We all make mistakes. One of the biggest ones I’ve made in a while was dating a guy who, quite frankly, didn’t really want to date me. Three months into our relationship I was told that as much as he wanted to be my boyfriend, he also needed a chance to have the “college experience.” This didn’t make a lot of sense to me since the boy was 22, living with his parents and working night shifts at a warehouse. I was the college student, and I didn’t feel like I was missing out on anything. When I asked him to elaborate, he explained that he just really wanted to have sex…. with other people.

Why that relationship lasted three months after that, I have no idea.

Sadly, this isn’t a mindset unique to my ex – this idea of college as a place to get laid more than a place of education seems to be rampant among students (and non-students too, apparently). The idea seems to be that having a period of promiscuity and disregard for normal societal behavior is something we all  “deserve.” That there’s no way we could grow up and get married without having had some time to sleep around and be wild and crazy.

It’s no wonder we have this expectation, really — we see movies like American Pie that outline little except for the booze and sex lifestyle, and we read sites like College Candy that tend to talk a lot about the stereotypical college life. When we see a college lady who made a power point of her sexual exploits and Tucker Max making millions off of his “sex” life, what are we supposed to think? Read More »

Ever since I flipped through the many college brochures in high school, I had my own college fantasy.  I saw frat boys making out with sorority girls under a sycamore tree in the quad a Sports Illustrated swimsuit poster while double-fisting a Coors, ‘Van Wilder’ playing in the background. It’s a strange college ideal, but let’s face it: in college, hooking up comes as natural as canning two Red Bull 30 minutes deep into a study session. What do you expect from a slew of horny, freshly-free kids placed in a small colony of dorm rooms?  From the very first night of college the constant pressure to hook up with people looms like the haze of a drunk-buzz. And it’s the norm.

Random hook ups are not only not shunned in college, they’re expected. College is a get-by-free pass for having fun and making out.

I’m not saying everyone hooks up in college, but for the majority of the student body, hooking up is a given.  Meeting new prospective hook-ups you’ll most likely regret in the morning and dish with your roomies is as expected as walking into the library and walking out with a book. It’s free and returnable.

Under most circumstances, girls will say hooking up is fun and carefree.  After a few beers, there is nothing wrong with making out and fooling around with a cute college boy that has a baby-face and likes to dance with you next to the beer pong table.  And hooking up doesn’t have to involve drinking either.  We’re all familiar with the term ‘booty-call.’  Simple attraction and a life sans parental units can ignite hook-ups and the ‘no strings attached’ attitude.  That’s why hooking up is fun!  You never have to worry about meeting families, what his favorite baseball team is, or if you should text him or call him the next day. Read More »

Glamour’s June “beauty” issue is chock full of ish that is awesome (hello, glitter, sexy sandals, and neon color orgy!),  bad (really, three models on the cover and they all pretty much look the same?), and ugly (jelly sandals definitely do not need to make a comeback. Was I the only one whose feet were always totally wrecked after wearing them?). Seriously, it’s amazing they could fit it all into those 275 pages!

Upon glancing at the cover, I immediately thought I would be eviscerating the “How To Find Love in Hook-Up Culture” article, because the whole notion of “hook up culture” is so exaggerated. People have been hooking up with no strings attached since the beginning of time (I’m sure the guy who invented fire totally got some booty that night), the only difference is now everyone Tweets or makes a coy Facebook status about it. However, their advice to communicate open and honestly with your partner (and yourself!) about your romantic intentions is really legit (although it does include a terrible anecdote involving a MASS BOOTY CALL TEXT. Seriously? Seriously.) Yeah, so I couldn’t really find much to tear apart.

But then I turned the page and found this gem: “Weird Things That Turn Guys On” that did include weird tidbits… if “weird” has somehow evolved to mean normal, mundane, or obvious. Read More »

Yeah, that's not going anywhere.

In a last ditch attempt to further procrastinate studying for finals, I was stumbling through some websites when I found this random statistic that literally blew my mind:

Only 12% of hookups eventually lead to relationships. TWELVE PERCENT.

Being a girl who has had her fair share of hookups and is still single, I don’t know why that statistic was so shocking to me. But it was. I stared at that one line for 10 minutes. Only 12%. 12 percent. That means 88% of hook ups lead to nothing but a walk of shame and that awkward post-hook up interaction when you have to return his sweatpants.

It’s just pretty shocking when you see it laid out like that. Especially when you consider the fact that the whole hook up culture has become the dominant way of interacting and “dating” in college. It makes me think twice about all those weekend convos with my girlfriends when we gush about whatever boy we made out with the night before. We all talk and plan and are convinced it’s going to turn into something bigger; after all, So and So met started going out with her long-term boyfriend after a hook up. It is possible. Read More »

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