The random hook up. Probably the only thing more common at a college party than drunk people screaming to Journey. That’s why people are there, isn’t it? That’s why we girls spend hours picking out outfits that are sexy without being too slutty, and risking third degree burns with a flat iron.

We want guys to want us. And we want them to want us now.

I’m a big fan of the random hook up. Obviously, I’d prefer a more constant booty call in my life (read: a boyfriend), but there’s nothing wrong with sharing the milk while I wait for someone to buy the cow. I love the challenge of seeking out what I want (the guy in the worn-in baseball cap) and getting it (in my bed). And quite honestly, sometimes a girl’s got needs, ya know? Sometimes I just need a little pleasure in my life that doesn’t come from the fro yo machine and unlimited sprinkles in the caf. And by “sometimes” I obviously mean “when I’m drinking.”

That being said, I’m not gonna go home with just anybody. I have standards, thank you very much. And just because those standards get a little lower when I’m wearing the beer goggles (which I don’t realize until after the fact, of course; I always think the guy is sexy until I wake up in the morning) doesn’t mean I’m going to do the horizontal mambo with anything that happens to have man parts. Read More »

Question?! Forget you. No, only joking! Ha, ha! Get it?! Because–okay, whatever. Ask TuffyLuv@collegecandy.com.

Dear Tuffy Luv,
Last semester I met this guy and we started hanging out a lot. We were never officially together, but he was my first everything and we had a great time for a few months.

I made the mistake of assuming he was with me exclusively, and kind of freaked out on him when I found out he had been with other girls and still had contact with his ex who he had been with for years. But then I realized I really had no right to be mad, as he was not my boyfriend.

For the first couple of weeks this semester, things were going great between us and I was happy. Then, everything changed. He couldn’t attend our school this semester, so he moved back home. I was really sad he was leaving, but he is planning on coming back in a few months, so I thought things might work out. At first, we still talked a lot and even hung out when he came down to visit.

But then he went back home, and….nothing. He stopped contacting me. I texted him a few times and got very brief answers. I was sad, but decided to stop talking to him as well. I still liked him a lot, but I did not want to appear needy and desperate.

After he moved, I still hung out with his friends. A few weeks later after becoming way too drunk, I hooked up with one of them. Since, my relationship with his friend has turned into a sort of friends-with-benefits situation. I would never want to be with him in a serious relationship, we’re just having fun. His friend told the first guy what happened and I texted him to see how he felt about it. He seemed rather indifferent and it hurt me that he didn’t seem upset. I told him how much I missed him and that I wished he were still here.

A few days ago, I was hanging out in his friend’s room when, to my surprise (though clearly intentional on the friend’s part), the first guy showed up–he was in town to visit and no one told me. He seemed just as surprised to see me as I was him and neither of us really said anything. Read More »

So it seems CollegeCandy’s Dude is the most popular guy, like, ever. You ladies just can’t get enough. You’d think he was Bradley Cooper! (Maybe he is….that’s one secret we’ll never tell.) Luckily, this guy’s a giver (even more reason to love him) and he’s gonna bring you even more of his wisdom. Only instead of answering specific questions, he’s telling us what we all want to know and never had the balls to ask. Don’t worry, he’ll still be back every Wednesday for Ask a Dude!

Ever notice his eyes are closed? Ever wonder where he seems to go while he’s got you split like a wishbone? Believe it or not, men don’t always just think with their penises. When the penis is in the forbidden triangle, the gears upstairs keep turning until the moment of release.

Well, ladies, here’s a peek into the mindset of the mid-f*cking man.

1. “not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet (ad infinitum)”
Most fellas aren’t 60 minute men. They are terrified of cumming before you do. So, they try to psyche themselves out of blowing their wad too early. Note the mantra-like repetition. We’re trying to take ourselves out of the moment to make the moment last longer. A fun little paradox: deny pleasure to prolong pleasure. Why do we cum too soon? Well, that’s a list for another time…

2. “Dead puppies, dead puppies, dead puppies, dead puppies” (repeat until ejaculation)
Each guy has a mental technique to stave off prematuring. Some think of the most hideous and UNsexual images imaginable (hence the above). Others try to imagine a baseball game being played in slow motion (although most ball games are already played in slow motion). Different strokes for different folks. Hm, maybe not the best way to put it… Read More »

We all love sex. Whether we’re having it, talking about it, reading about it, watching it, we love it all. But did you know there are even more benefits to doing the dirty than simply feeling warm and fuzzy all over?

From feeling better to looking better, here are the biggest benefits to getting frisky:

Sex is Almost as Good as a Gym: We all know you can burn calories from having sex – about 86 calories in a half hour! So let’s do a little math: That’s 172 in one hour. Then if you do the nasty 5 days a week for an hour, that’s 860 calories burned. Sounds way better than a half hour on the treadmill to me.

Sex Keeps you Young: Apparently, having an active sex life reduces the process of aging. Your big O (and all the hormones that come with it) boosts collagen production which aids in reducing the appearance of wrinkles and age spots.

Sex is Cheaper than Proactive: Having sex regularly reduces your hormones levels and balances them out, thus clearing up your skin without wasting time and money on all those washes, toners and zit creams.

Sex Prevents Dry Skin: This time of year always brings out the worst scaly, dry, itchy skin that even a daily moisturizer can’t touch. But sex can! A roll in the hay increases blood circulation, making it more efficient. The more efficient your blood is circulating, the more moisture your skin has. Not sure how or why, but it’s true: sex will keep your skin glowing and looking fresh.

Sex Relieves Stress: So remember last semester (or even last week) when you were struggling to breathe with the amount of work being thrown on you? Yeah, a quick romp sesh would’ve helped you out. Orgasms release endorphins, endorphins make you feel good and relieve your stress. Something to think about as finals creep up once again.

Sex makes you look better. Yes, LOOK better. Click here to find the many ways sex will make you more beautiful.

God, I love sex even more than I did before. And I definitely didn’t think that was possible.

One of the most awkward moments in a college student’s life is the reunion; you know, the run-in/re-introduction/avoidance that can only come following a random hook up. It is one of the many moments in college that we try to avoid, this one being up there with “hangover for an exam” and “beer poop in the library.”

Unfortunately, it is a moment we all must embrace and take in stride if we ever want to move on…or do it again.

So, how does one handle the reunion? Is there a way to make this interaction awkward free, or are we doomed to spend the rest of our college days hiding in corners and avoiding any place that may hold people of the opposite sex? I can’t tell you what you should do, but I can speak from experience in telling you what you should not do under any circumstances, no matter how good of an idea you think it is at the time. Read More »

[He Said/She Said is a new series designed to help all our wonderfully confused readers figure out what he’s really thinking. So every week we’ll be throwing out a topic for debate…and unlike our fave dude, these guys won’t be sugar coating anything for you. But before you jump into their heads (which seriously will make you feel like you need to shower), check out what we think!]

Whenever I ask a guy for guy advice, he always says one of two things:

1. “Stop worrying about guys and just hook up with a girl….so I can watch.”
2. “Guys are not that complex. They say what they mean.”

I want to believe that (the second one; I usually just completely disregard the first one…after I smack him). I mean, he’s a guy so he should know, right? But hard as I try to take a guy’s word at face value, it’s impossible. They’re just so vague. And confusing. And what the f**k does, “whatever” mean?!?!

And that’s especially true when it comes to text messages. Read More »

Dear Dude,

I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month, roughly.  He takes me out on actual dates, always wants to hang out, and is fun to talk to. Basically, I’m pretty sure that he’s into me.  The problem is that the few times that we’ve had sex, he hasn’t finished.  We’ll go at it for over an hour and although I’ve enjoyed myself, he won’t orgasm at all!  He always initiates sex and says he enjoys spending time with me, but if he’s sexually attracted to me, then why can’t he finish?  Could it be that I’m really bad in bed?  That he isn’t sexually attracted to me?  It’s an awkward subject to bring up and I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I don’t know how to handle it.

Sincerely,
-Can’t Get Him Off

[He Said/She Said is a new series designed to help all our wonderfully confused readers figure out what he’s really thinking. So every week we’ll be throwing out a topic for debate…and unlike our fave dude, these guys won’t be sugar coating anything for you. But before you jump into their heads (which seriously will make you feel like you need to shower), check out what we think!]

“Oh god. This has never happened to me before.”

Yup, I’ve heard that one before. Twice from the same person, actually. I’ve also had one ex propose a trip to Home Depot to rectify the situation. True (and really creepy) story. Being in college where the average night starts with a beer bong, ends with a shot of Jager and has a whole lot of cheap booze in between, I know I’m not alone. Erectile dysfunction (also not so lovingly known to as Whiskey D*ck) is as prevalent as Uggs, overpriced textbooks and porch couches. It’s something that all college women will encounter at one point or another in their lives.

But that doesn’t make it any less embarrassing for the guy whose parts aren’t working, or for the girl who has to somehow rectify the situation.

However, having encountered a limp biscuit a few times between the sheets (and once in a bathroom stall), I have to say that it’s really not as big a deal as movies, stories and shell shocked guys make it out to be. Read More »

So we all know that lately pop culture has been a little bit obsessed with vampires. True Blood. Twilight. The Vampire Diaries. It’s everywhere we look and a part of everything we do. But we’re not just obsessed with vampires. We’re obsessed with vampire boyfriends. Edward Cullen in particular. An as someone who spends way too much time in the fictional world I have to step back, and ask…really? I mean come on!

Edward Cullen is not the best fictional boyfriend out there. He’s obsessive, overbearing, and would find great satisfaction in tearing open his girlfriend’s veins and drinking her blood. This is the guy that makes you swoon? Well not me. He’s not my idea of the best fictional boyfriend out there. He’s not even close. Who is, you ask? Well I’ve compiled a list to answer just that question (and put off any of the more important tasks I have yet to accomplish today). Below are my top ten fictional boyfriends, all of whom are real flesh and blood, albeit fictional, men that don’t sparkle in the sunlight.

10. Mike Chang. You know, Tina’s boyfriend from Glee. Not only is he a football player but he has swoon worthy dance moves and even swoon worthier abs.

9. Flynn Rider. The last Disney prince. The one from Tangled. Yes I’ve seen Tangled. What’ is it to you? A little sarcastic, a little funny, and very much the reluctant hero. He’s definitely not as boring as the Disney princes before him and so for that reason alone he makes the list.

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[He Said/She Said is a new series designed to help all our wonderfully confused readers figure out what he’s really thinking. So every week we’ll be throwing out a topic for debate…and unlike our fave dude, these guys won’t be sugar coating anything for you. But before you jump into their heads (which seriously will make you feel like you need to shower), check out what we think!]

Call me a whore (why not, my mother does), but I love me some casual hook ups. There’s something thrilling about going out, chatting it up with a hottie in a great pair of jeans, and heading home to tear off those jeans and get it on. Alcohol fueled or not, I love the whole carnal passion element of it all. The fact that the whole thing is purely physical. What? It’s hot!

Sure, it’s not the basis of a long lasting relationship, but it is the basis of a great story to share with the roommates come morning. And isn’t that what we’re all looking for?

But what I don’t love about a little late night nookie is when it happens at his place. I know it’s not the best idea to invite some dude into your house just because he’s got nice biceps (or seems to, at least, through those beer goggles), but I enjoy the comforts of my own glorious bed (topped with a memory foam pad, a feather down duvet and 4 very squishy pillows) and the control that bringing a lad back to my place offers.

I also happen to enjoy a few other things about having a romp in my own hay: Read More »