Not sure if any of you have heard – probably have by now – about Genarlow Wilson, who was convicted at age 17 of having consensual oral sex with a girl age 15. He was sentenced to 10 years and has already served 27 months — FINALLY, some judge took his head out his ass long enough to go…WHOA, WTF are we doing?

Half the internet has made this an issue of white vs. black, about double standards and race discrimination. Don’t get me wrong, there are still some places in the South that still think the Civil War was an impass, but this poor kid was convicted because we have a judicial system that goes by absolutes. “If/Then” statements rule half of the laws out there. Genarlow was considered an adult, while his partner was a minor – that is the legal justification of the “crime”. PLUS, they have demanded that he register as a sex offender.

In this case, there are many other factors: he was also accused of raping a 17 year old girl (ACQUITTED), he and all members at the party were drunk and stoned (NO CHARGES FILED) and some idiot video taped the whole thing for his personal whack-off library. Everyone is bringing up all of these other charges, when they discuss this case, but there is no reason – he was found NOT GUILTY – which is only the basis of our entire judicial system.

How does this case involve us?

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Are girls more willing to have sex than to give blowjobs? Is that really the case?

Well, I can’t speak for every chick who walks this planet, but I know why I feel more inclined towards the former. Two reasons, actually.

A) mouth + jizz = very intimate situation, and B) blowjobs are designed to make one person feel good, and only one.

CollegeCandy’s own Andrew points out an interesting phenomenon. He might be right when he says college and twenty-something women are more likely to roll around in the hay than kneel at the alter. But there’s a reason for the trend. Or reasons. (see rationales A and B above).

The older we woman get, the more we begin to take control of our sexuality. And the more we take control of our sexuality, the more we crave satisfaction. One would hope with maturity comes acceptance of one’s urges, and the stigma that only sluts like sex fades back into the mouths of the idiots who tried to preach it. Read More »

In the year since I’ve graduated, I’ve noticed a startling and disheartening trend. More and more girls want to have sex. Umm, what? A guy that’s disheartened because more girls want to get wild in the sack? Well, I’m not finished. The disheartening part is that this extra love-making is seemingly coming at the expense of oral sex.

In college, oral sex was the thing to do. Girls willing to give blow-jobs were a dime-a-dozen, and even as early as freshman year, any moderately good looking guy could walk into any frat and find at least one girl willing to go down on him that night. But now? Almost every girl I’ve dated since leaving college has been far more apt to get right to the nitty-gritty than take the time to pleasure me for a while. Even when I willingly and often eagerly take the time to go down on the girl, I’ve found that she’s only very rarely willing to reciprocate. Read More »

I don’t like to toot my own horn, but I am every man’s dream woman; it only takes two beers to get me drunk and, unlike most women, it doesn’t take much to get me going. A guy needs only to look in my direction if he wants to rile me up and finish me off. It’s amazing that I was single for so long. The problem with such perks comes with the reputation that spreads. I was once known as “Quickie McClimax” or “Anyone-Can-Get-Her-Off Girl” amongst some of my peers and one-night bedmates. Now, I don’t really care what people think of me or say about me, but it becomes a problem when a reputation like this precedes me.

What happens when a guy can’t get me off? Well, I’ll tell you.

I am forced to fake it.

And I am sure you all have been there too. We all know men hate it when a woman resorts to faking it, but there is a lot that goes into that decision that they just don’t understand. If you ever find yourself tongue tied when trying to explain your reasoning for faking it, print out this bad boy and hand it to your man.

1) We don’t want you to feel inadequate: My friend thinks this is the worst excuse ever. He claims that he would rather a girl tell him what to do than fake it. Read More »

Let’s face it; even the most sex-obsessed couple can lose some steam after awhile. It’s not that we want to. Rather, it’s that once we are in a relationship long enough things get comfortable: bikini/leg waxes become less frequent, lying around and doing nothing becomes more frequent, and sex just becomes something we do.

The passion is gone. Instead of tearing each other’s clothes off and throwing them all over the room, we get undressed quietly and hop into bed for yet another night of sex. Boring sex. The kind of sex that makes you wish you had used that precious time to catch up on old episodes of Run’s House instead.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. By simply throwing a few hot new tricks into the mix you can take your sex life from “boring” to “bada bing” in no time. The best place to start? Mixing up some fun oral action.

1. Bring in the Treats: The only thing guys like more than watching their girl go down on them is to watch a girl lick something tasty off of them. Something sweet like chocolate sauce, honey, yogurt, etc. Bringing dessert into the bedroom will send your boy into high gear and bring the heat back into the bedroom.

2. Location, Location, Location: Take oral sex out of the house and into a far more exciting place. Like the library, the bathroom at your favorite bar, or the (every guy’s dream) car. Or, if you are feeling really saucy, why not try it on the 50 yard line of your football stadium? Or maybe when he’s on his way out in the morning for an exam. Read More »

In a previous blog about 40 mistakes guys make in the bedroom a list found on Scribd.com was brought to the attention of many female college students and readers.The list was pretty much dead-on about the many traumatic errors men make between the sheets, so much so that I just couldn’t bare to let this one go without another crack at it–a deeper, more detailed one.

I’ve been showing the article to numerous friends and acquaintances, as to get a broader opinion on the whole thing, and I’ve stumbled upon some interesting feedback from my fellow female colleagues and sexual savants.

Here I have listed what I have found to be the most tragically common sexual faux-pas, that college girls like ourselves often play victim to, and added some commentary that I think you’ll enjoy.

The following are in no particular order or scale (from most offensive to least). They all pretty much suck – so avoid, at all costs, any guy that makes a habit out of the following faux-pas.

• Not Kissing – when a guy goes strait for the O-Zone (not necessarily an “O-Zone” for us, but rather a device in providing an easily attainable “O” for them—bastards!) it doesn’t make a girl…how do I say this nicely?—wet! It makes us feel like Julia Roberts in pretty women, pre-falling madly in love with Richard Gear—not cool.

• Not Shaving – and I’m not just talking about the prickly shards of hair that protrude from a man’s face by 5p.m., and often cause irritating rashes—wherever they may arise. Men must also be clean shaven down below, especially if they are going to expect the same courtesy from us. No one (male or female) needs to be “flossing” while performing down unda’.

• Ignoring Her Other Body Parts – we ladies, I believe, have 7 erogenous zones, according to Monica Gellar. Yet men tend to pay attention to only 3—and barely. The twins and the other, most important sista’, are what men seem to focus on most; but as most ladies know, we love and adore having every inch of our bodies touched, caressed and sexually teased. Read More »

The woman has spoken. In response to the “40 Things Men do Wrong in the Bedroom” I found last week, an incredibly insightful and hilarious female blogger has posted a response.

Before reading it I thought to myself, “Um, I do nothing wrong in the bedroom…I am a freak in the sheets.” Turns out even I – a self proclaimed Sex Goddess (who has had very few complaints) – have a few bedroom shortcomings.

I will be honest: it is hard to read a list like this and realize that many of the items on the list (mainly, #9) apply to you. I mean, I have been performing number nines for years and never had complaints. I have, embarrassingly enough, had a few suitors do the old head grab. I got offended. Instead I should have gotten a little more crafty with my moves. And incorporated my hands a little more. And practiced some kama sutra or something… Read More »

Men and their blow jobs! It’s unbelievable. Now, please don’t get me confused with one that does not provide oral sex to the opposite sex, because I most certainly do—and I’d like to think (according to my boyfriend’s face and grunts of joy) that I’m pretty damn good at it. But…if women were so publicly in love and obsessed with having their va-jay-jays licked, as men are with their penises, I think the world would go into shock.

Blow jobs are everywhere. From the endless supply of how-to literature, and porno medleys of non-stop fellatio, to over-hearing boys talk about it in a passing conversation; how to give it, how they like it, and how they want, seems to be all men ever talk about. They go hand in hand, like “me and my buddy”. Introduced to one another as young as 14 or 15-years-old, the male species and dick-sucking have been inseparable ever since. If in the event blow jobs all of a sudden became illegal and completely unattainable, the world would not only go into shock, but probably crumble at the seams. I guess it still really is a man’s world. Ugh, don’t get me started on that!

Literature, such as iVillage’s “A Guy’s Guide to Gals on Giving Amazing Oral Sex,” is one of the many examples of how-to literature—which I find nothing wrong with. Hell, I’d love to learn some new tricks, but someone better be supplying my boyfriend with some new tricks too.

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Yep. I’ve done it. And that’s all the detail I’m willing to disclose.

But let’s talk about this precarious position for a second because yea, it feels pretty good, but it’s also a tough one to maneuver. First of all, you’ve got placement to consider — if you aren’t careful, someone could get a knee or foot in the face and that’s a real mood killer. So being smooth is pretty major.

Once you’ve made it down there successfully, you’re faced with a penis (which can be uncomfortable and/or scary). And as things get going you have to concentrate on getting him off while he’s trying to, for lack of a better/cooler word, pleasure you. Honestly, that’s hard to do when you’re probably a little self-conscious that you’re both getting so up-close-and-personal, not to mention trying to enjoy what’s happening.

To make things a little easier here are some tips (hey, I’m no expert, I’m just going by what I’ve “heard“). Read More »