For The Love of Love, Back Away From the Blackberry

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In this digital age, we are never apart from the ones we love, at least not for too long.  With smart phones, texting, Twitter, Facebook, MySpace, Skype, and SMS updates, we are just a press of a button away.  We are closer to other people than we have ever been before.  Even long distance relationships don’t seem that long-distance anymore.

But between new couples and old, is all this technology really bringing people together, or is it driving us apart?

While new technology is an awesome time-waster (among all the other fabulous things it does), the fact that it makes everyone so accessible is a little scary, not to mention the lack of mystery, chase, and boundaries between us all. We’re texting/IMing/Gchatting guys before we go out with them. And before that, we already know their favorite books, movies, quotes, hometown and birthday. We know what they’re doing, when they’re doing it… without ever asking them.

Sure, it’s OK because it’s all out there for the taking, but take a step back for a moment. Would that be OK if it required you to camp outside their dorm in a windowless van and follow them to around campus?

Yeah, it’s creepy.

I know it’s tempting to cyber stalk your crush/BF (oh boy, do I know), but maybe it’s time to take a step back from the technology. Yes, step away from the computer. Try interacting in real life; you know, like they did in the old times (1999). Ask the boy questions, experience things together (and not on AIM) and discover everything about him as you go.

And let him do the same for you. Don’t forget to take time for yourself, sans the Bberry.  Otherwise you are just a 21st century version of that annoying couple that spends every last second together and becomes one inseparable entity. He doesn’t need to know what you’re doing at every second. What he does need is a chance to miss you. Let him miss you. And let yourself miss him.

It may be hard to believe, but relationships did exist and flourish before the Newsfeed. The question is, can the same be said for after it?

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