While trying to figure out a topic for this week, I thought about all of the questions people ask me, the relationship girl:
Did you come to college looking for a boyfriend?
Do you not like dating or hooking up?
How did you know he was the one?
Personally, my relationship isn’t very clear cut. We still don’t really know when our anniversary is. It all started out with the girl living across the hall from me freshman year asked if she could set me up with one of her friends from high school. He came over and we watched a movie with a bunch of our friends.
The night ended with me and him making out on our mutual friend’s bed.
We hung out a few times that week but he ended it by informing me that he wasn’t looking for a girlfriend. I didn’t see or hear from him for 3 months after that! But once I did see him again, we became friends with benefits (for lack of a better term). Neither of us wanted anything serious, and I was perfectly fine with it. I liked kinda/sorta having a guy, but I also liked the idea of not being tied down in college.
But then something happened that neither of us really expected. We went to our respective homes for the summer after freshman year and we talked every. single. day. I even drove 6 hours to spend a weekend with him. We really missed each other! We both kinda realized at the same time that not seeing each other was harder than expected. Once sophomore year rolled around, we were both skittish about broaching the subject, but he (finally!) asked me to be his girlfriend.
Flash forward to now, and we’re living together in our junior year of college. In all honesty, the dating and getting to know one another part of our relationship technically happened before our relationship. Once we became official, we dove in head first! Some might say it’s fast, but I like being young and in love.
With everybody and every relationship, that point where you realize you truly love someone is different. For me, it was noticing that my day just wasn’t complete without seeing or hearing from Matt. For others, it may be when you first say “I love you” or when he sees you without makeup and calls you beautiful. Sometimes you see it coming from a mile away, other times it hits you when you least expect it.
It can be scary because you’re taking yourself off the market; I hated the idea of not being able to flirt with guys at parties anymore! But at the same time it’s comforting because you know you have someone who loves you very much. And when you have that, you realize it’s better than any party makeout session any day.