Realistic conversations that focus the truth about sex seem to be few and far between. We see crazy sex on TV, read about headboard-ruining sex in books (thanks, Breaking Dawn), and hear our friends share their sometimes-slightly-exaggerated stories. Hell, we even hear the absolute horror stories from guys like Tucker Max. But when do we ever hear what’s actually true? What’s normal, and what’s not?

I tried my best to find the truth about sploodge last week and we’ve already covered movie myths about sex, so this week I’m going to take a crack at some general misconceptions about sex. The lies we’re all fed by our friends, by the media, and by our own unrealistic expectations; let’s forget all of that and take a straight-forward look at the not-so-romantic but very realistic parts of sex.

It doesn’t always just come naturally. Sometimes sex is really awkward, as much as we want to believe it’s this natural and organic experience. It can be messy, and tender intimate love-making isn’t always what happens. With contraception, sounds, positions, and a multitude of other things on our minds, sex becomes a little less romantic and a lot more mechanical. While the times will come when it’s like being swept away in a wave of passion, sometimes things don’t happen that easily. Even two people who are madly in love can have sex that doesn’t end the way both partners expect it to. As with anything in life, sex isn’t always going to be perfect – and that’s okay. Read More »

As a writer, I have a lot of role models. People who’ve made a difference with their writing, people who’ve paved the way, and people whose writing I just really enjoy. One of those people is sex columnist Dan Savage. Not only does he write a sex advice column that’s syndicated all over North America, but he’s also written a few books and still manages to be a fairly down-to-earth guy.

One of the things that Dan talks about pretty frequently in his column is the idea of being GGG – good, giving and game in the sack. According to Dan, these are the three traits a person needs to sustain a long and healthy sexual relationship.

I’ve been asking myself lately how exactly one goes about being GGG in a relationship — what does it actually mean? It seems like a pretty good concept, so let me break it down for you guys too: Read More »

For those of us in long distance relationships, or those of us are not near our significant others during this long winter break, it can be hard to keep in touch sexually when we can’t physically get it on. My guy and I are over 700 miles apart and recently found a fun and kinky way to keep ourselves occupied.

And it involves a cellular.

Yes, the topic is taboo and everyone feels all weird about it, but phone sex is a great way to stay close in a relationship even when you’re miles apart.

While some may be too shy to start talking dirty over the phone lines, I have a few tips to keep in mind when trying out phone sex.

First off, relax!! (Editor’s Note: A glass of wine may help…) Phone sex is something to have fun with, not get all worried about. If you’re nervous, just try thinking of what would happen if your partner was actually there. Take a deep breath and ask something general such as, “What would you do to me if you were here?” This might be easier to say then just asking “Wanna have phone sex?” because you end up taking the pressure off of yourself to start the convo, making him answer first instead. Read More »