No matter how many times I lecture my friends about how we, as single girls, need to look cute wherever we go, I can’t seem to follow my own advice.
I was sitting on the stationary bike at the gym yesterday, sweating out my scholastic stress to some Drake, when a cute boy sits on the bike next to me. A very cute boy, whom I happened to see around a lot last year, but never talked to that much. Apparently, I should have biked next to him months ago, because we enjoyed a long long, drawn out, get-to-know-you conversation as we pedaled our little hearts out.
I was so excited and in luuuurve, but instead of focusing on engaging in witty banter, batting my eyelashes, and basically just knocking the socks off this kid, I was wondering if my eye makeup from the day had made its way down my face yet, and if sweat could ever be remotely flattering. I was also questioning my decision to wear bright, floral shorts that rep my school (I thought they were so tacky that they were cute…my friends later informed me that sadly, they were just tacky) with a shirt that completely clashed with them. I was all, “Hell, it’s just the gym, I can go looking crappy and no one will ever be the wiser.”
THAT right there, that sentence, is my problem. Dannia, honey, I feel your pain. I’m here to keep you from having to learn it the hard way: it’s a smart to look adorable no matter where you go.
I’m not saying you need to be completely decked out in your sexiest outfit on the way to class, or vamp it up by using your best smokey eye technique for 9 a.m. lecture. It’s just that when you feel like you look good, that confidence really does come across. People say this all the time, but it can’t be stressed enough: confidence is such an attractive quality! If you’re too lazy or rushed to make yourself feel pretty or good about how you look, people are going to think you’re too lazy to care about anything else. Also, when you don’t have to worry about how you look when you unexpectedly run into someone you want to impress, you can completely focus on the conversation. You don’t want to be asking yourself why you wore ratty sweatpants when he’s asking you if you want to go out on Friday night!
I completely understand wanting to be comfortable. I am the queen of being laid back. I swipe some mascara on for parties or special occasions, but my day-to-day routine revolves around face moisturizer and Chapstick. This isn’t about being someone you’re not, it’s just making sure you present your best self because you never know what will happen. I know that we, as single girls, hear it all the time: “It’ll happen when you least expect it! Don’t go looking for love, let it find you!” But I doubt it’s going to find me when I’m still dirty from last night’s gym sesh and my sweats have a hole in the crotch.
Since we’re unattached, it’s easiest to make a guy’s heart go pitter-patter with our looks first, so it just makes sense to make an effort even though, at times, it can be annoying. So wake up 15 minutes early so you can actually think about what you’re going to wear when you leave your dorm room! You’ll look good, you’ll feel good and you’ll focus on more important things, like school wooing the kid in your Art History lecture.
And now it’s time for me to invest in some new gym clothes…