Recently, Hayden Panettiere stopped by the Ellen show to promote Scream 4 and casually mentioned the fact that some of her fans approach her and ask how how she has sex with her boyfriend. [Crickets] That’s a little personal, right? Right. But people are genuinely curious, seeing as Hayden barely scrapes 5’0″ while her boyfriend is 6’5″…and a boxer. Immediately, this anecdote blasted through the gossip-sphere and most comments expressed sentiments that boiled down to, “that must be so awkward/impossible/unsexy.”

To which I say: Whatever.

I’m sure some of you lovelies have, had, or will have a partner who is way bigger or way smaller than you. It happens. A hottie is a hottie, even if you only come up their waist or they only come up to your boobs, or if they’re practically a wrestler and you’re 87 pounds soaking wet. Sure, if you and your partner are drastically different builds, you’re probably going to work a little bit harder to maneuver yourselves into comfortable positions. But just like penis size isn’t the end-all and be-all of great sex, neither is body size. Read More »

I seem to be on a roll with the truth telling lately. First it was semen myths, and then it was the things we believe about sex before we start actually having it. This week is going to be short and sweet (because I’m exhausted from my summer job. Why did no one warn me it was going to be so awful?); I’m going to tackle why size doesn’t matter.

So listen up. Maybe it’s time we all stop hating on the little guys, K?

The top two-thirds of the vagina has no nerve endings. Really. We only have a couple of inches that can feel what’s going on (that’s why you can’t feel a properly inserted tampon). If you’re only going to be feeling 3 inches, what difference would a 5-inch penis or a 9-inch penis make?

“It’s not the size of the boat…” Plenty of well-endowed men have no skill (trust.), and many men with smaller equipment know the right things to do. It’s not fair to generalize either way, really. There are plenty of men who are larger who think that just because they’re big they don’t need to try – well, that’s not the case (trust). And many men who are aware and possibly self-conscious of their smaller penises will try extra-hard to make it that much better (trust). Everyone is different, it’s not just size that determines a good sexual partner (amen).

A big penis is more likely to hurt you than an average sized one. Ripping, tearing and general discomfort are more likely the bigger you go. If you are with a guy who’s on the bigger side – use lube, and lots of it. Read More »

There are a plethora of factors separating teenagers from adults. You know you’re an adult when you start practicing various combinations of adult-like things. Paying your own bills, making important decisions by yourself, working, and having sex, amongst other things, encompass adulthood.

But when you’re a teenager looking onto your sexuality from afar, you’ll believe just about anything you’re told about sex, particularly if you’re being told by someone who has actually had it. Once you merge further into your adulthood and sexuality, though, you start to realize that a lot of things you were told about sex (or made to believe in some other way) are bullsh*t.

Some of the biggest myths about sex:

1. Men want sex more than women.

Um, no. There are always exceptions, yes. BUT, lots of women love lots of sex. Do women always love sex with a guy who’s being a punk? Nope. Do women always love sex when they’re exhausted or emotional? Nope. But none of this has to do with how much women want sex. In fact, I almost always want more sex than my boyfriends do. Read More »