We let orgasms have too much power. If we don’t have them, we stress ourselves out and having one starts to seem like a chore instead of a pleasure. If our partners don’t have them, we start second-guessing our sexy talents. And if our partners (particularly the ones of the male variety) have one too soon, they’re basically devalued as being viable, legitimate sexual partners.

So it seems CollegeCandy’s Dude is the most popular guy, like, ever. You ladies just can’t get enough. You’d think he was Bradley Cooper! (Maybe he is….that’s one secret we’ll never tell.) Luckily, this guy’s a giver (even more reason to love him) and he’s gonna bring you even more of his wisdom. Only instead of answering specific questions, he’s telling us what we all want to know and never had the balls to ask. Don’t worry, he’ll still be back every Wednesday for Ask a Dude!

Ever notice his eyes are closed? Ever wonder where he seems to go while he’s got you split like a wishbone? Believe it or not, men don’t always just think with their penises. When the penis is in the forbidden triangle, the gears upstairs keep turning until the moment of release.

Well, ladies, here’s a peek into the mindset of the mid-f*cking man.

1. “not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet not yet (ad infinitum)”
Most fellas aren’t 60 minute men. They are terrified of cumming before you do. So, they try to psyche themselves out of blowing their wad too early. Note the mantra-like repetition. We’re trying to take ourselves out of the moment to make the moment last longer. A fun little paradox: deny pleasure to prolong pleasure. Why do we cum too soon? Well, that’s a list for another time…

2. “Dead puppies, dead puppies, dead puppies, dead puppies” (repeat until ejaculation)
Each guy has a mental technique to stave off prematuring. Some think of the most hideous and UNsexual images imaginable (hence the above). Others try to imagine a baseball game being played in slow motion (although most ball games are already played in slow motion). Different strokes for different folks. Hm, maybe not the best way to put it… Read More »

I always forget that I kind of love Vanessa Hudgens. She’s currently pretty irrelevant to my interests, but I mean, let’s think about it – her hair is a work of art that totally deserves a place in the Louvre. She’s hitting it with Zac Efron, in all of his post-Disney hotness, and, not gonna lie, I still occasionally jam out to Say Ok. I don’t exactly know how she’s still snagging major magazine covers, but whatever, she’s glamorous.

However, she’s also boring and forgettable, which is kind of a theme throughout this month’s issue of Glamour. (Great cover choice, editors!) There was no article that was particularly riveting or helpful, and there was no article that was completely atrocious.

But there were definitely some flashes of hot mess.

Glamour says: If your man consistently finishes in 20 seconds and leaves you hanging, be passive aggressive and then talk to him about it.
Jasmine says: If your guy has a problem with premature ejaculation/selfishness, talk to him like a grown-up. You two are grown-ups who have sex, right? Don’t embarrass him or be unnecessarily childish about the situation.

Glamour says: Being naked with someone is a pact, a sacred oath.
Jasmine says: I don’t think anything is sacred after 6 Jager bombs, 4 shotguns, and 4 glasses of wine. Read More »

Question for the Tuffster?! Email her at tuffyluv@collegecandy.com to be featured in her column every Tuesday! Ask anything, get a Tuffisized answer.

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I’m just curious – what are some sex myths that aren’t true? I keep hearing stuff (like that you can you have sex under water with out a condom and you can’t get pregnant) that I don’t know if it’s true.

Thnx!

Curious

Dear Curious,

Thanks for your question–Tuffy luvs this shiz. Sex myths? Hysterical. But also dangerous. Okay, here’s a list of ones that are just that: myths. Read More »

Every guy has their excuse for premature ejaculation (my ex blamed it on lack of sleep due to cramming for the GREs). But now, according to a recent study by Utrecht University in the Netherlands, men can legitimately blame genetics when they come up short.

In a survey of over 200 Dutch men, researchers compared average ejaculation times with men who suffered from “primary premature ejaculation” (meaning they’ve always been one-minute men) to others who had never exhibited such symptoms.  The researchers also tracked levels of the hormone seratonin in these men, and the study found that among primary premature ejaculators, the levels of seratonin in the brain were less active. As sexual psychotherapist Paula Hall explained it, “Premature ejaculation is definitely not purely psychological.”

But there’s, uh, good news as well. Looks like guys who finish first are often “excellent at playing tennis or computer games,” due to their naturally quick reflexes.  So if things aren’t spicy in the bedroom, perhaps a quick bout of MarioKart could boost your guy’s morale.

No word yet on whether this genetic cause for PE is good or bad for the ladies.  The news could give men another excuse (laaaame), or it could pave the road for better treatment.

What do you think?