Question for La Tuff?! Email her at TuffyLuv@collegecandy.com and get that it answered proper!

Dear Tuffy Luv,

My boyfriend wants to have sex all the time. At first I was OK with it but now I just want to hang out sometimes. We still go on dates but its like he needs to have sex every single day. I’m stressed out! This is a busy semester for me – sometimes I just don’t feel like it! How can I tell him without hurting his feelings?

Thanks Tuffy!

Tired

Dear Tired,

Repeat after me: Get your goddamn hands off of me.

Okay, sorry kids. Aunt Tuffy is having a busy couple of weeks herself so the idea of some dude forcing his overactive weewee on someone who is too tired to do it right now, goddammit–well, it makes Aunt Tuffy a little tired herself.

But, back to you.

In any case, Tired, I’m sure he’s not doing it on purpose. The fact that he still wants to go on dates and everything is reassuring. If, like, he just wanted to have sex and DIDN’T want to do the whole dating this anymore, well, then I’d say the guy is cheating or just biding his time. But that doesn’t sound like the case here.

Okay, so, seriously, just say no. I know that sounds overplayed, but it really works. Tell him firmly, “baby, I’m tired, but I think you’re really hot and I can’t wait to do it tomorrow” (or whenever). The next day, when he isn’t so worked up, sit him down and explain that you’re really stressed out and you need some cuddle time (non-sex time) too.

Look, sex is a production. Whether we like it or not, it takes a lot of energy. He’s gotta understand that you’re not always in the mood just because he is.

But, to be fair, he has needs too. So if you refuse sex, make sure you give him something back: a massage or perhaps some smaller, less exhausting sexual favor.

And remember, kids, always use condoms. Or else Aunt Tuffy will eat your face.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv