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Dear Tuffy Luv,

After reading your column “Don’t Break up Your BFF’s Relationship” I felt I needed to write to you because it seems as if I am in a similar situation, except I am on the other side. My boyfriend and I have been dating (on and off) for about 2 and a half years. He is one year older than me and just finished his freshman year in college. This was a difficult year for our relationship being that he was in college and I was still in high school.  I have had serious doubts and suspicions about his close friendship with a girl he met this year at school ever since September when I read a flirty conversation between them on his phone. He no longer lets me go through his phone, but I know they still talk daily.

Prior to this year, I was never jealous of him or felt threatened by any girl he interacted with. I asked one of my friends who goes to college with him what the deal was and she said they haven’t hooked up but everyone thinks he has feelings for her. To add to my suspicion, he and this girl have multiple Facebook pictures of them alone, and when I asked him to untag himself from some of them because they look as if they are a couple, he got angry with me and told me I was acting crazy.

Both my boyfriend and this girl have summer homes at the beach and I know that they see each other often. Whenever I bring her up, it escalates into a fight because he thinks that I am trying to filter who he can and can’t hangout with. He tells me he only likes her as a friend and that I need to trust him. As much as I love him and want to trust him it is really hard because he is so shady when it comes to her. I’m really frustrated because this has been going on since the beginning of the year and I have no idea what the best way is to handle it. Please help me, I would really appreciate you advice.

Sincerely,

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Dear Tuffy Luv,

Please respond! I’m in a rough spot.

Also, this is a very long story.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years. We love each other very much and he is my best friend, but we have had a lot of trust issues. It all started close to a year into our relationship. I went over to his apartment one evening to hang out and he was watching football so I sat down at his computer to entertain myself with the internet. I wasn’t snooping but something in an open AIM window caught my eye. The last line of the conversation read “Wait don’t you have a girlfriend?” So being curious I read the rest of the convo. To sum the whole thing up, this chick (who he had been trying to set his good friend up with) was flirting with him and he said ” If I were to go there, or you were to come here, we would hook up. Don’t pretend like it wouldn’t happen.” And she pretty much agreed.

So after reading this I confronted him. He said that in the process of trying to hook his friend up with her, the girl developed feelings for my boyfriend and he just didn’t want to hurt her feelings. I told him  that he needed to be honest with her and tell her that he has a girlfriend and nothing was going to happen between them. I made him show me the AIM conversation in which he said this to her.

Understandably, after this incident I became intensely paranoid. So, I stole his Myspace password. Not only his Myspace password but Facebook, Yahoo, and Gmail. I know that that’s really horrible but I didn’t know what else to do because I really didn’t want to break up with him but I didn’t feel I could trust him. Everything had been fine until twice in the past month or two the girl that originally set this whole thing into motion has sent naked pictures to his Gmail. Read More »