We let orgasms have too much power. If we don’t have them, we stress ourselves out and having one starts to seem like a chore instead of a pleasure. If our partners don’t have them, we start second-guessing our sexy talents. And if our partners (particularly the ones of the male variety) have one too soon, they’re basically devalued as being viable, legitimate sexual partners.

Sex. We all know what it is and how it works, but by now we also know that there’s really a lot more to it than that. Sex is about relationships and emotions, and pleasure, and connections. But really, when is comes down to it sex is about knowledge. Knowing what you want. Knowing what your partner wants. And knowing exactly what you are getting into. And after running two previous posts like this I think we all discovered that there’s a lot about sex that we have yet to discover, but hey, knowledge is power right? So here’s ten more things you should know about sex. Read More »

Allow me to introduce you to Panty O’s, the panties that strengthen your pelvic floor muscles because “tighter is better.” (Yes, that is a direct quote from their low-budge website.)

How does this work, you ask? Well, see that little one-inch mini dildo looking thing up there on the right? Yeah, that’s sewn into the panties and then goes into your….you know…. when you’re wearing them, giving you a “focus point for you while performing your kegel exercises…”And tighter kegels “make you more orgasmic!”

And what does “more orgasmic” cost you? Only $125, of course.

That’s a lot of money to spend on what I can only imagine is way, way worse than a wedgie.

My abs are tight. My legs are toned. But what about my lady parts?!

We thought we’d help and every Thursday our friend Dr. Lissa Rankin will be answering your questions. The ones you couldn’t ask your doctor in person. Just leave your questions in the comments, or send em over to us. (We’ll keep it all anonymous for you.) Dr. Lissa will answer anything – really, anything – about sex and other lady things. Don’t be shy; she’s waiting for ya!

Q: Everyone is always talking about Kegel exercises. Do those things really help? And do we really need to do them? I’ve had a boyfriend for 3 years (and we’ve been having regular sex for the entire time), so is it possible that I’m not as “toned” down there as I could be? Is that something I need to worry about?

A: Do the rest of you know what a Kegel exercise is?  It’s an exercise to strengthen the pelvic floor. To do Kegel exercises, contract and release the muscles surrounding the vaginal opening. If you’re not sure what I mean, run to the restroom, pee, and try to stop your urine mid-stream. Those are the muscles we’re talking about here.

How can Kegels help you? Let’s break it down into three ways- sexual enhancement, prevention, and treatment.  Because these muscles tone the vagina, they can be used to enhance intercourse. By contracting these muscles, you may offer additional pleasure for you and your lover, especially if you’ve had a few babies and things have become a bit loosely goosey down there.

What about prevention? As we age, our tissue gets weaker and our risk of pelvic prolapse and urinary incontinence increases.  What’s pelvic prolapse? Well, believe it or not, your uterus, bladder, vagina, and rectum can all sort of fall out. I’ve seen uteruses hanging between people’s legs and herniations of the bladder and rectum into the vagina. This looseness in the vagina can lead to incontinence, pelvic pressure, difficulty with urinating and having bowel movements, and a whole host of other unpleasant symptoms. Kegel exercises help prevent pelvic prolapse and incontinence.  By toning these muscles, you help keep things tucked up inside, where they belong. Read More »

Confession: I wear high heels to the grocery store. And to run errands. And to get the mail. And well, just about everywhere.

As a top-heavy petite girl, I rely on heels to balance me out and give my legs that lean, toned, non-stumpy look that tall girls seem to be able to pull off in a pair of bunny slippers.

I’ve had my share of bad heel experiences, but flats have yet to get a second glance from me—blisters, bad posture, and numb toes be damned!

Well, it seems I was on to something. A study in Italy found that stilettos can be good for your sex life. No, you don’t have to put on a pair of your highest heels before climbing into bed with your guy—just wearing heels during daily activity was found to strengthen pelvic muscles, toning more than just your legs.

Researcher Dr. Maria Cerruto said her study of 66 women under 50 found that those who held their foot at a 15 degree angle to the ground – the equivalent of a two inch heel – showed less electrical activity in their pelvic muscles, suggesting the muscles were at an optimum position, which could well improve their strength and ability to contract (in other words, these are the muscles that keep you feeling “tight.”) Combine heel wearing with Kegels and you’ll be unstoppable. Read More »