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Dear Tuffy Luv,

I have a confession: I’m guilty of being a serial cheater.

The zenith of my misbehaving ways was probably when I was the girlfriend of around four guys at once from four differents countries, and I saw them all pretty much every week. And that was when I was very young (14).

I’m a bit older know, so I should know better, right? The thing is, I don’t really feel like cheating’s wrong, though I know whomever I’m seeing probably does. It just doesn’t bring me shame at all, mainly because I just argue that physical stuff is one thing and love is another.

Maybe it’s connected to the fact that I have a very hard time summoning actual emotion for the person(s) I am with, but I’m good at getting involved with guys (and girls) quickly. I give people that wild, bohemian, crazy lovin’ everybody needs to experience once before they die, and that’s me. That’s the free spirited affection and adventure I provide them with. I see it a little bit as an exciting game – something that’s just fun for me because I honestly believe that I am undesirable, so it’s always a pleasant surprise to have someone worship me. But then, when I let them get me, it’s not fun anymore and I have no emotion for them. I never did. I just make myself believe it, maybe to not let them down. Whatever; I still drive em for a while, then let them go.

Do I need help? How will I learn that cheating is wrong? Should I learn that cheating is wrong?

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After reading a recent CC article on a book that’s supposed to expose all the reasons men cheat, I got to thinking; what’s my opinion on dudes and cheating? Someone once told me that the reason men cheat is because there’s a small part of their brain missing, a part that is conveniently lodged in their manhood, thus creating and coining the term: “Men think with their d*cks.”

So, do I believe that all men are destined to cheat? Yes and No. Here’s why.

I think everyone – male or female – can be destined to cheat on his or her significant other. I think monogamy is an extremely hard thing to achieve, no matter what gender or age. Monogamy in your 20s is especially difficult; the temptations of college parties, combined with the excessive amounts of booze, plus a heated fight with your bf or gf, can lead to you waking up in the morning thinking, “oh my God!” when you swore to yourself you’d never cheat (trust me, I’ve been there).

But do I think men are more inclined to cheat than women? Well, that depends. Personally, I think men and women cheat for different reasons. Men (and I’m not talking ALL men, so you faithful ones, don’t get your boxer briefs in a twist) cheat because, well, they see a hot piece of ass and want to pounce. Men cheat because they feel an urge (usually in their pantelones) and want to act on that urge, with someone who isn’t constantly nagging them about doing this or doing that, as us girlfriends are known to do. Read More »