Recently, the HuffPo reported on a study done on the elusive g-spot, which concluded that it doesn’t exist. We all know the cultural significance of the g-spot – it leads to rainbows, unicorns and $100 bills squirting from your vag if stimulated properly. There has been a lot of debate over the years as to whether it even exists, since the vast majority of women cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. While on the one hand, the results of this study could comfort some women who are discouraged with the fact that they can’t orgasm solely for vaginal stimulation, it’s not cool for the medical community to diminish the sexual experiences of women.

The g-spot, in my experience, is real. I don’t require any clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, and, in fact, I generally find clitoral stimulation to be totally unappealing. Considering anywhere from 20-40 percent of women can orgasm through intercourse alone, I know I’m not the only one for whom this is the case. The fact that the study actually included data that indicated that there is an erogenous zone inside the vagina, but still reached the conclusion that it doesn’t exist is annoying at best, and pretty troubling at worst. Read More »

It's in there - don't worry.

As you may recall, we recently reported on a study conducted by British scientists that suggested the g-spot may not actually exist. As a woman who knows and loves my g-spot (a lot a lot), I was skeptical about the study. And it appears I wasn’t the only one.

The study found that “while 56% of women overall claimed to have a g-spot, they tended to be younger and more sexually active.” OK, the majority of women believe they have a g-spot, especially young, sexually active women, so where did the study get the idea that it doesn’t exist?

The researchers concluded that the g-spot was a matter of subjective opinion because when they asked pairs of twins whether or not they had a g-spot, identical twins were no more likely to both have a g-spot than fraternal. Now, twin studies are often used to examine heritability of certain traits – and that usually makes sense – but I just don’t buy it for this study. We’re talking about orgasms here, not diabetes. Women who share the same genes can still have incredibly different life experiences and sexual partners. And we can’t assume a woman doesn’t have a g-spot just because she doesn’t think she does. I didn’t think I had one until I found mine! Read More »

My Roots of Feminism class recently read The Myth of Vaginal Orgasm by Anne Koedt, an essay from 1970 that talks about the idealization of vaginal orgasms when the main source of sexual pleasure for women has been proven to be the clitoris. (She goes much more into depth in her essay about how the “myth of vaginal orgasm” came about, if you want to read it.)

In 2009, we seem to have finally recognized the clitoris as the important sexual organ it is. Any Cosmo article will tell you that many women don’t have vaginal orgasms and clitoral stimulation is an important part of sex.  But despite recognizing the important of the clitoris, our basic, standard sex position remains missionary, one of the worst positions for clitoral stimulation!

Perhaps this is why 75% of women have never had an orgasm from sex; they’re going about it all wrong!

Well, people, it’s time to move past missionary and into the land of pleasure. Out with the boring and in with the orgasmic! Below are some new positions to try out that are sure to bring both you and your partner some serious pleasure.

You can thank me later. Read More »