Dear Dude, I have been dating my boyfriend for two months or so now. Unfortunately, he goes to another college and we don't see each other as often as we would like. Neither of us dated in high school; neither of us has any experience with dating or sex. Recently, the time we do have together has been getting very sexual.
I think too much. And when it comes to turning over the sheets, my mind goes into over-drive. In fact, I have been known to ruin an entire sexual experience by thinking too much about the position I'm in - my physical movements, how big my thighs look, trying to read his thoughts like an Edward Cullen girl hybrid.
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Dear Dude, My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months now. We live about two hours apart but see each other at least once a week for a few days at a time. Apart from the occasional argument, all in all we're really happy. But there is one thing that's bugging me... He never wants sex!
If Jessica Alba's bodacious blow-out didn't catch my eye this month on the September cover of Cosmo, the giant 'Untamed Va-jay-jays' headline sure did. What the hell is an untamed vajay? Seriously, this isn't the Discovery Channel for body parts, Cosmo. Naturally (pun intended) I was gnawing at the bit to get inside the mag and get reading.
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The minute, and I mean the minute, I spotted Britney Spear's discolored blond extensions on the cover of Cosmopolitan this month, I grasped the magazine tightly in my fingertips, sighed extravagantly and hugged my copy. This means I get to read one of those famous Cosmo Quizzes filled out by B. Spears!
True to form, this month I loyally snatched my July edition of Cosmo. I couldn't help wondering what on earth my girl Shakira was wearing on the cover. Was that a lace leotard and jeans? And after seeing the headline: "Vaginas Under Attack" I couldn't wait to snap open the magazine, whip out my notepad and get reading. Just like middle school!
Realistic conversations that focus the truth about sex seem to be few and far between. We see crazy sex on TV, read about headboard-ruining sex in books (thanks, Breaking Dawn), and hear our friends share their sometimes-slightly-exaggerated stories. Hell, we even hear the absolute horror stories from guys like Tucker Max. But when do we ever hear what’s actually true? What’s normal, and what’s not?
I just finished my freshman year of college and I have never had a boyfriend. In fact, the most experience I have sexually is making out. This is not due to religious beliefs, being a prude, or anything like that. I went to an all girls school on the west coast since kindergarten, and I was just so busy all the time, I never really had the chance to start a relationship. My problem is that I really want to be more experienced.
Regardless of what some of my readers might think of me, I don’t’ have a lot of experience with one-night stands. That’s a lie; I don’t have any experience with one-night stands. I don’t look down upon people who choose to do it (obviously, I write a frickin’ sex column), it’s just not something I’ve done myself.
Some people are into long walks on the beach, candlelit dinners, and getting fancy. Other people are into staying in, watching movies, and keeping it low key. Some people work in big office buildings bringing in the cash, while others bus tables and do dishes for minimum wage. But what do all of these people have in common? Some of them, from any category and walk of life, are into being tied up, spanked and dominated.
I’ve officially decided the best way to read Cosmo is out loud on Spring Break with your best friends. Maybe it was the rum in our (multiple) Miami Vices, but we couldn’t help but crack up at all the advice Cosmo had to offer in this month’s issue.
You think breakups are hard? Try rebound sex. That little activity is more difficult to navigate than an overcrowded frat party in a dark, smelly basement. Sometimes a rebound is just what we need to get out of the habit of spontaneously crying/checking our ex’s Facebook 800 times a day. Other times, rebounds just pile even more heartbreak on top of an already-difficult situation.
One of the things that Dan talks about pretty frequently in his column is the idea of being GGG – good, giving and game in the sack. According to Dan, these are the three traits a person needs to sustain a long and healthy sexual relationship.
I’m graduating in January and I’m more than a little freaked out. With the end my my carefree existence approaching so rapidly, I’ve been thinking a lot about the college experiences I wouldn’t want to miss out on before I flip that tassel. Obviously, a lot of these involve sex.
Dude, My best guy friend and I started hooking up 4 weeks ago after a kinda testing the waters to see if we were both interested in becoming more then friends. I am OK with being a FWB but am also OK with more. That being said, I am having a hard time reading his signals. He has always been the guy who will come pick me up and go to dinner, or just hang out and watch TV. He's a nice guy.
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Dear Tuffy Luv, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and we are just crazy about each other, but we are still virgins. We were originally saving our virginity for religious/moral reasons, but we both changed our minds on that and want to have intercourse now. However, we each live in our parents' homes and his family is super-religious.
Jenna Jameson taught me how to give a blow job. I never got a private lesson (no matter how many emails my boyfriend sent begging her), but I found her fool proof tips tucked away on page 108 of her autobiography, How To Make Love Like A Porn Star. It’s actually a really interesting read (especially compared to the 18th Century Lit I've been reading) and I recommend you go out and buy it.
Much to the dismay of my male readers, I have to admit that size does in fact matter to us ladies. Sure, it isn't the only component of good sex, but it definitely contributes. After all, the motion of the ocean doesn't matter much if you can't feel the waves!
Starting this week, I’m going to be taking a look at the advice that falls into the “moronic” end of that spectrum. If I can convince even one girl to reconsider whatever’s being professed in her glossy of choice, I’ll sleep a little better at night.