your GBFF can! Even though he may be gay, he’s still a dude who understands dudes. And he’ll give it to you straight. Read More »