So here we go, talking about the big bad world of MASTURBATION.
I know, it’s something most people don’t discuss freely and definitely don’t admit to trying or doing. But why is it so on the hush-hush! We know it’s common thing, so why are we so embarrassed or nervous to talk about it? Well, for all of those out there who are too afraid to even type it into Google for fear it will show up in their histories, I’ve done the “dirty work” for you (pun sorta intended, just kidding, THIS IS NOT A DIRTY TOPIC!). Here are the 7 most absurd myths of masturbation. Let’s hope that by the time you’re done reading these, your fears about masturbation will disappear, or at least your fears about discussing it will… Read More »
Everyone does it. Okay, maybe not everyone–I do have a few friends who think it’s weird to masturbate. Which I think is really weird. Masturbation is a crucial part to having better sex. If you don’t know your own body and what you like, how can you hope to instruct someone else? Maybe you’re a lucky one and only sleep with sex gods, but the rest of us are sometimes required to offer constructive criticism suggestions. Not great at masturbation? Maybe you’re new to the game? The Frisky has 9 tips to make it an all together better experience. Read the full story here.
Will we see Kanye and Kim’s relationship on the next season of ‘Keeping Up With The Kardashians?’ According to the media, they do almost everything together, so it’s hard to imagine him not making an appearance on the show. We just hope she learned her lesson from the Kris Humphries debacle! TMZ spoke to some insiders to find out what all from their relationship will be aired on the show. You know, on the rare occasions the tabloids miss something. Read the full story here.
Freshman year. That incredibly awkward time when so many of us had to move in and share a tiny space with a complete stranger. You thought you were gaining all this freedom and independence by moving out of your parents’ house, until you discovered that living with a roommate can get really weird. My freshman year, everybody pitied the poor souls who got “sexiled.” You know, the people whose roommates kicked them out so they could have sex. But this video proves that for some people, getting sexiled isn’t the biggest roommate problem. According to the Fung Brothers and their video “Wanking In The Dorm Room,” the toughest part of sharing a room is finding the time alone to masturbate. In the first few minutes, this video is funny and relatable. And then it gets really, really weird. Check it out and you’ll see what I mean.
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It’s that time of year where we all take stock of our lives, realize we’re hot messes and resolve to change our behavior…for about two weeks. Because while eating healthier, working out more and generally being a more mature person are worthy aspirations that we should all work towards, we would be remiss if we failed to acknowledge that our sex lives could always use a little work. Whether you’re having sex daily, every six months or not at all, with a long-term partner, a FWB, or a one night stand, there is always room to grow and have better experiences. I mean, if the apocalypse or whatever really is next December, I need to go out knowing that I had the sexiest year to date, so next year, I want to do the following…
1. Stop feeling guilty about my preferences.
Sometimes I’m not in the mood. Sometimes I don’t want to be on top. Sometimes I just want to lay there and enjoy it. Sometimes I want Rihanna playing in the background. It’s totally okay for me to be selfish sometimes, because while, yes, pleasing my partner is important, so is taking my own pleasure into account. This is definitely a balancing act I don’t have down yet. Read More »
The politics surrounding sex toys are quite curious. I’m occasionally struck by the idea that sex toy is a bit of a misnomer. Most of the time when we think about sex toys, it’s in the context of masturbation, not intercourse, is it not? But what happens when sex toys transcend the gap between self-pleasure and mutual satisfaction? Not for the sexually timid, I would suggest — but it is quite tempting to contemplate adding one good thing (sex toys) to another good thing (sex). Why is introducing sex toys into your sex life a step that many find daunting to consider? No, I’ll admit I’ve not tried it, but under the right circumstances, I’d not be averse to it either. In fact, researching this column has made me decidedly curious…
But first, let’s consider sex toys and their use in general. Although female masturbation is still an arguably controversial topic, simultaneously it’s relatively normal (even expected) that a young (single) woman should own a vibrator. It’s sexy, it’s a bit naughty, it’s liberating. Women will talk about vibrators with their friends with nary a blush to be seen. Gals all over the world will get themselves off with the help of their dear Lelo Lily. Read More »
Every once in awhile, I’ll hear dudes lament how handjobs became obsolete past high school. It’s true enough, I suppose. At some point, oral and intercourse replaced the handy. In theory, I totally understand why some dudes miss the HJ – I still enjoy a good fingerbang probably more often than is “normal” for someone over the age of 17. But I refuse to do my part to bring handjobs back. Occasionally, my boyfriend asks for one, and I’ll oblige, very reluctantly. But honestly, they suck. And here’s why…
They’re hard work.
Blow jobs have the reputation for being arduous, but either my hands/wrists are weak, or my mouth is unusually strong. Seriously, within minutes of commencing a HJ, my hand starts cramping, my wrist gets sore and I’m not mentally engaged enough to want to continue. I can’t help but look around the room, think of my grocery list and wonder if Ryan Gosling asks his ladies to endure such torture. Read More »
To forewarn you, I am by no means a sex toy sexpert. But even with my unprofessional eyes I can identify when something is just not right. I know everyone has different tastes and preferences and I’m not here to judge, (unless you’re wearing sweats in public…haha just kidding…not really…too soon?), but below are ten extremely questionable sex toys that violated my eyes– so I can’t imagine what they’d do you to your hooha. Read More »
I’m pretty open-minded when it comes to sex. I like getting spanked. I’ve had anal. I love giving blowjobs. I’m into exhibitionism. I’ve done mild knife play and I’ve had my wrists restrained…but I hate masturbating. And I’ve tried. I’m actually pro-masturbation, in theory. I love the idea of getting to know your own body intimately, of taking your sexual pleasure in your own hands (literally). I love the idea of not having to rely on anyone else to get yourself off.
I remember the very first time I masturbated. I was 15. I had the house to myself, and Britney’s In The Zone album had been out for a few months. She had a song dedicated to masturbation, and I thought it was so awesome and sexy, and I felt so empowered, and I made my first time an event. I was freshly showered. I laid in bed, put “Touch Of My Hand” on repeat. I took deep breaths, relaxed myself and started exploring. At first, I was excited about the foreign nature of what I was doing. I low-key hated my vagina for 4-5 days a month, and the rest of the time, I ignored it. Read More »