slut-shaming

  • Science Says Women Slut-Shame Each Other, Creates Bitchiness Scale

    Science Says Women Slut-Shame Each Other, Creates Bitchiness Scale

    A study found that not only do women slut-shame each other they do it passive aggressively. Millennial women, 86 of them between the ages 20-25,...

  • Teen Poets Slam On Why Girls Should Be Monsters Instead Of Sexy Pizzas This Halloween

    Teen Poets Slam On Why Girls Should Be Monsters Instead Of Sexy Pizzas This Halloween

    Whoa! You MUST watch this poetry slam of four young women discussing sexy Halloween costumes in the Brave New Voices Grand Slam Finals. The Youth...

  • We Need to Stop Shaming Our Own Gender

    We Need to Stop Shaming Our Own Gender

    We talk behind each others backs, we make fun of other women, or we judge them based on our beliefs and our way of living. I think it's time we cut it out and look at the big picture.

  • “Blurred Lines” Annoys Me, But Probably Not Why You Think [Sexy Time]

    “Blurred Lines” Annoys Me, But Probably Not Why You Think [Sexy Time]

    After two decades of listening to pop music, I'm increasingly desensitized to the grimy messages that are perpetuated. That said, what irks me about the song is the delineation between "good girls" and "girls who openly love sex."

  • Really? Promiscuous Women Don’t Like Other Promiscuous Women

    Really? Promiscuous Women Don’t Like Other Promiscuous Women

    Upon first read, it's so easy to scoff at these hypocrites and feel so superior because, thank Beysus, I'm so much more enlightened than that.

  • It’s Time To Reclaim The Word “Slut” [Candy Dish]

    It’s Time To Reclaim The Word “Slut” [Candy Dish]

    Whenever I hear a guy refer to a girl as a "slut," my blood boils. My face turns bright red and I just want to scream in a fit of rage.

  • On Loving Yourself Before Anything or Anyone Else [Dear DBN]

    On Loving Yourself Before Anything or Anyone Else [Dear DBN]

    Ah, love. It’s in the air for a select portion of the population. But what’s a girl to do when she’s lost and horny? This week, why you should love yourself before you love anything else.

  • Is This Hand Sanitizer Slut Shaming Me?!

    Is This Hand Sanitizer Slut Shaming Me?!

    Urban Outfitters is selling this "Dirty Hand Sanitizer" as a $7 stocking stuffer. Do the tag lines, "Wait - was that slutty?" and "A gentle, reassuring solution," reinforce the notion that being a slut is bad and that doing naughty things makes you morally unclean? The label features only a woman. It's sans man, which further implies that only a woman can be a "slut." But wait - it's supposed to be a joke, it's made for people who get the joke, it's ironic!

  • On Doing What Makes You Happy and Forgetting the Haters [Dear DBN]

    On Doing What Makes You Happy and Forgetting the Haters [Dear DBN]

    This week, do what makes you happy, because no matter what it is, it's always going to piss someone else off.

  • Stop Prude Shaming [Sexy Time]

    Stop Prude Shaming [Sexy Time]

    As of late, I've been noticing a subtle trend in the discourse surrounding sex, wherein people go out of their way to emphasize how adventurous and kinky and open-minded they are in bed. Not that there is anything remotely wrong with any of that, but is there any reason to accompany those remarks with a dig at people who are more vanilla/tame/virginal?

  • Sexy Time: V Is For Virginity

    Sexy Time: V Is For Virginity

    From an American perspective, the rhetoric is either, "Sex is awesome, and if you're not having it, your life fails to have any meaning" or "If you're having sex, you're a dirty heathen who deserves to burn in eternal damnation." This is so dysfunctional, and I really feel it does more harm than good.

  • True Story: I’m the Slutty Friend

    True Story: I’m the Slutty Friend

    Yeah, I’ll admit it. Relative to the other women in my circle of college friends, I’m who people would call “the slutty one” because I’ve been with the most number of men. I don’t mind making out with a random stranger for fun and I’ll stay the night at his place if I’m looking for a change of atmosphere. Yes, I’m a slut.

  • Sexy Time: Why Sluts Have All The Fun

    Sexy Time: Why Sluts Have All The Fun

    "Good girls always end up single because we don't give it up." A tweet similar to this popped up on my Twitter timeline, and my first reaction was merely to roll my eyes and keep scrolling. But hours later, it continued to haunt me. This attitude that you have to be sexually available in order to get a boyfriend isn't exactly new.

  • Sexy Time: First Date Nookie

    Sexy Time: First Date Nookie

    I fail to see anything wrong with having sex on the first date. This flies in the face of conventional dating wisdom. Apparently, first date sex is so much more than "I think you're sexually attractive and I would like to do it with you." No, apparently boning on the first date means that you're slutty, that you're not interested in getting to know the other person, that it completely ruins any chance at a lasting relationship.

  • Sex in the News: The First Ever Slutwalk

    Sex in the News: The First Ever Slutwalk

    Last weekend in Toronto, where I live, a reported 1,000 people marched together in the first-ever SlutWalk. The campaign was a response to a comment made at a local university by a police officer, who said women should avoid "dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized." The police have since apologized for the officer's comment, but it still hit hard with the organizers of SlutWalk.

  • Can We Stop the Slut Shaming Now?

    Can We Stop the Slut Shaming Now?

    Our society has incredibly dysfunctional, scary, and repressive ways of approaching sexuality, especially female sexuality. If we dare to step outside those narrowly defined boundaries, society finds it completely acceptable to hurl words like "slut" and "whore" at us. We're called sluts for endless reasons: our hair is too big, our nails are too red, we wear too much glitter, our skirts are too short, we look like we may enjoy giving blow jobs, we dance too suggestively, our sense is humor is too raunchy...

  • Sexy Time: New Year’s Resolutions for Better Sex

    Sexy Time: New Year’s Resolutions for Better Sex

    Making resolutions I probably can’t keep, and deciding, quite pointedly, that 2011 will be the best year yet are on my to-do list for the month of January.