Well boys and girls, we’ve come to the fourth and final installment of “What the hell did I get myself into?”: Online Dating Edition. It’s been a whirlwind of a month, and I am sad to say (spoiler alert) that I did not find a boyfriend. Cue the tears, cue Adele, and cue me shoveling Ben and Jerry’s down my throat. I’m okay though really. No tears for this girl. I might sound a little cocky when I say this, but the reason I didn’t find a boyfriend wasn’t because I couldn’t get a guy to look in my general direction. I got several messages from men throughout the day, everyday for four weeks. I had many guys interested in “me”, and I put “me” in quotation marks because I’m not sure how many of the guys really wanted to get to know me or just have sex with me (and I guess I’ll never know!). The reason why I didn’t come out of this challenge with the desired end result is because I realized that I don’t want a boyfriend.

I repeat: I do not want a boyfriend.

I am not saying that I don’t have those moments when all I want to do is cuddle up with someone cute and have him play with my hair while I drift off to sleep. I have a deep desire to eventually find “The One” and have a marriage and a family. I will never let go of that dream. I will always have that dream. I think what I am saying is that I do not have a desire to pursue that dream right now.

I came across several men that were sweet and sexy, but I just wasn’t feeling it. I was really into Mitch for a few weeks, but I soon realized that there was no chemistry there (I know, that sounds like a cop out, but it’s true!), and he also looked way too much like my ex-boyfriend. I thought I could get over it, but I cannot. After our second date, he leaned in for a kiss. I accepted. When I opened my eyes, I saw my ex. I did not see Mitch. My sight was blurry. Once I re-focused, I knew it wasn’t going to work. Not only because Mitch was a clone of my ex but because I wasn’t putting my whole heart into it. I wasn’t fully there. I did not want a boyfriend.

Though I didn’t get my “happy ending”, being a member of OK Cupid did open my eyes to a lot of things that I had never really thought of before. One huge revelation was that there are so many men out there. And yes, there are going to be some creepers and guys you’re not attracted to, but let me tell you, there are a lot of guys on OK Cupid (and other dating sites, I’m sure!) that have attractive, sweet, educated men that are looking for the same thing that women are. You might wonder, “Why is he trying online dating? What is wrong with him?” The answer is nothing! You’re completely normal (minus the standard level of crazy that each and every girl possesses, let’s be real) and you’re searching through dating profiles on OK Cupid too! Therefore nothing wrong with him. There is nothing wrong with you.

Some people just need a little help.

I hope you guys enjoyed my small stint in the online dating world and learned a thing or two in the process.  I definitely wouldn’t steer people away from online dating after doing this one-month challenge because my mind has truly been changed about the whole process and stupid stigma that comes with dating on the internet. It’s not as scary as you think. It’s not pathetic. It’s not desperate. It’s just another way to meet a person that you might build a relationship with and maybe fall in love. Now what doesn’t sound good about that?

Last week, I realized that I’ve basically (and pathetically) dabbled in online dating since I had access to a laptop. You guys remember Tagged? In middle school, I talked to a high school football player for precisely one week. I was so proud of myself – I even printed out his picture to show to my friends! Eventually, he stopped answering my calls and sent a culminating email calling the whole thing off. At least they learn early, right?

In the ninth grade, I had a Myspace fauxlationship with another guy. We exchanged messages for a good two months…can you believe that I actually considered him my boyfriend?! I was number two on his Top 8…a very big deal, indeed. And now as a college junior, every single date I’ve been on – all two of them – were provided by the net.

I really should close my damn laptop and give this stuff a rest, but I have two good reasons that stop me from shutting down. Dating online is so much easier for me because I’m chronically shy. I’d probably drink unfiltered Hudson River water before approaching a guy in class or at the bar. I’m just way too afraid of rejection. In online dating I’ve learned that there’s still plenty of rejection, but it’s much easier to face in pixels than in person.

My other reason is the fact that online dating has a lot of shiny success stories that give me a glimmer of hope. My friend’s sister Shana met her fiancé on OkCupid. Last year, the sisters visited Europe for a summer trip and Shana started chatting with her man before they set sail. My friend said they met up and grew inseparable through Skype and occasional visits. A few weeks ago, an Instagram flick popped up on my feed – her hand had a glistening engagement ring attached! She did it…she found love on the wild, wild web.

Whenever I get discouraged by my lack of messages or views, I often think of Shana and all of the other happy couples that met on the net. Every time I meet a creep who wants to send me peen pics or get ignored by those cute and artsy NYU hunks, I know that somewhere in the world my fiancé awaits on his MacBook Pro. But maybe one day I’ll muster up enough courage to step away from my laptop and find him in real time.

CollegeCandy, what’s your stance on online dating?

When she’s not watching for Blue Ivy sightings or doing some serious Facebook creeping, Khalea moonlights as a print journalism major at the REAL HU, Howard University. Follow her on Twitter at @letsbeKHAlear, or feel free to Twatch. Whatever works for you.

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This past week, I’ve been getting the same old shtick from the guys on OK Cupid. Some are creepy, some are nice, and some are just not my type, but it is what it is. I stopped messaging guys I thought were cute/interesting/worthy of my time, because I am still really interested Mitch. Am I kind of defeating the whole purpose of this task? I’m supposed to be shopping online for a boyfriend right? I feel like I’ve been walking around the store, browsing all the stuff, trying some of it on, but I’m still holding onto that one really cute shirt I loved. (Just haven’t made it to the check out to purchase it…) Will I ever be ready to purchase the shirt? I don’t know.

I was out of town his weekend and unable to communicate with Mitch much, which was kind of a bummer, because we had a good flow going, but we are planning another date soon. I think there is something different with Mitch. And I truly think it has a lot to do with OK Cupid. It’s nice to talk and communicate and see someone’s photos and bios. It’s different than someone’s photos and bios on a Facebook or Google+ page because on OK Cupid, everyone is looking for a similar thing! Whether it’s marriage material, a fun fling, a nice date, friendship, etc. I never thought I would be saying these things, but now more than ever, I truly get the phrase, “Don’t knock it ‘till you try it!” I’ve been converted.

So now that you guys are caught up on how I’m feeling about the whole concept of online dating, I thought I would share a pretty hilarious/weird/interesting anecdote from this week that I took mental note of, because it was just too good to keep to myself and not share with the entire Internet. That’s another great thing about online dating—nonstop entertainment

That time I got matched up with my best guy friend…

 So, I was just trolling OK Cupid, minding my own business when I get a notification that OK Cupid has some new matches for me to check out. I went to check it out, and what do I see? I see my best guy friend in the world’s face staring back at me. I didn’t even know what to think at first. I had about a million thoughts running through my head. Why didn’t he tell me he was on OK Cupid? Why was he on OK Cupid in the first place? How did we get matched up? And obviously the most important thing: Why did he use a photo of us for his profile and then CROP ME OUT? I’m allowed to be offended about that, right?

I immediately called my best girl friend to tell her about this kismet moment, and when she started cracking up, I loosened up a little. I guess it was kind of funny. She recommended that I tell him I’m on OK Cupid, too, before he finds me just like how I found him, because he might feel as weird as I did about it. And then she asked me a really strange question–“Are you mad that he’s on OK Cupid?” Was I mad? Why would she even ask me that? I guess I should preface that this best guy friend and I have had a pretty complicated and long “friendship” for years. Basically consisting of love confessions (both of us at different times…), love rejections (both of us at different times…), and drunken hookups (both of us at the same time, obvi). I guess I kind of always had this notion that he needed to be in love with me forever (even if I didn’t love him back), and he was supposed to pine over me for eternity and go to his grave never loving anyone but me. That’s fair, right?

In the end, I respected his decision to look for love other than me, and told him that I was on there too. He seemed kind of embarrassed (because of the dreaded Online Dating Stigma), but then questioned why I was on it. I told him about the CC article, and that I was doing it for my art (not fully true), and he just rolled his eyes. He told me he’d been on a few dates, but nothing serious. Then I started getting this weird feeling in my stomach—jealously pangs. Guys and girls can’t be friends, can they?

So guys, here I am, wondering if OK Cupid just led me to where I needed to be a long time ago—with a guy I’ve known for years. We did get matched up after all, and I have always wondered what it would be like if we finally took the plunge and started dating. We made plans to go out to dinner later this week, and I’m not sure if I should say something or if this is just my head playing tricks on me. Did I find my future boyfriend on OK Cupid after all? What about Mitch? This is turning into a daytime soap, guys! I’ll keep you posted! Until next time!

So another week has gone by since I started this journey into the world of online dating, and I don’t even know where to begin. There are so many things I want to touch upon and so little time! For this post, I decided to break it down by questions I’ve come across while toying around with the OK Cupid site and meeting (yup, I said meeting) men from this site.  There have been some funny (and not so funny) bumps in the road since I started my new online life, but I’ve realized a lot of things too. Like how it’s almost impossible to really judge someone’s personality (or looks for that matter!) from an online dating profile or how you’re going to get inquiries from a lot of men that aren’t your type and this will lead you to get very discouraged and frustrated.

I’m still not 100% sold on the concept of online dating, but I’m getting more and more used to it as the days go on. I even downloaded the OK Cupid iPhone app, which is pretty useful and fun. I get notifications anytime I get a message from someone or when someone who is a good match for me is “checking out my profile”. It’s also super easy to use, and I’ve found myself browsing through some men when I’m bored in class.

It’s been a pretty active week in my OK Cupid world, and I have definitely come across some pretty great anecdotes and random thoughts. I thought I’d let you guys in on what has been going on with my dating life. I would also like to note that names have been changed to protect the innocent because I am not completely heartless.

That one time I realized that over 50 guys look at my profile but only 10 messaged me…

OK Cupid notifies you of every single member who looks at your profile, and I get a lot of views, but about 1/5 of them actually message me to say hello. What gives? I guess I need to realize that not every single guy is going to find me attractive or think my profile is funny. To be perfectly honest, I didn’t put that much effort into my profile so I can see why a guy would probably be like, “What is this girl’s deal?” I also realized that I look at a lot of guys’ profiles but rarely go ahead and message them hello. I guess I’m doing the same thing these guys are doing. This is a realization that I have overcome. See guys, I’m growing!

 That one time I got asked for a “body shot”…

I put up eight or nine pictures on my profile. Some of them are up close of my face and some of them are farther away because it’s a group shot with a bunch of my friends. The other day, I received a message from a guy asking me if he could “see a body shot”. A body shot? You want to do body shots off me? Oh, you want to see what I look like in a bikini/naked. I am not the skinniest person in the world (or the largest for that matter). I have a pretty normal build for a 23-year-old girl, and I am okay with how I look, but I am not about to send some creep a picture of myself just so that he can validate me. No thanks, bro.

 That one time the only guy I liked on OK Cupid was a clone of my ex-boyfriend…

As I was looking through some of my matches on OK Cupid, I stumbled across a photo that really caught my eye. Why you ask? Because this guy looked eerily similar to my ex-boyfriend—my ex-boyfriend that ripped my heart out, threw it in a blender, and then drank it like a smoothie. (Too much?) As I read this guy’s profile, I immediately hated him just because he looked so much like my ex. They even have the same profession and enjoy the same tastes in music. I did a double check to make sure that this actually wasn’t my ex because they were so eerily similar. But even so, I couldn’t stop myself from chuckling at all his answers to the profile questions. With each sentence, he started to remind me less of my ex and more like the guy he was. He was funny, he was charming, and he was about to get a message from little ol’ me! His name is Mitch, and I am really enjoying where things are going with him. We messaged back and forth and a bit, became Facebook friends (so we could really see what the other was about), and now we have begun texting!

And hey guys, guess what? We went on a date! We had a great first date getting a little frozen treat at my favorite fro-yo place. He was a perfect gentleman and there was not one awkward silence the entire time. Maybe that’s because I never shut up (seriously, ask anyone who knows me), or maybe that’s because we had some chemistry. And I’ll tell you something else, I didn’t think of my ex one time even though they could be twins. Now, I’m not saying I’m in love or even if we’ll go out again, but I can say that OK Cupid has led me somewhere. And it wasn’t to a state of crippling depression or an axe murderer’s house, but rather to a great date with a nice guy.

I think, with time, I’m learning that I was really judgmental of online dating websites. I am finding out every day that tons of my friends have actually tried it and some have succeeded in their trials. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone in this, and I also appreciate you guys commenting with words of encouragement and advice! Keep them coming!

I have been single for almost two years. It’s been good. It’s been bad. It’s been lonely. It’s been fun as hell. Every single day, I gather a different opinion on the subject. Sometimes there is nothing I love more than going out with my other single girlfriends on a Saturday night and talking to different guys. No strings. No one to answer to. No games. No jealousy. No worries! I am I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T!

And then there are the nights when I’m not so happy. My bed seems bigger than usual, and for some reason all I want to do is cuddle.  I want someone to go to the farmer’s market with me on Saturday mornings. I want someone to call when I find out I got promoted/demoted/too much foam in my latte/whatever. Someone who will always pick up the phone and deal with my bull. And for almost two years, I haven’t had that person.

Many women make their whole lives about men. Finding a good man, getting a man’s validation or approval, marrying a man and having babies with that man. I’m not going to sit here and say that I’ve never had that idea in my head or that a man has never defined my self worth—they have. I’m not doing this 30-Day Challenge because I think that a man or a boyfriend is the key to my happiness or any woman’s happiness for that matter, but sometimes it’s nice to have a companion. It’s nice to be taken out for a date. What’s better than the beginning of a new relationship? You’re up in the clouds. Love drunk, as I like to call it.

So I have decided that I want to be love drunk once again! Since I only have 30 days to make this happen, I thought I would dive head first into the dating pool, and we all know what that means—online dating. Now before you yell at me, hear me out! I know I’m only 23 years old and probably should wait a little bit before I do online dating, I decided to change my beliefs for the sake of this experiment.

Online dating is weird. I am not even going to lie and tell you guys that I think it’s a totally normal thing. But I joined OKCupid yesterday. I made my profile, which was so easy. I was shocked at how simple and easy it was. You make an “About Me” page just like you would on Facebook and then answer a bunch of questions. OKCupid uses these questions to help find you matches. The more questions you answer, the more accurate your matches will be. The profile/homepage looks something like this:

Now like I said, I started OK Cupid yesterday and have already received many messages from men saying they are “interested in getting to know me”. Well that’s nice, I thought to myself. When was the last time I met a guy in person who said he just wanted to get to know me? The thing that I’m still kind of iffy about when it comes to online dating is that most of it has to just be based off the pictures we post. I posted about 5 pictures (obviously flattering ones) and I can’t help but wonder if the men messaging me even read my profile. These messages that I received were nice, but kind of creepy. There were a couple times yesterday where I wanted to just give up this whole challenge because the creep-level was just getting to be too much. Here is a perfect example of the creepiness that I am talking about:

“I’m just looking at something that I would bite, I meant that I like.”

WHAT? No thank you. You may not bite me. You may not like me. In fact, stop looking at me! Then there was this guy who just pretty much told me exactly what he wanted:

This was the point where I kind of just started laughing to myself and asked myself what the hell I was doing. I was only getting messages from guys like The Biter and The Friends With Benefits Man (Don’t we need to be FRIENDS first?), so I decided to take matters into my own hands. It was time to send out some messages myself.

With the help of my best friend, I concocted some pretty decent messages that I sent to guys who looked normal in their pictures (no mirror shots, etc.) and their profiles seemed interesting (They listed at least one book they enjoyed reading). I have not heard back from said men, which makes me feel super good. Is there anything worse than Internet rejection? I don’t think there is. Granted I think I need to give myself a little slack because it has only been a day since I sent these messages. I just want somebody to love! Is that so much to ask?!

I’m happy that you guys are along from the ride with me on this one. Online dating is definitely new territory for me, and while I do not expect to find the love of my life or even a serious boyfriend out of this, maybe I will just get to go on a few dates. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. I’m really planning on going on dates if I find some normal guys who don’t want to murder me with an axe. And in that case, I cannot wait to come back to CC and tell you all about them because, knowing my life, there will something worthy to write about! Until next week…

How do you feel about online dating? Do you have any tips to share? Wish me luck!!

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I, Courtney, am an online dater. Many of you probably find this weird considering I’m in college, a place filled with more available men than a single woman could ever dream of, but I’m finding it’s more common than you think. The truth is, people just don’t want to admit it.

I first joined OKCupid (yes, that is the name) when I was 16. I had no intentions of dating anyone from the site, I just loved getting messages saying how pretty I was. And throughout high school that was basically what I used it for. I never really found anyone attractive at my high school, or even remotely tolerable, so online dating seemed like a good idea. At least for the confidence boost.

I didn’t rejoin the circuit until sophomore year of college when my friend found a site called Plenty of Fish (we obviously joined it just for the name). My headline for my profile was “I’ma hook, line and sink ya!” Again, I really didn’t have any interest in dating someone online; it was more of a procrastination tool than anything else. (There are a lot of hilarious weirdos out there!)Besides, I was more interested in a boy from one of my classes.

When 2010 hit, though, I started to actually take online dating seriously. I set up a real profile, responded to guys’ flirtatious emails and started going on dates. I became an online dater and while it hasn’t panned out into anything serious yet, I am glad i did.

I’ve always been really busy and haven’t had time to casually wait for some guy to sweep me off my feet. Online dating sites make the sorting process one has to do at a bar easier. And who wants to date someone they met at a bar anyway? With online dating you get to view your potential suitor’s height (always least an inch less than what they say), decent pictures, and (my biggest thing) you can see how they write. Do they know how to use “there, their, and they’re” correctly? Do they use “Z’s” instead of “S’s” or, my least favorite, are they too lazy to spell things out fully (“I lyke 2 go 2 the bar, u do 2?”)

Plus, I was tired of being set up by friends; how many more blind “dates” can someone handle? (And by “dates” I mean meeting up at a party and having him grab a beer from the keg for me.) It’s not like I have a problem meeting people – I’m surprisingly nice and friendly – I just have a problem meeting the right people. You know, the single good looking guys that find my dry humor charming. I also tend to take on the role of the girl friend (not girlfriend) with most of the guys I meet, meaning no chance for romance.

And that is where the Internet came to my aid. I’ve gone on 15 dates with 15 different guys since September. I’ve met a lot of great guys, had a lot of great (free!) meals and even broadened my music collection, thanks to suggestions made by different people from the site. And along with finding potential romantic matches, I’ve also made some decent friends.

So why are people being so secretive about this? It’s a lot of fun to meet people I never would have, but online dating isn’t for everyone. Just like not everyone is lucky to bump into a random person and form a romantic connection with them. But you shouldn’t judge before you join; it is not as weird as movies like Because I Said So make it out to be. Many people are on these sites because they miss being in a relationship but don’t have time or don’t know how to meet people randomly. Or they’re new to town. Or they too are over trying to find love over SoCo lime shots at the campus bar.

AND…isn’t online dating what any girl would want? It’s like online shopping, except there are really cute guys involved and you don’t have to pay for anything. You’ve literally got nothing to lose (either people will message you or they won’t) but a whole lot to gain; online dating has made me more assertive, given me better self-confidence and allowed me to truly flush out what it is I’m looking for.

So my advice? Don’t judge before you join. You never know who else could be out there, and online dating is a great way of testing the waters.

What do you think? Will you join?

[This story was originally posted by Courtney - Bridgewater State University]

Now the question is, how do you prepare for the big night? Should you fill the room with lavender scented candles and smooth jazz or take out the handcuffs, the whip and the slutty dominatrix outfit? What is your date going to want out of the night: raunchy ankles-behind-your-head sex or to partake in the sweet and sensual act of making love?

According to OkCupid, a start-up dating site complete with in depth statistical analysis, it is rather easy to figure it out. Certain words found within online personalities (Facebook, blogs, about.me profiles) can indicate whether your date likes it rough or wants it gentle. These words can help you plan better for the big night.

Women:

Prominent words suggesting rough sex:

-Damn                            -Nerdy

-Obsessed                      -Bored

-Shit                                -Opinionated

-Piercing                        -Internet

-Undergrad                   -Grammar

-Religion                        -Tattoos

-Grammar                      -Smoke

Women:

Prominent words suggesting gentle sex:

-England                         -Faith

-Dining                           -Sincere

-Church                           -Old-fashioned

-Gardening                     -Touch

-Crafts                              -Boating

-Volunteer                      -Cuddling

-Sensitive                        -Optimist

Men:

Prominent words suggesting rough sex:

-Ridiculous                      -Poetry

-Cynical                            -PhD

-Punk                                -Lame

-Tattoo                              -Asshole

-Graduating                     -Eccentric

-Atheist                             -Anime

-Comics                            -Bored

Men:

Prominent words suggesting gentle sex:

-Challenges                       -Creativity

-Boating                             -Television

-Regularly                          -Evening

-Limited                             -Western

-Missing                            -Cycling

-Sincere                             -Parks

-Faithful                            -Communication

Well there you have it. The ultimate list of words correlated with sexual preference. Now let me just cover my ass by saying that it is important to only use these lists as guidelines and to always act within your partner’s personal comfort zone. Nothing is clearer than a live personal statement of preference. And whether your date prefers the missionary position or the “face off’ (yeah look that one up), just make sure to enjoy the ride, literally.

The number one thing a guy wants in bed? Is a blowjob. Really? I am shocked and awed. I had no idea guys liked getting head. So disappointing, I thought they’d at least take  page out of Cosmo’s book and talk about doggy style or anal. There was a horrifying article about Female Genital Cosmetic Surgery, which is just as depressing as it sounds. G-spot collagen, vagina tightening and labia nip/tucks, among other procedures, were outlined. Because women really need another part of our bodies to be discontent with.

I, Courtney, am an online dater. Many of you probably find this weird considering I’m in college, a place filled with more available men than a single woman could ever dream of, but I’m finding it’s more common than you think. The truth is, people just don’t want to admit it.

I first joined OKCupid (yes, that is the name) when I was 16. I had no intentions of dating anyone from the site, I just loved getting messages saying how pretty I was. And throughout high school that was basically what I used it for. I never really found anyone attractive at my high school, or even remotely tolerable, so online dating seemed like a good idea. At least for the confidence boost.

I didn’t rejoin the circuit until sophomore year of college when my friend found a site called Plenty of Fish (we obviously joined it just for the name). My headline for my profile was “I’ma hook, line and sink ya!” Again, I really didn’t have any interest in dating someone online; it was more of a procrastination tool than anything else. (There are a lot of hilarious weirdos out there!)Besides, I was more interested in a boy from one of my classes.

When 2010 hit, though, I started to actually take online dating seriously. I set up a real profile, responded to guys’ flirtatious emails and started going on dates. I became an online dater and while it hasn’t panned out into anything serious yet, I am glad i did.

I’ve always been really busy and haven’t had time to casually wait for some guy to sweep me off my feet. Online dating sites make the sorting process one has to do at a bar easier. And who wants to date someone they met at a bar anyway? With online dating you get to view your potential suitor’s height (always least an inch less than what they say), decent pictures, and (my biggest thing) you can see how they write. Do they know how to use “there, their, and they’re” correctly? Do they use “Z’s” instead of “S’s” or, my least favorite, are they too lazy to spell things out fully (“I lyke 2 go 2 the bar, u do 2?”)

Plus, I was tired of being set up by friends; how many more blind “dates” can someone handle? (And by “dates” I mean meeting up at a party and having him grab a beer from the keg for me.) It’s not like I have a problem meeting people – I’m surprisingly nice and friendly – I just have a problem meeting the right people. You know, the single good looking guys that find my dry humor charming. I also tend to take on the role of the girl friend (not girlfriend) with most of the guys I meet, meaning no chance for romance.

And that is where the Internet came to my aid. I’ve gone on 15 dates with 15 different guys since September. I’ve met a lot of great guys, had a lot of great (free!) meals and even broadened my music collection, thanks to suggestions made by different people from the site. And along with finding potential romantic matches, I’ve also made some decent friends.

So why are people being so secretive about this? It’s a lot of fun to meet people I never would have, but online dating isn’t for everyone. Just like not everyone is lucky to bump into a random person and form a romantic connection with them. But you shouldn’t judge before you join; it is not as weird as movies like Because I Said So make it out to be. Many people are on these sites because they miss being in a relationship but don’t have time or don’t know how to meet people randomly. Or they’re new to town. Or they too are over trying to find love over SoCo lime shots at the campus bar.

AND…isn’t online dating what any girl would want? It’s like online shopping, except there are really cute guys involved and you don’t have to pay for anything. You’ve literally got nothing to lose (either people will message you or they won’t) but a whole lot to gain; online dating has made me more assertive, given me better self-confidence and allowed me to truly flush out what it is I’m looking for.

So my advice? Don’t judge before you join. You never know who else could be out there, and online dating is a great way of testing the waters.

What do you think? Will you join?

Their findings, highlighted on BettyConfidential.com, are surprising and hilarious. Here’s what you, college ladies, had to say:

Did you know that vegetarians enjoy giving oral sex 2.5 times more than carnivores do? (Dramatic pause as you snap a carrot from the crudites platter.)

Redheads are eight percent more likely to participate in a menage a trois than college students with other hair hues. Also, 24 percent of redheads have taken naked photos or posted sexy videos of themselves online. (Lucille Ball would be so proud.)

Lest you think carrotheads are the only kinky kids out there, nearly 60 percent of college students have participated in a one-night stand. And 41 percent have had sex while someone else is in the room. Sounds more risqué than it is, when you calculate the inevitable roommate factor. Ah, dormmates, the mother of exhibitionism.

Next time a friend or offspring announces her longing for a tattoo, throw some tat stats in her face. According to the study, students with tattoos are twice as likely to have STDs and take pregnancy tests than their tat-free counterparts. They may also be destined to a lifetime of boring sex, as tattooed folks prefer the missionary 2-to-1 to the cowgirl position.

Do you agree with these findings? And don’t you think it’s weird that people who don’t eat meat like to…well, you know.