Hey, we’ve all been there. And by “we,” I mean guys. I almost guaran-damn-tee that at least 75% of guys, most likely during their early teen years, have fallen hard for a girl who had both feet firmly under her. It happens.

Unrequited love’s made for great music (Maroon 5, Vertical Horizon, come on, “Everything You Want” is our frickin’ anthem!),great movies and great books. It’s also made for some really, really, messy situations between said lover and the woman who loves him but isn’t “in love” with him. Once both sides have made their feelings clear, what’s next? Is it over? Is there no way to keep him in orbit without leading him on? NO! Maybe? Yes?

The answer is D: all of the above. To quote a Storm, “if I can be serious for a moment,” there are ways that you can preserve a friendship with a guy that’s fallen for you. However, one of the first things you need to do is the most counter-intuitive: LEAVE HIM THE F*CK ALONE! Read More »

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Dearest Dude,

I’ve waited for a second chance with this guy that I’m crazy for. I’d do anything for him and he is amazing. We get along so well. About a year ago, we had a fallout because of my mistake of telling him I love him. I’m back with him, but not romantically. How do I get out of the friend stage the right way this time?

Confusedly,
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