Ask A Dude: Why Do Guys Show Interest Then Bail?

Dear Dude,

Ok so I met this guy at a party (as all great stories seem to start), we really hit it off and we ended up leaving and going to his place. We hooked up and then got some food. While we were eating he said “You’re like my ideal woman.” I assumed that it was a line and didn’t take it too seriously (after all, we were still fairly drunk) but I smiled, laughed and said thanks.  He gave me a ride home (Since he had to be at work at 3am. He’s an EMT.) and held my hand the entire way and gave me his sweatshirt. (OK, before I continue you should know I’m new to the world of casual sex, and automatically assumed that none of these acts were sincere, but rather just things he does to every girl – I know, my bad.). So you can imagine my surprise when he actually texted me the next day. We ended up talking ’round the clock for a week and hooked up again. We continued constantly texting for another week and he invited me over to a party at his place and I met all his friends and it was really fun – and we hooked up a third time. Two days later I texted him to see if his dog was ok (she had thrown up the morning of hookup #3). That was our last conversation. After two weeks of silence I texted him a simple “Hey, how’ve you been?” and didn’t get a reply. Two more weeks and now I find that he unfriended me on facebook. Read More »


The Facebook Friending Game

facebook1.jpgWhen one of my best friends from college called saying she was angry, I assumed it was boyfriend-related and she probably could be calmed down, if not called out for making slightly (very?) irrational assumptions herself.  As I prepared to hear what the boy had done now, I was surprised to hear that it was, in fact, another guy causing her grief.

You know how a lot of your Facebook friends are people you haven’t even spoken to in years?” she asked.

Of course.  The kids in the dorm freshman year, randoms from high school.  We all collect them.

“Yeah.  This guy I met through [boyfriend], who sought ME out and requested MY Facebook friendship, UNFRIENDED me!”

No joke.  She had just received a virtual b*tchslap.  Even I winced. Read More »