He Said/She Said is a new series designed to help all our wonderfully confused readers figure out what he’s really thinking. So every week we’ll be throwing out a topic for debate…and unlike our fave dude, these guys won’t be sugar coating anything for you. But before you jump into their heads (which seriously will make you feel like you need to shower), check out what we think!]

In the economics of relationships, things seem relatively simple. You invest parts of you in hopes of getting something in return, be it love, affection, respect or in some cases of a Tiffany’s princess cut. The same applies to the economics of sex. When things are getting down and dirty you’re hoping at the end of all of it, you aren’t left down and out. Returning the favor is simple economics – what you get should equal (if not, surpass) what you put in.

At the risk of sounding anti-feminist, returning the favor (while it is not always something a girl looks forward to…especially after a guy’s had 10 vodka Red Bulls) is only fair. Strictly speaking in terms of giving and receiving, reciprocation makes sense because it balances the scale. Returning the favor is not necessary, but it is considerate. The guy just worked his tongue off to rock your world, after all, it’s only fair you do the same.

But, and there’s always a but, every rule carries with it a list of exceptions. Here are just a few of mine: Read More »

Here at CollegeCandy, we consider ourselves mature, talented women with a wealth of knowledge and expertise on a wide range of subjects. (What? If we don’t love ourselves, who will?) We’ve grown and learned from our past, so let me ask you a question:

WHY ARE YOU STILL GIVING AND GETTING HICKEYS?

Seriously, this is some high school stuff that I’m talking about. This goes in this list with movie theater make out sessions, the I-have-no-idea-what-I’m-doing-OMG-am-I-hurting-you? hand job and stealing liquor from your parents’ stash. We’ve all moved on to higher education so let’s leave these blemishes (literally) behind. Read More »

I just finished my freshman year of college and I have never had a boyfriend. In fact, the most experience I have sexually is making out. This is not due to religious beliefs, being a prude, or anything like that. I went to an all girls school on the west coast since kindergarten, and I was just so busy all the time, I never really had the chance to start a relationship. My problem is that I really want to be more experienced. I don’t even want to think about how depressing it will be if I go into my junior year still a virgin. I at the very least don’t want to go through much more of college having never given a blow job. The thing is, I am nervous. Not nervous like I don’t really want to, but nervous that I will be so awful I won’t even be able to get him off. Any tips for the first time dabbling in oral sex? Or “manual sex”? I am freaking out here.

My first sex question! Someone wants MY advice? Sweeeeeeet!

Well, first off, I feel obligated to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin. It’s something that just hasn’t happened for you yet, and that’s fine… so I’m hoping you’re not feeling too badly about it. That said, I understand that you just want to go for it. My advice? Watch lots of porn. I’m sure you’re smart enough to realize that sex isn’t going to be the way it looks on screen, but you can get a general idea of how things are done (I’ve had friends who’ve had girls just put it in their mouths and sit there… don’t do that).

If I were you, I’d put my energy into looking for a guy I could have a relationship with instead of just someone to have sex with. Not that there’s anything wrong with just having sex, but being in some kind of a relationship with the person is going to a) make you a lot less likely to regret anything, and b) make you feel more comfortable explaining that hey, you don’t have a lot of experience, but you really want to try this out so maybe be could talk you through it. One thing I wish I had been told is that a guy won’t always finish every single time — if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen, and try not to take it too personally.

As for the HJs, try it out and see if it’s something you’re interested in. They can be kind of awkward, even for the most experienced, and you might decide that you’d rather move on to other things. Read More »

Sometimes, commercials can be just as great as the TV shows they interrupt. I find this low-budget masterpiece, which advertises Brooklyn’s Grand Prospect Hall (“We make your dreams come true!”), almost as entertaining as an eight-hour marathon of “Top Model” on VH1.

But today I discovered what might be my new favorite commercial: this 90-second ad for a new jar opener called—wait for it—the Handjob.

It’s hard to decide which moment I love the most: the weird, ‘80s-esque strobe flashing at the beginning? The way the wife waits a beat, then perkily says, “Okay!” when her hubby asks for a hand job? The part where the guy with the yard equipment screams, “Faaaaaa!” until the camera cuts away? The not-so-subtle shot of an old lady getting sprayed in the face with liquid? It’s all gold.