This is nothing compared to the team drama one girl's dealing with

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Dear Tuffy Luv,

This is a really really long email, but necessary for you to understand my situation.  I have a bit of a weird situation and I would like to hear what you think. First off, I should let you know that I am on a sports team at my school. That being said, it is a very small team with about eight girls on it. We are a close team but have a lot of drama and tension, which gets incredibly exhausting at times. We also have a guys team of fifteen men or so, which only adds to the drama.

I have history with a guy on the men’s team, let’s call him Fred. Fred and I have dated off an on for the past four years of being in college. He was my first real boyfriend and I was his first real girlfriend. We broke up halfway through freshman year because we wanted to see what else was out there. Sophomore year we had a couple of drunken makeout encounters which were probably not the best idea, but we always tended to gravitate toward each other when consuming large quantities of alcohol. Junior year Fred asked me out again, and we dated for awhile before he decided to break up with me again because he “needed to focus on school.” Needless to say, I was crushed because I had really strong feelings for Fred, so we didn’t talk for almost four months. Fred apologized to me and told me he treated me like a jerk and I didn’t deserve it. I forgave him because I didn’t want team drama and I really did want to be his friend and I still carried some strong feelings for him. Everyone on the team knew about my feelings for Fred. Read More »

I remember going to college expecting to make some of the best friends of my life. It had always seemed that way — you have nice high school friends, but gradually they fade out of the picture and your college friends dominate your life. Wasn’t that the way it was supposed to be?

As I arrived at school and plunged into the rigorous academic environment that was promised in the Princeton brochure, the social scene surprised me in some way. There were the usual kinds of people I expected — the jocks, the preps, the econ majors — but not the friendships I was looking forward to.

I had dining hall buddies (people to eat and swap jokes with), and homework buddies (people to frantically share answers on problem sets with), but there was no gang of girls sharing secrets and supporting each other the way there was in high school. I compared notes with other friends and they agreed; for one reason or another, no one had as close friendships in college as they did in high school.

Why? Read More »

With the sun shining and the weather heating up, it’s hard to motivate yourself to spend an hour inside a dark and smelly gym. At the same time, if you’re not into running, getting a good workout outdoors isn’t always easy. Or fun. So what can you do to take in the beautiful summer weather and burn some serious calories?

Join a summer sports league.

It doesn’t matter if you are living in a big city, or crashing with the parentals in suburban America – you can find a summer sports league near you. They range from softball to dodgeball (and everything in between) and are a great way to meet people, get a little workout, and have a really good time doing it. Read More »