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Dear Tuffy Luv,
I’m probably the least experienced person I know. Here’s a secret: I may have been kissed before but it was one of those sexless pecs so no real love there. I feel really awkward. I’ve had plenty of boyfriends but I’m really shy about sex. None of them has even gotten close. I’m only a freshmen in college but I’ve been here a while and have had opportunities to hook up ( I try however to avoid alcohol so some parties I won’t go to).
Anyway I was hoping to hook up with my crush but I don’t think I could tell him I like him or anything really. We hang out in groups a lot but I want to know how can I tell if he likes me? And if he does, how to confess?
Dear VERY Shy,
First of all, honey, be safe, please. Always use condoms EVERY TIME, no matter what. Okay? Got it? For real. It’s not worth the risk, EVER.
Okay, now that that’s out of the way:
If you wanna lose your V card to him, then you should make sure you can talk to him. Trust me, you do NOT want to sleep with him if you can’t even express how you feel.
I think your first step is to get more comfortable with yourself. Not to squeek you out, but masturbation is a really good tool for getting to know yourself sexually. Explore yourself, find out what you like and what you don’t like. Sex will be a whoooooole lot better if you got one half of the equation down. (Hint: You that half.)
Do you have a friend you can talk about sex with? The more you talk about it, the less shy you’ll be. And read up! It’s much less scary when you know the facts. Get thee to a library and check that shiz out. As long as you’re safe, ain’t nothin to be embarassed about. It’s a healthy part of an adult relationship.
But no sleeping with Crush Boy until you can talk to him about it without getting embarassed. If you’re not old enough to talk about it, you’re not old enough to do it. But I think you’re old enough for both.
Hearts & Skulls,