My roommate has recently become obsessed with the new Weezer song and she’s constantly shouting, “Girl, If you’re wondering if I want you to, I want you to,
 so make a move, (Make a move) ‘cos I ain’t got all night.”

This has led me to some contemplation on how hard it actually is to make a move on someone, and how annoying and awkward it can be while you’re waiting for them to make a move on you.

We’ve all been in way too many situations where we’ve been talking to a cute boy all night, but the party’s dying down and we can’t tell if he’s gonna pack up his things and head home (alone), or pucker up his lips and go in for the kiss (or, you know, put his hand on our butt…something!). And you know he’s feeling just as anxious, because he can’t tell if he should risk making the move too soon and scaring you off.

So you just sorta stand there…talking about cheese.

Of course, as Weezer exemplifies, this situation can easily be reversed. And I’m all for that. It’s time to stomp out the awkwardness of making/waiting for a move. It’s time to take matters into our own hands, and to take those matters with confidence and ease.

How can you let him/her know you’re ready? Read More »

I don’t really have a problem with asking guys out. It’s pretty simple. You go up to them, compliment them on their shirt, and then say, “hey, let’s hang out sometime,” although who are we kidding — it usually comes out as: “Coffee? I like coffee. Do you like coffee? Tuesday. Let’s drink coffee on Tuesday. If you like coffee, too.” And after this initial conversation, awkward as it may be, the guy magically becomes putty in your bold, feminist hand. However, that’s where the fun ends. Nothing good has ever come of any of the relationships where I’ve been the instigator. Not to sound old – fashioned, but I think it upsets a natural (or at the very least, longstanding) balance of power. Also, I don’t want to be expected to pay for things as the pursuer. I’m no Romeo — I’m just Juliet in Romeo’s clothes.

But I get really frustrated when there’s someone I like, and I’m pretty sure likes me back, and he just won’t make a goddamn move. Read More »