There are A LOT of sex position options available to you when you’re getting it on. Some are complicated, some are easy, some are fun and some are painful. Here at CollegeCandy, we found some easy sex positions you can sneak away to do under a pile of gift wrap while your mom and dad are busy cooking dinner. Take a look, and then go find a private place. Read More »

This week we introduce to you a new video series inspired by our popular He Said/She Said column. Each Monday at 9, CC newcomers Kelley Lord and Jordan Grills will be giving you the lowdown on all things sex and relationships with their segment, Kinky Conversations. So if you can’t get enough witty banter, back-and-forth discussion and candid opinions from He Said/She Said, be sure to hit up our new resident go-to guy and gal and watch Kinky Conversations.

So you got it on with your boyfriend in his dorm’s common room. Uh…go you? While that might be the wildest thing you’ve ever done, Kinky Conversations hosts Kelly Lord and Jordan Grills get down and dirty by asking a batch of crazy college students about their kinkiest moments.

And if you feel your sex life needs a little kick in the butt, CC’s got you covered. Kinky Convos will not only be debuting a new sex position each week, but will have some limber participants showing you exactly how to do it. Stretch out those hamstrings, kiddies, this week we’re blowin’ your mind with the Lateral Coital! Read More »

When our male pal over at Coed and I were chatting about topics for this week’s column, he proposed “favorite sex positions.” I enthusiastically agreed. (“HELL YA, MO FO!”) I mean, what could be easier than whipping up an article on a topic that I talk about at length with my best friends? And by “at length” I mean “in inappropriate detail to the point that we make everyone around us at brunch feel highly uncomfortable.” Keep the strollers away, people!

The only problem is, it’s been so long since I took a trip on the Pleasure Train that at this point, any sex position would be my favorite. Well, any one besides “do it yourself.” Because that got old. 3 months ago. Read More »

I used to be pretty anti-anal. The idea of a foreign object being inserted into my butt held less than zero appeal. I was worried about the pain. I thought it was only for gay men and that most straight women only did it because their boyfriends kept begging for it. But as I became more experienced and open-minded (and started voraciously reading sex blogs), anal started to become more and more intriguing and less intimidating. Anal play is not relegated to small niche subsets of the population – many women actively enjoy anal play for a variety of reasons.

1. Some of us are submissive. We enjoy relinquishing control in the bedroom and being dominated by our partner. Anal sex is generally considered one of the most vulnerable sex acts, and for many women who enjoy exploring their submissive nature, giving access to their rear entry is one of the strongest expressions of their desire to please their partner (though this in no way means that submission means ignoring your own wishes and setting your own boundaries).

2. Some of us crave a lot of spice. We all have default positions we fall back on because they never fail to get us off. But at the same time, sometimes it gets a little stale. Throwing in a scandalous position occasionally breaks up the monotony. Read More »

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I like to think of myself as a sexual being.

I like sex. A lot. I like trying fun new positions and having sex in fun new places. Hell, I’ve made it through 174.5 of the positions in “Sex 365 – A Position for Every Day” (the half was due to an ill timed Charley horse that left my partner bleeding profusely from the nose…) and I’ve even dabbled in a little role playing.

But with all of that on my sexual resume (note to self: make sure not to accidentally send that resume out when applying for jobs), it seems there’s a lot about sex that I wasn’t aware of. I’m talking weird fetishes and fantasies that get people – a lot of them! – all hot and bothered.

Intrigued? Scared? Excited to try something new with your S.O.?

Check out 10 cray cray sexual practices right here.

I think too much.  And when it comes to turning over the sheets, my mind goes into over-drive.  In fact, I have been known to ruin an entire sexual experience by thinking too much about the position I’m in – my physical movements, how big my thighs look, trying to read his thoughts like an Edward Cullen girl hybrid.

I’ve been looking for a cure for my problem for months.  Why can’t I just relax, sit back, and enjoy? What can I possibly do to block the free-flowing thoughts and get into the moment?  I know there is nothing emotionally wrong with me; I’m a normal girl and just like every other girl out there, my mind is riddled with thoughts.  Mine just happen to reproduce like a cluster of horny bunny rabbits whenever I get nakie and start doing the nasty.

Luckily, there is always a solution to my problems!  And this time, altering my mind may have a little something to do in altering my position.

A little back story:
While hiding from the Black Friday crowds in an empty bookstore last week, a certain title caught my eye. And that title was “Spectacular Sex Moves He’ll Never Forget.” I ducked down in the aisle and began flipping through, intrigued by the yoga-turned-sex moves I discovered. That night, fueled by some leftover wine, my boyfriend and I tried one out. And it was a night neither of us will soon forget.

Since then, we’ve been toying around with many fun and interesting new sex positions (which I’m sure will be even more fun when we’re no longer crashing in my parents’ basement) and I have to say, my sex life will never be the same. If you’re like me and tend to stick with the more traditional approach to sex (“I lie, you do all the work”), take it from me: it’s time to crack a book and get a little more adventurous between the sheets.

Why? I’m glad you asked. Read More »

Well that's over.

Hooking up in college is similar to navigating a minefield.  You never quite know what you’re getting into or when it’s all going to go horribly wrong.  Often the best of intentions turn out to be the most humiliating moments of your life.  Here are the Top 10 Mood Killers you’re likely to encounter during your career as a collegiate bed hopper.

1. The iTunes Snafu
You actually made the bed, lit a few candles, and put on a new…outfit.  Everything is set up to be the most romantic night of your college life.  You hit play on the ultra-sexy playlist you made just as you and your guy fall into bed.  Two songs into it, however, and all of a sudden there’s a familiar female voice asking for directions to el baño.  Wha?  You both pause, wondering if some how you’ve been transported to a brothel in Rio.  Then you realized you must’ve added your Spanish 101 lesson to the mix by accident.  Suddenly Professora Diaz became a third party in this would-be intimate moment; class will never be the same.

2. Man Down
Cosmo encourages trying new things in the bedroom, as does every relationship self-help book in Barnes & Noble.  In an effort to keep things fresh, you pick a move that looks easy enough.  After all, your legs are pretty flexible…it shouldn’t be to hard to get them in that position, right?  Somewhere between getting your ankle dislodged from around his neck, you feel your grip on the headboard slipping.  Fuu…! And you’re on the floor.

3. Alright, Who Did It?
The two of you have found a great rhythm and you’re almost there when all of a sudden- what was that!?  Before you can think, you blurt out, “I swear I didn’t fart!”  That’s when things come to a screeching halt and you know he won’t be coming back for seconds any time soon. Read More »

Type 2: Screwing

I go through phases where I listen to different podcasts on a fairly obsessive basis. It was during one of these phases that I stumbled upon a podcast called Sex, Love, and Intimacy (on which our lovely editor did an interview, the same interview that introduced me to CollegeCandy in the first place). As you guys may have noticed, I  have a lot of respect for people who do the job that I hope one day to do myself (you know, like how often I talk about Dan Savage…), and I tend to quote them a lot. Chip August, the host of Sex, Love, and Intimacy had a slogan that has stuck with me long after the podcast ended – “sex is more than just a piece of skin, a piece of skin, wiggle wiggle pop.”

Oh, how true that is.  There’s more to sex than just the act – the in and out, the build up and the orgasm. There’s more than the positions. No, I’m not going into the emotions and love and meaning behind sex. Not gonna lie, I don’t even know what to call the thing I’m talking about; style? Type? Intensity? But bear with me, I will explain:

Making Love:
As much as I hate that phrase (oh, how I despise it so), it’s really the only way to describe it. Those intimate sessions that are usually slow and loving. More about feeling everything than the climax. While love-making may not be hottest or most passionate, or even the sexiest, it is definitely the most intimate.

Screwing:
Okay, in reality I would call this type of sex f*cking, but I have a problem with censoring my words, so we’re just going to call it screwing for all intents and purposes, and you guys can follow along with what I really mean. I find this tends to be the favorite for college-aged guys. It’s the least intimate (generally, not saying having a good screw can’t be loving), and usually the most intense. You know, sweaty and loud, and being thrown all over the place. It’s usually just about getting off, but since when is that a bad thing?

The happy-medium:
When I’ve described this “3-kinds-of-sex” theory to different partners, this particular “type” is usually just labeled something along the lines of “plain old sex.” Maybe it’s vanilla, or maybe it’s just not as steamy as screwing, but this tends to be the fall-back for most couples. It’s the middle between making love and screwing, usually takes the least effort, and produces the results expected out of some good ol’ fashioned sex.

The trick to a sustainable sex life isn’t just mixing up the positions and introducing some sexy toys (though that helps too), it can be as easy as just mixing up the “style.” Sometimes the mood strikes to be um.. pounded, and sometimes the mood strikes to have fingers-intertwined and love and romance. And sometimes, it’s just sex to get the job done.

Pssst! If anyone else knows the “proper” name for this phenomenon, please let me know… it was kinda hard to write about something that doesn’t have a specific label!

As a writer, I have a lot of role models. People who’ve made a difference with their writing, people who’ve paved the way, and people whose writing I just really enjoy. One of those people is sex columnist Dan Savage. Not only does he write a sex advice column that’s syndicated all over North America, but he’s also written a few books and still manages to be a fairly down-to-earth guy.

One of the things that Dan talks about pretty frequently in his column is the idea of being GGG – good, giving and game in the sack. According to Dan, these are the three traits a person needs to sustain a long and healthy sexual relationship.

I’ve been asking myself lately how exactly one goes about being GGG in a relationship — what does it actually mean? It seems like a pretty good concept, so let me break it down for you guys too: Read More »