The Long Distance Relationship.

It sucks, but I keep telling myself that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I’ve been in an on and off relationship with this guy for eight years. Yes, we first started dating when I was about ten. That’s a very long time, and we’ve been through a lot, including six month periods of not talking at all. Times where I was depressed and mopey and times where I was rebellious and happy.

He’s my best friend, my love, and the one I’m pretty confident I will be with for the rest of my life. Well, we got back together, again, and now my boyfriend has moved across the country. Yet another hurdle to overcome.

Instead of getting angry or upset, I decided to look at the situation in a positive light. I could go visit for a few weeks, and he would be home for holidays. It can’t be that bad. In fact, I just returned home from a two and a half week visit with him, and it was the most amazing trip I’ve ever had. That vacation definitely solidified everything I’ve felt about him for so long. Yes, LDRs are difficult, but they can be done. If you are willing to work through it like we are, it will be worth it in the end.

But it will be work, so here a few things to keep in mind when you and your man go long distance: Read More »

For some reason, after a few cocktails, I feel the need to delve into the personal lives of others. I call this tactic an “h-to-h,” or heart-to-heart, whereupon after listening for all of two minutes, I find it appropriate to tell a person how wonderful they are and how they should never settle in life.

Without fail, this innocuous good deed always comes back to bite me in the ass. Something about the road to hell being paved with good intentions, I guess. If you’re not religious and live in the tri-state area, think of Times Square at rush hour when you need to get just beyond it. Yeah. Hell’s probably exactly like that.

One of my cab drivers this weekend and I had a great little h-to-h on the trek from SoHo to the UES after leaving a birthday party. I figure driving a taxi must be a real hit-or-miss form of employment, and so, with a pretty strong buzz going, I decided to ask who was the worst of this guy’s clientele. Read More »

I’ve been hooking up with this guy for awhile, but he seems to hate kissing. I know he’s a guy and going straight for the goal is far more interesting to them, but I can’t stand how he practically avoids it if he can.

Am I being used here, or is this more normal than I realize?

That’s definitely not normal. Kissing is a pretty integral part of, well, just about every aspect of a physical relationship.

If he’s not kissing you then his lips are saying a lot more than he may realize.

Bring it up and see what his catch is. It might after all be that he’s just self conscious about his ’style.’

Either way, it’s understandable if you want to look elsewhere. After all, you’ve got plenty of other things to think about, and trying to convince your boy to kiss you shouldn’t be one of them.

You claim you don’t really have a type. But (seriously) how many blonde, guitar playing, puppy-eyed boys can you go through before realizing that you constantly fall into the same boyfriend traps?

Honey, let’s be honest; there’s only so much emotional turmoil a person can take before she loses it.

While most New Year’s resolutions never last through February, it is possible to change your ever-familiar ways now – for good. Forging through this set of relationship resolutions will help you be in control, not him:

1. Move on. Don’t give any guy too much meaning right away because you’re convinced you’ll become one of those cat ladies if you’re not dating right now. Guys are everywhere. After all, how many failed dates have you been on, and how many guys are around you at the bars? If you know this guy won’t work out, move on.

2. Expect more. Over the insane course of life, you’ve realized that most people are genuinely good — even your ex-boyfriends. Not all guys cheat and lie, but all will step right over you if you let them. Demand the right treatment, and you’ll get it. We’re talking common consideration, not daily calls and texts after the first date.

3. Be in Demand. Remember how you had all those hobbies back when boys still had cooties? Where did all your personal time go? If you’re spending it worrying about when he’ll call or what he’s up to, you’re wasting time and making your personality seem remarkably unattractive. Make plans and do your thing because it’s awesome if he calls but no loss if he doesn’t. You’re a busy girl, remember? Read More »

For the fourth weekend in a row, you’re settling in on your couch at exactly 7:03pm with your man and your Chinese take-out, mindlessly channel-surfing.You’ll pass out on his shoulder in the middle of the second Friends re-run you watch, waking up to his snoring at 2:15am, Lo Mein container still in your hands. You’re officially in a relationship rut.

You’ve passed the point of finding it completely precious that you can just “do nothing” together, and the way he breathes is beginning to get on your nerves.

Before you blame him, try changing up your relationship routine and get the spark back with these ideas:

Plan date nights

Both of you got yourselves into this rut, which means both of you need to make an effort to get yourselves out. Open up your calendars and each pick a weekend you’re both free. Read More »

I hope everyone had a nice holiday last week, and that ya’ll are keeping cool as this heatwave tortures the entire country. It looks like today’s questions are more focused on relationships and less focused on sex; maybe a sign that we’re all maturing together? Eh… probably not. But relationships are just as much fun to dissect, so let’s get right to the first question, which I’d imagine is on the minds of a great number of girls who are entrenched in long-term relationships…

Amber’s wonders, “In a long term relationship, what does a girl need to do to keep her man interested?”

Can’t wait to see how I answer this one, as keeping myself interested was probably the biggest problem I had in my major relationship, and more often than not, my lack of interest manifested itself in random trysts and affairs.

The short answer is, you shouldn’t NEED to do anything, especially when you are as young as most of us are. If you’re early 20-something boyfriend is having trouble staying interested in you after only a year or so, that’s an awful harbinger of things to come. Instead of trying to keep this guy interested, maybe you should think about cutting your losses and finding a guy that doesn’t need prodding to remain interested in his girlfriend. Read More »

Okay so over the years my mom has nagged, yelled, lectured and given me advice more times than I can count.

Whether it be a problem with a friend or the way I am folding my laundry, my mom has something to say about it. I often roll my eyes or tune her out, but tonight I had an epiphany. I found myself five times saying “my mom always says….” Clearly my Momma knows what she is talking about! I bet yours does too (at least more than we give them credit for)

So in light of Mothers day coming up (and still no perfect present in mind) I thought I’d share a couple of my mom’s life lessons that I have found to be oh-so-true.

Mom’s Life Lessons

1.“Guys always think with their little heads not with their big ones” Read More »

Whenever I need a pointer, be it relationship advice, a homework tip, where to find the perfect winter cardigan, etc, I usually go to my friends, family or a nice self-help guide.

Sometimes, however, the feedback just isn’t good enough. I’m not getting what I need. I think to myself, “Man, I wish some one like Corey Feldman or Corey Haim could answer my all of burning life questions.”

I don’t need to dream anymore. Thanks to MSN.com, both Corey Feldman AND Corey Haim will be manning their own advice column! SWEET! I mean, who better to dish out solutions to your everyday problems than two guys who were famous in the ’80′s for making like thirty movies together, had awesome hair, wicked drug problems, and turned to soft core porn in the nineties, in hopes of putting that certain shine back into their stars?

I am DEFINITELY submitting a personal question to these two crazy Corey’s. If I’m one of the lucky ones who receives a response, I will post it immediately.

Who’s Your Favorite Corey?

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