The politics surrounding sex toys are quite curious. I’m occasionally struck by the idea that sex toy is a bit of a misnomer. Most of the time when we think about sex toys, it’s in the context of masturbation, not intercourse, is it not? But what happens when sex toys transcend the gap between self-pleasure and mutual satisfaction? Not for the sexually timid, I would suggest — but it is quite tempting to contemplate adding one good thing (sex toys) to another good thing (sex). Why is introducing sex toys into your sex life a step that many find daunting to consider? No, I’ll admit I’ve not tried it, but under the right circumstances, I’d not be averse to it either. In fact, researching this column has made me decidedly curious…

But first, let’s consider sex toys and their use in general. Although female masturbation is still an arguably controversial topic, simultaneously it’s relatively normal (even expected) that a young (single) woman should own a vibrator. It’s sexy, it’s a bit naughty, it’s liberating. Women will talk about vibrators with their friends with nary a blush to be seen. Gals all over the world will get themselves off with the help of their dear Lelo Lily. Read More »

Every Christmas we find ourselves assaulted with uncomfortable gifts. Some gifts really can take the merry out of “Merry Christmas,” and these christmas-themed sex toys are no exception.  Looking for a way to break up with your boyfriend? Buy him a reindeer musical g-string. Or maybe you want to upset a family member by purchasing them a “I Rub My Duckie” Christmas-themed vibrator.

So many offensive options, what will you choose?

Check them out right here and let us know!

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We at CollegeCandy are huge proponents of masturbation. We love it so much we’d shout it from the rooftops… that is if we were willing stop doin’ it and actually climb up to the rooftop.

The topic maybe a bit taboo to many, but it shouldn’t be. Besides the mere pleasure of it all, there are so many wonderful benefits of a little self-stimulation: it helps you sleep, it helps with cramps, it helps your sexy time encounters….

It’s also really, really, REALLY fun.

Especially when you have a fun toy to do it with. Enter OhMiBod, the vibrator that connects with your iPod and pulses to the beat of the music. It’s pretty much the best combo since chocolate and peanut butter, or since Cole Haan teamed up with Nike. We’ve talked about it before, but it just got better.

Yes, the OhMiBod has gone wireless! Read More »

Yes, that’s exactly what it looks like. If it looks like a sex toy, that is.
If one tongue (attached to one man) isn’t enough for you, now you can have lots and lots of tongues coming at your lady parts in rapid succession.

Without the awkwardness of all those dudes wrestling for room between your legs.

Personally, I’m more inclined to use this to finally get to the bottom of the age old “how many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop” debate, but to each their own.

Q: So,  I’ve had a boyfriend for over 6 months now. I really love him and find him sexy, but for some reason I have zero sex drive right now. I know it shouldn’t be a big deal, but I think he’s getting a little mad that I never want to do anything. I will sometimes hook up with him because I feel that I should want to and that maybe I’ll get more in the mood, but it’s never good. I’ve been on the same pill for 2 years, so I don’t think it’s that. Is there a reason why I have this change or any ideas on how to fix it?!

A: Sex drive in women is a complex beast. While men may need little more than a pretty smile to get them in the mood, most women require more.  Factors that can contribute to decreased libido include  (among others):

- Feeling tired or stressed
- Side effects from medications such as birth control pills/patch/ring or anti-depressants
- Feeling unsafe or unloved in your relationship
- Hormonal imbalance
- History of sexual abuse or trauma
- Chronic medical conditions, such as diabetes Read More »

We’ve heard it all our lives: diamonds are a girl’s best friend.

While I agree that diamonds are fun and sparkly and pretty, most of them can’t give you an orgasm (unless that rock is HUGE). And I think every girl’s best friend should be able to do that. Therefore, I’m going to disagree with Ms. Monroe on this one and argue that my vibrator is my best friend, and is probably the best friend any of us could hope for.

Not gonna lie, I’ve always been a big fan of masturbation. I’ve been doing it since I was fairly young, and have always believed that it’s a healthy thing to do.

I spent most of my formative years manually stimulating myself, but counted down the days until I turned 18 and was finally able to buy my first vibrator. (What? It’s healthier than counting down to buying cancer sticks!) Once my long-awaited birthday finally arrived, though, I realized that I had no idea what to look for. There were hundreds of different kinds – waterproof, G-spot, realistic, dildo, vibrator, with testicles (who really wants that?), ones that you can stick to the wall, and the list goes on.

I had always prided myself with being fairly knowledgeable about all things sex (which I accredit mostly from watching Talk Sex with Sue religiously since 6^th grade), but sorting through the oodles of synthetic phalluses to find something that would make me scream like a banshee seemed somewhat daunting. Read More »

Don’t ask how (no, I wasn’t Googling “chair sex,” or “furniture to do it on”), but I came across this site recently and was instantly intrigued.

The Tantra Chair is used to practice the amazingness of Kama Sutra. It’s shaped like a funky wave to help position yourself properly for ultimate pleasure. Don’t know anything about Kama Sutra? Well, you’re missing out. Lucky for you, the site also has a guide to tons of fun positions to enjoy on this lovely piece of furniture. (Warning: there is some nudity…and it’s kind of graphic.)

If I had the place and the money, and – oh yeah, the boyfriend – I would definitely invest in this contraption. Kama Sutra is already saucy enough, but throwing in a new toy (or chair) to aid the process just takes it to a whole new level! And it looks like a couch so you can definitely pass it off to your parents as some piece of artsy fartsy furniture you found on Craigslist.

Doing the nasty on a flat surfaced bed is so last year. This gift from the sex gods will have you in positions you never thought possible on a futon.

We love a good Do It Yourself project around here – hell, we stayed up late last night trying to distress our own jeans. But there is a line that we do not cross.

And it involves sex toys.

With so many great pleasure toys on the market, why anyone would want to make their own - out of a saber saw – we will never understand. But someone did. And that someone is now in the hospital after, “the saw cut through the plastic toy and wounded the woman.”

Yeah, let that one marinate for a minute.

Shoulda stuck with the Sasi, lady. That’s all pleasure…without worry of sawing off your lady parts.

Let’s face it; we’ve gotten to a point in time where “sex” comes into conversation more than last night’s game, politics, or the weather. Whether or not it’s being praised or shunned, it’s being talked about. After all, you guys see how often we talk about it here, don’t you? Sex is here, and I really doubt it’s going anywhere anytime soon.

That said, of course, there are still people who kind of linger on the edge. People who want to explore their sexual side, but are afraid of the way society will perceive them after the fact. People who really have no interest in actual intercourse, but still want to explore their “carnal” side, pardon the expression. For most girls and some guys, the quickie answer to this is usually some kind of sex toy.

There are TONS out there, some wonderful and some horrifying. And still, this is a bit too much for some people. What do you do if you fall into that category? No worries; there’s a whole line of products just for you. And I don’t mean vibrators that pretend to be ordinary items. I mean vibrators that actually legitimately think they’re ordinary items. Read More »