Are you single? Do you think it’s the worst feeling in the world? Sometimes it may feel like that. But get this — being single isn’t as terrible as you’re painting it to be. Being single is an awesome thing if you just look at it the right way — you get to do what you want, when you want, with whomever you want. YourTango posted a great video that helps all us single girls embrace the solo life. Read More »

A girl that I know got an awesome, highly coveted summer position at a magazine – a magazine that I’ve always admired. Though I already have a really great internship secured, I still lamented my feelings to a friend over the phone. “What made her application stronger?” I wondered aloud. Then my friend asked me the unexpected…“Is she a really pretty girl? That’s probably why she got the position.”

I instantly saw red and felt like hurling a Lil’ Wayne-inspired string of expletives at her. Instead of doing that, I called my mom in tears. Why would a friend say something so careless and just plain mean? “Your friend wasn’t insulting you,” Momma Undateable explained. “It’s the truth. There are benefits to being attractive.” Read More »

This morning in the Twitterverse, there seems to be a trending topic for the lonely hearts club! #BestThingAboutBeingSingle has been the hashtag on millions of people’s tweets, and I had to the opportunity of finding the best of the best.

Many people have tweeted the best things about being a single girl or guy these days, including no broken hearts and no one to answer to, which are both valid. As a single girl who is constantly referencing the phrase “forever alone” and calling Liz Lemon my spirit animal, these tweets had me laughing and feeling a little better about my situation. Believe it or not, there are some people on this lovely planet that really love being single. It’s nice to see that we’re not all bitter and making voodoo dolls of our exes. So here are come of the best of #besthingaboutbeingsingle! Enjoy! Read More »

I’ve decided that in life, there are two types of women. Number one is the E! lady. She lives life like a season one Kardashian – care free, smiling, fearlessly fab with a Netflix-size queue of dates all of the time. And then you have the ABC dating special woman.

For those of you who are unaware, the ABC dating special was a segment that aired a few years ago which haunts some women to the core. Someone did a study about how black women are least likely to find a suitable mate because of the lack of eligible men in the world. They’re either locked up or in jail…or so they say. The ABC dating special is something that’s been talked about ever since it aired, and I remember nearly every word.

These women were brilliant, successful, beautiful, well-coiffed and well-dressed. Total catches. So why in the heck didn’t they have men? Read More »

Over the past year, I’ve shared over 50 lessons that I’ve learned in my single life to remind you that being single is more than a table for one (even when you’re eating a meal portioned for two), or going dateless to you’re cousin’s wedding — it’s a way of life.

Here are my top 10 favorite rules to live by while you’re single:

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Dear Mom,

Lately you’ve been giving me an earful about how “my generation” is somewhat selfish, immature and materialistic, which is evident in our relaxed, no-rush approach to marriage, babies and careers. You’ re not being mean, just observational. “Your generation” started younger, so to say; marriage, babies and careers happened in your twenties not your thirties as it does more often in today’s world. Although you strongly believe it is different for everyone, you seem to have a special standard for me personally. You were married with your first kid by the time you were twenty-five…and that was after being a fashion merchandising buyer for the once popular clothing store A&S. (Superwoman.) You never had a problem with me being single until I turned twenty in September of this year. All of a sudden my relationship status has become a constant topic of conversation. I know you want what’s best for me mom but I have to be honest. With all due respect, Mom, I don’t want a boyfriend.

My friends and siblings are in relationships and I am so very happy for them because I get it — relationships are great. But right now I am at a place in my life where being single is great for me. Here’s why… Read More »

Regardless of your relationship status, there will be situations and the people that stir them up, who at any point in time, will have you questioning what’s really important in life. It just so happens, though, that probability of that sort of drama infiltrating your life spikes when you’re single. There are some people who take the dating game a little too seriously, who extract meanings from things everybody else thinks are harmless, and more often than not, those people are looking for someone to blame. Luckily, the Single Girl Society has you covered with a general rule of thumb on how to deal with people who don’t always have your best interest in heart, or for that matter, don’t even really have a heart.

Lesson #47: When it comes to people: If they’re toxic, cut them out, and if they’re people you wish you could be more like, hold them tight.

There really only are two kinds of people in our lives: life ruiners — those that make you wonder how you’ll get by; and life savers — those who you wouldn’t be able to get through the hardship without. Read More »

Lesson #43 – Don’t Fall For A Weed In A Flower’s Suit

When I was younger, I used to spend afternoons collecting bouquets of what I thought, at the time, were wildflowers. When I skipped into my house, unaware of the mud stains on my clothes, and too consumed with my new bunch of handpicked flowers, my mother would always shake her head and laugh at me. As she put my handpicked bouquet into a paper cup, she’d smile and say, “These are just weeds with cute outfits.” Looking back, I wish I would’ve taken her input more seriously, because as soon as I started dating, I quickly learned her advice applied to more than just gardening.

When it comes to guys, why is that the worst weeds disguise themselves as flowers? As my luck would’ve have it, the most annoying weeds that I can’t seem to get rid of in my dating life were the guys that caught my eye first. This theory even goes beyond looks. (Not to say I haven’t been drawn to an impeccably dressed guy rocking a crisp Brooks Brothers’ shirt and tie, only to realize that his good sense of style was just about the only good thing about him…) It seems like the life of the party guy — who may not even be the most attractive flower in the bunch, but certainly had the most entertaining personality — has also turned out to be one of the biggest weeds in my life. Read More »

I try not to draw inspiration for these columns from movies, as they are not reality, but sometimes a movie comes along and gets me thinking. Last night, I dug up an old favorite, Some Kind of Wonderful, and settled into my couch. As I re-watched the classic, I found myself disgruntled with a particular quote despite having seen it several times before.

The infamous Amanda Jones so famously said, “I’d rather be with someone else for the wrong reasons than alone for the right.”

Lesson #39 – So you’re alone, so what?

Of course, ironically Amanda Jones ends up alone but I think that we’re fooling ourselves if we don’t believe there are girls in the world who don’t subscribe to the belief that anything is better than being alone. When did being single become a stepping stone between boyfriends? When did we all lose ourselves in the dating rat race and forget that we can stand alone as individuals? Read More »

Sometimes the hardest parts about being single are not the phone calls from your older sister asking you if you have a date yet for her upcoming wedding or trying to walk past the couples interlocking fingers as they walk hand in hand to class. Instead, the hardest part about being single can be the things we never really consider, like just how depressing it is to reach for a box of Just For One frozen vegetables every week. This week’s column is different than the usual dating tips but just as integral to a single girl’s life.

Lesson #38 – Cooking For One

As far as being a domestic goddess is concerned, I’ll take a TV dinner with a glass of wine if it’ll save me time at the end of a long school day and 112 degree weather. Cooking is more than time consuming, and cooking for one can be a challenge. No matter what, it seems like I never master cooking the right amount, always ending up with too much or not enough. And while I doubt I’ll ever be one of those people who finds cooking at the end of the day soothing and relaxing, I’ve picked up a few tricks that have made it tolerable and quick enough for my constantly thinning patience. Read More »