The 5 Questions We Ask Everyone: Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger

patti1.jpgIf it’s one thing we’ve learned here at CC, it’s that all people are fascinating (Yes, even your econ professor). Let’s face it – people love to glimpse into the lives of other people. Disagree? Then please explain why you’re currently looking at your friend’s brother’s girlfriend’s cousin’s photos on Facebook. Or reading about the latest Jessica Simpson dramz in this week’s tabloids. Yeah we thought so.

Fact is we connect to others by learning about them. And everyone has something to share (even if it a really embarassing fart story). So to give you yet another reason to procrastinate, we started ‘The Five Questions We Ask Everyone’ (and five just for that one person) because we know whether we’re schmoozing with an A- list celeb or your local bartender, you’ll be equally entertained.

We’re more than slightly obsessed with Bravo here at CollegeCandy. Stop by our apartment and take a peak at our DVR and you will find the following: The Real Housewives of NY, The Real Housewives of Orange County, Top Chef, Make Me a Supermodel and every freaking episode of The Millionaire Matchmaker. There is something about weird rich guys looking for love that gets us every time. And it helps that the matchmaker herself, Patti Stanger, is honest, hilarious and damn good at what she does.

We were honored (and jumping around the room) when Patti agreed to be part of our 5 questions series. Below she weighs in on the rules of dating, her show and her dreams for the dating scene in college.

5 Questions We Ask Everyone:

1. What is your craziest college memory?

It was a drugs free-for-all when I went to college [at University of Miami]. The drugs came off the boat. The Quaaludes were really happening, and that was legal. It was very free-for-all.

2. What are 5 things you cannot live without?

Well the 5 things I cannot live without, one of them I just gave up, which was Diet Coke. I switched to Red Bull, which really makes a big difference… so I would say Red Bull right now. I don’t think I could give up my boyfriend, who is my best friend. I definitely, definitely can’t give up – you’re going to think I’m odd – Benefiber. It is the magic hot powder of weight loss. You put it in everything and you have and – whoosh – that’s all I can tell you. I think 4 would be matchmaking; it’s an addiction. And 5 would be my friends.  You know? They’re good… my friends, my staff, I have a good posse of people around me who support me.

3. What’s your motto or advice that you live by?

Well, the advice I live by is nothing lasts forever. And the journey is what life is about; it’s not about the destination. If you can enjoy the journey and have a fun attitude about the journey – the upswings, the downswings – then you’re on the right track because nothing stays the same. Nothing, not even your lover, your husband, your children, house, whatever; it’s all eventually going to go away. All you have is the joy in the journey.

4. When you’re by yourself in your car (with or without the cameras), what’s your favorite song to belt out?

“I Will Always Love You” by Taylor Dane. It’s my favorite song of all time.

5. Where do you see yourself in ten years?

In ten years, I hope to make Millionaire’s club an international, worldwide, global success and mission. What I mean by mission is I want to bring the relationship back to the community. I don’t want girls on college campuses sleeping around because they need attention for the moment because the guy isn’t giving in to a relationship. I hope to educate the world and have them negotiate for a relationship.

5 Questions just for Patti:

1. What is the biggest piece of dating advice you could give to somebody?

Well, the first thing is there is not a one size fits all approach. So, just because your best friend slept with a guy on the first date and got married to him, it may not happen to you. What you have to do is make yourself happy first. When you’re happy, you’re no longer in heat, therefore you radiate positive energy, which is magnetic to the opposite sex. Everything is hormonal. Everything. Why a man likes you is hormonal.

2: How many chances do you give a guy if you don’t hit it off on the first date.  Do you recommend taking a second date?

Okay, this is the problem. Men are like microwaves, in five quick seconds they scan your body and think “I could f**k her.” (You didn’t hear me say that.) Girls are completely opposite. You may not be physical type that the girl likes but she’s a crock pot. She heats up slowly. Maybe he isn’t the cutest guy in the room but he made you laugh. You don’t know what’s going to happen in three dates, but I’ll tell you how to do a temperature reading. If you’re not repulsed and you don’t want to throw up, if you find him interesting, meaning he may not be cute and he may not be sexually attractive but you like talking to him, you’re fascinated by him. If three dates go by and you don’t have a rise, be friends with him and get the referral.

You do not kick anyone to the curb. This is what you say:  “I am having the best time with you but I have to be honest, I don’t really feel the chemistry. You are such a great catch. If I know a girl for you I’m going to send her your way and maybe you could do the same for me.” If you go around being nasty to people because they took you on a date and you didn’t like them and you were annoyed, you become high maintenance and nobody wants to touch you. Your status declines, your stock market goes down.

3: I want to talk about your show a little – are all millionaires that you deal with as eccentric and crazy as the ones on the show?

No. This is strictly the show. This is 5% of the millionaire community. There are 13 types of millionaire men and this is one type. This is like, Mr. BiggerBetterDeal, the “I think I’m so hot, where’s the hottest girl in the room?” guy. Most guys, 99%, will not go on camera and those are the real guys. They’re making a TV show and we have to look at it like that. They want ratings.

4: You tend to focus a lot on the way women are going to dress, the way they look, body shape, and things like that. Is that really important in dating? Isn’t that superficial?

If you go on a job interview when you get out of college, are you going to lead with your ugly foot? Are you going to put your fat pants on, your hair in babushka that hasn’t been washed in five days? What are you going to do? Are you going to lead with your best foot and look attractive? Well magnify that ten times and that’s dating.

5: Can you tell us a little bit about your new book?

It’s called Become Your Own Matchmaker and it’s 8 easy steps to sealing the deal in a year. Basically, when you’re at school and you’re dating, the traditional route is come to my room and we’ll watch TV, hook up and then meet at the bar. That doesn’t work for me. I do not believe that just because guys are twenty-somethings they are allowed to get away with that and not have manners.

The book teaches you how to negotiate a committed, exclusive monogamous relationship where the sex comes after exclusivity. I teach you how to qualify the buyer and pick the good one from the pack that is going to be long lasting. I show you where the men are. I teach you so many things that no one is teaching you… how to meet men, how to get them to come over, seal the deal and you don’t do anything. I can’t give all my secrets away; you have to read the book.

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