There are few things in this world more polarizing that a good old fashioned love triangle. Pro-life vs. pro-choice? Who cares? iPhone vs. Blackberry? Whatever. Edward vs. Jacob? OH NO SHE DIDN’T! Think we’re wrong? Read on and see if any of these famous love triangles get you fired up… Read More »

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Today ladies, I want you to take a little trip back in time to when I was in college…way back in “the ‘90s.”  I remember meeting a super cute guy at my job on campus.  I worked at this fun little underground cafe called Dante’s (yes, as in the Inferno) where you could order sundaes, malts, soft pretzels and my friends’ all-time fav, cheesy popcorn that I would bring back to the dorm to be the most loved friend for about the six minutes that it lasted.  My reign was always short-lived as I would always be ousted by my friend Lisa who would worked at the local pizza place and brought home pizza with sauerkraut. Good times, but I digress.

At the beginning of my sophomore year, a super hottie walked into Dante’s and after a malt, cheesy popcorn and lots of witty banter, I was crushin’ pretty hard.  Problem was, I only knew his name and a little about him so I did what every other lady did back then: used my Nancy Drew-like sleuthing skills (that would have impressed the CIA) and got to work.  It took about two weeks but I found out which dorm he lived in, his major, his friend group and some other small details.  I also found out, with a little random luck, that he had a long-time girlfriend at another school.  Although slightly bummed, it was fun to have a little crush, talk about it with my friends and keep my skills sharp in case the CIA ever did come a knockin’.

Fast forward to current day and think about the exact same situation.  Now, if I would have met him, within 10 minutes I would know all the info above plus: The Hangover is his favorite movie, he is into indie rock and has a love for old school rap, that he no interest in politics and seems to love roller coasters, taco bell and Megan Fox.  I would have also seen pics of his friends (kinda douchey), his family dog (cute) as well as what could be his current or ex-girlfriend (boo).  If I dig a little deeper I can find out he is a regular on gaming sites and loves to debate the evil of mainstream music and the record companies.  PLUS, don’t forget, about 7 different ways to contact him.  Without even talking to him anytime soon, I can follow his daily life and let the crush bloom into full blown smitten.

This is where we buy the ticket to the crazy train. Read More »

[The following post was written by dating coach, Kira Sabin, a keg of dating and relationship wisdom. She's been helping people find love for years so we thought we'd tap this keg and see what sort of brilliant advice she has for the CollegeCandy readers. Drink up, ladies.]

I think it was the genius singer-songwriter Avril Lavigne who brought up the ever important question…”Why did you have to go and make things so complicated?”

Man, do we complicate things. Sometimes things are so easy, almost simple, and we somehow make things harder than they are. We add feelings where they don’t exist, we try to have “the talk” before we even know someone’s good and not so good stuff, we have sex way too soon in a relationship (yeah…I said it), we put up a wall, get clingy, project our crap….the list goes on and on. At the end of the day we are all just trying to connect. Build. Share. Learn. Love. That’s it. It is a human need, it is us who complicates it.

Let me give you an example. Read More »

Seriously, who gives out their number anymore?

I remember having a drunken bonding moment with a really cool guy in college a few years ago, and he asked for my number. I asked for his screen name instead. I mean, IM-ing someone is so much more casual, and so much less stressful. You don’t have to feel your heart thumping through your chest as the phone rings. Is he going to answer? Is it going to go to voicemail? Is he blocking me? What do I say if he picks up?

With IM, you can see if he’s away or idle, and choose your own adventure from there. You can leave a casual “Just wanted to say I had a great time last night” IM, rather than starting a phone call with the same line and then struggling to make small talk. Likewise, you can make small talk behind the shield of the IM window, where he can’t hear your voice crack, and where you can copy and paste the whole convo to all of your girlfriends and get advice while you try to weed out his intentions.

And then came Facebook. The social network has made quite the mark on the dating scene. There’s the poke, which can be viewed as casual, flirty, or creepy. There’s the “it’s complicated” label for the relationship you’re in (finally- you can be open about having a f*ck buddy without warding off the rest of the male population!); and of course, there’s the wall post, which makes the casual IM seem like the awkward phone call of yesteryear. Read More »