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Dear Tuffy Tuv,

So there’s this guyyyyy (isn’t that how all of these emails start out?).  I reconnected with someone from high school in the beginning of the summer.  We hung out (and hooked up) a few times before he had to go back to school for the summer.  At first my mindset was, “Ok, we had a fun summer fling, maybe I’ll see him when he gets back.”   And at the time, I was totally OK with the idea.

About a week after he left, he started texting me every once in a while.  Then all of a sudden, there was a flurry of communication between us where he said he’d try to sneak out of school one day to see me, and visit again on the 4th.  Since these encounters he’s sent me some pretty cute texts about how he can’t wait to see me, hoping I’m free on such and such day so he can visit, etc.  This seems like a lot of effort just for some booty. I’m just not sure how to classify this relationship, and whether getting emotionally attached would end up hurting me at the end of the summer. And I HATE HATE HATE having “the talk”; is there any way to get some answers without it?

Thanks,
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Every girl likes to surround herself with fun people who bring lots of positivity into her life, right? I mean, who wants to go through life without the fun/support/advice of some friends? But, do you ever feel like you don’t have enough of those people?

Well, you’re not alone, CC-ers. Story of my life.

Growing up, I always had friends; guys, girls…a whole lotta them. We’d all play, hang out and have fun with each other. As I started to get older, in high school, then in college, my circle of friends got smaller and smaller. My tight knit posse went from 30 people to 20 to 10 to 4. It’s not that I had fights with my friends that caused us to become distant, but the phone calls, emails, nights out and shopping trips all seemed to dwindle as our lives progressed. Read More »

“Birds of the feather flock together” is a phrase my mother has repeated to me since I was a child. I used to hate her for this phrase. I used to accuse her of being judgmental and mean-spirited for judging my friends by the company that they kept. But now…well…now the story is a little bit different. As I have grown up on my own – outside of the house and outside of my mother’s phrases – I have begun to realize just how right she was.

More often than not these days, I find myself repeating that phrase. It’s not that I assume that a person is just like their negative friends, but I do wonder: why surround yourself with negativity? So many times, I hear people justifying their own friends. They’ll explain that their friend is ‘obnoxious’ or ‘self-centered’. Sure, we all have our negative qualities, but when a person’s negative qualities stand out against everything else…why would you want to be around that person?

Maybe I’m just biased because I have the best friends in the world. I throw parties often and I always pride myself in the fact that all of my circles of friends mingle together flawlessly each time. My friends always leave my parties raving about how awesome the people they met at my party are. I guess since I’m in NYC now, I can be picky. There are enough people in NYC to allow for me to have well-balanced, good-hearted friends across the board.

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Is the economy killing you? Yeah? (Join the club. I can’t even afford mixers for my vodka anymore.) Don’t wanna spend money on cute clothes if you can help it? Well, rally up your girls and organize a clothing swap party. They’re fun AND you end up walking home with tons of new clothes-for free! Here is how it works:

Get together with a group of your favorite ladies – especially those with wardrobes you would kill for. Tell everyone to bring clothes to the party that they don’t wear anymore. Assign each girl to a spot on the floor where she will pile up all the goodies she brought with her.

Each girl will take turns going around the circle and holding up one of the items she brought with her. Whoever wants it can raise their hands. If more than one girl wants it, settle the score through a trivia game…or a drinking game… whichever you choose. Read More »

Last night, after a delicious sushi dinner paid for by my mom (woot!), I received the most refreshing news from a friend. She had met a boy. And not your typical boy; this is a boy who called her the next day, is extremely open about his thoughts and feelings, and who flat out tells her everything that is on his mind. Who knew a guy like that even existed?!

I could tell she was excited about him – especially considering the horrible string of guys she had dealt with previously – but she really sounded calm and collected on the phone.

“I really like hanging out with him, but not like over-excited and crazy like usual. I will just see where this goes.”

Now, it could be that my dear friend has really grown up and matured since her last boy fiasco. Maybe she has evolved into the girl who can indeed just “see where things go” and not get ahead of herself with the excitement of a wonderful new man…and an even more wonderful future filled with a beautiful wedding, a lovely house and endless marital bliss.

And if that is the case, then I would like to be her agent and book editor as she explains her path to dating enlightenment to women around the world. Read More »

It is officially spring and you know what that means: time to drink outside. This is by far my favorite time of year; with long sleeved tees, flip flops and boxed wine on the hammock, what more could a girl ask for?

My all time favorite spring drinking experience is sangria on the porch. My roommates and I have made this a yearly tradition since college began and we are not going to stop now just because we flipped our tassels. There is nothing better than sitting around in the sun, sipping a delicious cocktail and hanging out with my best friends.

Seriously, you should try it.

You can’t have my friends (sorry, I am really possessive), but I would be happy to share our oh-so-special Sangria recipe with you. It is fruity, fun and so totally delicious.

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