December 6, 2008
- 11:30 am
By ccandyblairh
If you’re in a first serious relationship like I am, there are a lot of questions and doubts swirling around. Part of you wants to hold back emotionally because, after all, this is the first time, and it’s rare to strike gold the first time you go digging. But you are so happy and in love and you just know this is a biggie.
But what does that mean? And how do we navigate the rocky waters of a serious relationship? The only guides we have are cheesy sitcoms. Do we actually need to exchange letter sweaters? Make a fuss on the six-month anniversary? Spend every waking moment together, or have our own time? Talk about every little detail of our childhoods? Can we disagree on something big and still be happy together?
It can be a difficult job to sift through what expectations to set in a healthy, supportive relationship. The important thing, however, is to do just that and have a clear idea of what your expectations are. If you’re expecting flowers every week but the significant other doesn’t believe in giving gifts, someone’s going to get their feelings hurt. Or if going out with friends of the opposite sex is upsetting for one person but not the other, some ground rules should be set. Living the monogamous life has plenty of pitfalls, but the smart, communicative couple can avoid most of them. Read More »
Tags: anniversary, bf, boyfriend, doubts, expectations, feelings, gf, gifts, girlfriend, girls, giving gifts, guilt trip, letter sweater, long term relationship, love, own time, pitfalls, proverb, Relationships, rocky waters, serious relationship, sitcomes, staying home, supportive relationship
August 23, 2008
- 5:30 pm
By Carly - Grinnell
Confession time: I’m an introvert. It goes deep. I can’t stand parties. Gatherings of more than four people (myself included) terrify me. I don’t like to pick up the phone. I’d be absolutely fine if I didn’t talk to anyone for days at a time.
So on most weekends when all of you are out clubbing or hitting up the bar while hitting on hot guys, I’m curled up on my couch in my pajamas, watching the Olympics or reading a really dorky book and eating a cookie (or three).
It doesn’t bother me. In fact, I LOVE it.
Perhaps you’re intrigued by my reclusive lifestyle. Maybe you even want to take your own Introventure on an upcoming Saturday night, but you’re just not sure how to even begin. Well, you’re in luck! Look no further than this handy-dandy…
Introvert’s Guide to a Saturday Night in: Read More »
Tags: Bob Costas, cashmere sweater, chocolate, clubbing, David Duchovny, david sedaris, eggplant parmesan, Gillian Anderson, introversion, introvert, michael phelps, Mulder, not going out, Olympics, pajamas, Parties, personality, reading, saturday night, saturday night in, Scully, social gatherings, staying home, the x files, When You Are Engulfed in Flames