Testing the “Friends First” Theory, Part II [Diary of the Undateable]
My rock solid judgment flew out of the window when Carlos gently convinced me to hang out that night. He promised that he wouldn’t hurt me and reminded me that he respected my decision.
It’s Always Okay to Say No [Sexy Time]
You should never shy away from expressing clear and firm boundaries to your partner.

One Month Challenge: I’m Giving Up Masturbation
Sex. I love it. So when I vowed to stop having casual sex as a part of my New Years Resolution, I took out my pent up frustration on Dr. Lovegood (my vibrator). Naturally, my masturbation frequency has skyrocketed (5-7 times a week), which I feel is perfectly reasonable… for a pubescent male.
This Post Grad Life: Are 20-Somethings Taking the Bench?
My roommate and I can relate, we’ve both been single for a while, we both like to go out and have fun and we both like to dish about it. Naturally, our conversation led to something a little sacred in the dating world. Sexay time.
Sexy Time: Abstaining is not Abnormal
There is this pervasive notion that everyone in college is obsessed with sex, that every social interaction begins with “hello” and ends with both parties naked and entwined. The “college hookup culture” rhetoric makes it sound like we all graduate with a degree, an STD, and a pregnancy scare under our belts from all our years of constant promiscuity.
Ask a Dude: Where’s The Intimacy?
Dear Dude, My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months now. We live about two hours apart but see each other at least once a week for a few days at a time. Apart from the occasional argument, all in all we’re really happy. But there is one thing that’s bugging me… He never wants sex!
Sexy Time: No, Thanks.
Sometimes, against our better judgment, we put ourselves in situations that we would rather not be in. Whether it’s too much flirting or too much tequila, sometimes we send mixed signals. One thing leads to another, hands are creeping towards places we don’t want them to go and we realize it’s time to put the breaks on. We need to say no.

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Sexy Time: Don’t Feel Like Doin’ It?
There are few things more frustrating than wanting to have sex and not being able to. While this sometimes can be self-inflicted (still not getting any, btw), this week we’re going to talk about low libido and the reasons that sometimes women just can’t get in the mood – no matter how hard they or their partners try.
Saturday Read: Chastened, by Hephzibah Anderson
At first glance, the plump peach and the virginal white background on the cover of Hephzibah Anderson’s first book Chastened: The Unexpected Story of My Year Without Sex gives the impression that this memoir will be a succulent read.
Sexy Time: Why Numbers Don’t Matter
Why does it matter how many people someone has had sex with? In the world of journalism, that, my friends, is called a question lede. I’m supposed to spend the rest of this article trying to answer that question, but honestly I can’t make any promises. You see, that question has been in my mind for a while now, and I can’t seem to figure it out.
Sexy Time: Not Getting Any
It wasn’t until I stopped having sex that I realized how sexualized everything has become. Every TV show, every movie, every magazine picture, and every song is some way related to sex. To quote Superbad, “You know what kinds of foods are shaped like dicks? The BEST kinds.”
One Month Challenge: Man-Free May, Week 4
Alright everyone. I owe you an apology. Last week’s article made no sense. Is she done? What happened? Did she mess up? Why is she crying? Just be? What does that mean?? This is really not very man-free!

Sex is Out, Celibacy is In
Much like boat shoes, chambray and shortening words, celibacy is now officially trendy. You heard me: celibacy. Trendy. Totes. Lady Gaga and Courtney Love are doing it. Or, well, not doing it, I suppose. But it’s not only them. According to a new article in the New York Post, bands of women are going celibate, claiming it makes them happy.